Relationships and Marriage

Many couples have at their core a deep and abiding friendship. According to psychologist and researcher Dr. John Gottman, having a strong friendship is one of the most important traits ... Read More

“Is couples therapy actually going to work?” As a couples therapist, I hear this question a lot. And it’s a valid question. When couples come to therapy, they are usually ... Read More

Dear GoodTherapy.org, Not long after my 48th birthday, I started having persistent thoughts about time slipping away, getting old, and letting go of my dreams. The specter of turning 50 ... Read More

Affair discovery is one of the most traumatic things that can happen in a relationship. Many people who have not experienced infidelity do not understand how earth-shattering discovery ... Read More

Dear GoodTherapy.org, I’m bisexual. I had a bunch of boyfriends in middle school. My parents joked I was “boy crazy.” But in high school, I started crushing on a girl in my history ... Read More

In part 1 of this series, we touched upon the blissful and frightening states that can occur when we feel merged with a partner whom we love. These states are drawn from our earliest experiences ... Read More

“NO, that’s NOT what I mean.” “How could you say that?” “I wasn’t finished. Where are you going?” At first glance, sudden and intense misattunement between partners may ... Read More

As a clinician who enjoys working with couples, there’s a sweet satisfaction that comes from hearing partners, possibly for the first time, communicate with openness, vulnerability, ... Read More

Dear GoodTherapy.org, I cheated on my girlfriend. Yes, I’m a cheater and I’ll never live it down. I don’t deserve forgiveness. I don’t deserve her, period! I made the biggest mistake ... Read More

Water is water. Are you thinking, “Of course water is water. What else would it be?” Perfect. If you’re thinking that, you’re already on the right track to understanding ... Read More

When we think of developmental milestones, we often think of children. But a lot of people aren’t aware that we continue to experience change points in life as we grow and age. As part ... Read More

As a couples therapist, I receive a lot of calls from couples in which one partner is either in or recently completed a recovery program. I wish there was a manual to help couples navigate ... Read More