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Letting Go of Rigid Independence: Why It’s Good to Have Help March 11, 2015 . 12 Comments
Why is it so difficult for some people to allow themselves to be helped? If there was a spectrum on which one end was total independence and the other was complete dependence, where would ... Read More
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4 Ways to Get Out of ‘Mommy Mode’ and Into ‘Partner Mode’ March 3, 2015 . 9 Comments
The transition from being a wife or partner to being a mother with children can be a difficult one. Whereas before you could give all your time and attention to your partner or spouse, ... Read More
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Is It Friendship If You Have Nothing in Common Anymore? February 27, 2015 . 12 Comments
Thanks for your question. I guess the simple and perhaps even smart-alecky answer would be, “Don’t talk about politics and stick to sports!” I have very good friends who disagree ... Read More
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9 Tips for Talking to Teens about Dating and Relationships February 27, 2015 . 19 Comments
It happened. You knew it would, but you didn’t think it would happen so quickly. In spite of any hope you had of slowing down the clock, you woke up one day to find that your child ... Read More
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‘Hoover Maneuver’: The Dirty Secret of Emotional Abuse February 19, 2015 . 162 Comments
People encounter those with narcissism in love, work, and family relationships. When I provide psychotherapy for survivors of narcissistic abuse, one of the first steps in the healing process ... Read More
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5 Keys to Keeping Love Alive through the Graveyard Shift January 28, 2015 . 16 Comments
Editor’s note: How do egalitarian couples with a shared goal of equal partnership navigate differing work demands? In deciding what to address this month for her ongoing series about ... Read More
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You Found Out Your Partner Uses Porn. Now What? January 22, 2015 . 20 Comments
In today’s world, pornography use has become quite common. In fact, 40 million Americans are regular visitors to pornographic sites, 12% of all websites are pornographic in nature, and ... Read More
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Tame Your Emotional Brain and Improve Your Relationship January 21, 2015 . 14 Comments
We like to think we are in charge of our own life, master of our ship. We do in fact have the ability to choose how to act, what we say, who we are—up to a point. Neuroscience gives us ... Read More
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Gaslighting: A Slow-Burning Emotional Abuse Tactic January 21, 2015 . 65 Comments
In my work with people who have survived narcissistic abuse, I find that many have endured a devastating form of emotional abuse called gaslighting. The film Gaslight (1944), starring Ingrid ... Read More
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After 32 Years, I’m Ready to Leave My Wife and Take a Chance January 16, 2015 . 327 Comments
Thank you for reaching out and asking these important questions. I appreciate how hard it is to ask for help and I’m really glad you did. I am going to share my thoughts on your situation ... Read More
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How to Overcome Fear of Rejection December 22, 2014 . 23 Comments
Historically, if a human being did not belong to a social group, he or she would more than likely die due to harsh conditions. It took a village to survive and you needed to be a part of ... Read More
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The Truth about Married Sex: 4 Things Every Couple Should Know December 15, 2014 . 14 Comments
People have it all wrong about married sex. Somehow many Americans have created a fantasy that sex in marriage should look like sex when you’re dating or sex in movies—the type of sex ... Read More