Communication Problems

Why Feeling Unheard Hurts So Deeply Feeling unheard in your relationship can be frustrating, isolating, and exhausting. You might try to talk about your needs, only to be met with defensiveness, ... Read More

It happened. You knew it would, but you didn’t think it would happen so quickly. In spite of any hope you had of slowing down the clock, you woke up one day to find that your child ... Read More

Being unable to speak up at work can have long-lasting negative consequences. It can lead to stress, burnout, or render you almost invisible in a setting where promotions and raises depend ... Read More

“What is wrong with you? This is not how I raised you! I raised you to use your brain!” So went a mom’s reaction when her daughter came to her for help after hurting herself in an ... Read More

For people who define themselves as socially awkward, the perceived risk of being seen in endlessly negative ways—inadequate, ugly, boring, stupid, anxious, depressed, empty, arrogant, ... Read More

Thank you for this question. Handling the extroversion/introversion combination in a couple is something that many couples face. I’ve seen it quite frequently in my practice. Your ... Read More

A rich body of research confirms that men interrupt women more frequently than they interrupt men. According to a new study, though, it’s not just men who are the problem. Both men ... Read More

Before I jump straight to the heart of your question—to divorce or to not divorce—I’d like to take a moment and encourage you to consider some intermediate steps. What I hear you ... Read More

Adults with attention deficit (ADHD) tend to experience problems with relationships. At one time, it was believed that ADD was outgrown by adulthood; however, in 1992 research proved that ... Read More

There are four types of human beings, and I believe each is designed to attend to at least one of four critical areas of need in a functioning human society. The tasks that each temperament ... Read More

First of all, I want to commend you on the great job you have done reflecting on and understanding your feelings around this issue, and on sharing them with your partner. It sounds like ... Read More

is an important aspect of relationships, which can be incredibly complicated. Being in love doesn’t automatically lead to understanding or responding ideally to another person’s needs. ... Read More