Self-Compassion

Most of the people who come to my office are contemplating a life change or trying to feel better about one that happened recently. They feel stressed and unsure about decisions they have ... Read More

“Some days you eat the bear, some days the bear eats you.” —Iain Matthews Sometimes, we get so mired in our thoughts and feelings we forget to see the bigger picture. When that happens, ... Read More

Andrea woke up feeling great and full of energy. She grabbed a bagel and a coffee on her way to the bus station and ate it on the bus to work. She arrived on time and proceeded to the conference ... Read More

“You yourself, as much as anybody else in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” —Buddha As I write this, I can feel anxiety in my entire body; my legs are restless, ... Read More

Have you ever called yourself “stupid” just because you made a mistake? When you look in the mirror, do you curse your reflection for not being attractive enough? Do you make silent, ... Read More

Feeling empty from time to time may be a normal part of the human condition. But if you experience persistent feelings of emptiness, there may be something you can do about it. What does ... Read More

Being deserving means having an expectation of goodness in your life. It is the goodness of people, relationships, and situations that we all want and deserve in our lifetime. We are all ... Read More

Death is a subject that is generally off-limits in our society. We spend much of our time denying its existence and its inexorable approach, even though we all realize that we will die ... Read More

The world can be a cold and cruel place, and as such, every display of warmth and goodness makes a difference. Performing random acts of kindness for those around you—such as opening ... Read More

Recently, my son told me of a situation he had decided to avoid. To sum it up, he said, “I’d rather protect than subject.” I thought this encompassed many lessons in a ... Read More

“I’m such a loser.” “I can’t do anything right.” “I’m ugly.” Too often, people brutally judge and attack themselves. If everyone treated others as poorly as they treat ... Read More

I see many people who struggle with self-esteem issues. In fact, self-esteem issues and depression almost always occur together. Which one causes the other is not always clear, but the ... Read More