Is It Depression If I Don’t Feel Sad?

contemplationPeople think of depression as really bad sadness, but it’s actually much more complicated. To be diagnosed with depression, a person has to have several (but not all) of the symptoms from a diagnostic list outlined in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM). Sadness is one of these symptoms, but it is possible to have enough other symptoms on the list to be depressed and yet not feel sad.

The list of depression symptoms includes:

Most people who are depressed feel sad, but there are several reasons some people can be depressed without feeling sad. These reasons may include:

  • Numbness: One scenario that causes people to feel depressed without feeling sad is when depression causes them to feel primarily numb. They don’t feel sad, angry, joyful, or really anything at all. They may feel an amorphous misery, but no specific emotion. They may go through the motions of living without the feelings that motivate and satisfy people. This numbness can be experienced as suffering, but in such an ill-defined way that it isn’t identified as sadness.
  • Addictions: Another reason people may not feel sad when they are depressed is the influence of addictions or chemical dependency which prevent them from feeling sad. If a depressed person frequently and compulsively uses alcohol, drugs, other chemicals, sugar, sex, gambling, work, or anything else, he or she may get temporary relief from sadness or even feel euphoric. The person may not realize there is an underlying sadness being suppressed. He or she may feel ups and downs with the chemical variations in the brain, while the chemicals mask the person’s sadness, depression, or whatever else is going on underneath.
  • Anger: Sometimes even without external substances or compulsive activities, people can internally turn sadness into other forms, not recognized as sadness. One of those forms is any other emotion. Anger, especially, is often a transformation of another feeling. When people are more comfortable with anger than they are with sadness (or fear or hurt), they may not even experience sadness before it’s converted to anger.
  • Obsessing: Similarly, people transform sadness into obsessive (compulsively repetitive) thoughts. For example, people think obsessively about someone they have a crush on, something they regret, or whether their stove is turned off. These or any obsessive thought processes turn off the experience of sadness.
  • Somatizing: Another way people transform sadness into another form is through somatizing. Physical pain or illness, such as migraines, digestive problems, or virtually any physical symptoms, can sometimes be a physical experience of sadness that isn’t recognized as sadness. For example, if Nancy’s husband dies and she’s not comfortable or supported in grieving, her back may go into spasm and she may be in such physical pain that she can’t feel sad in a recognizable way—she just feels back pain. In this case, her back pain may be sadness expressed in another form.
  • Illness: Another reason people may be depressed without feeling sad is when they have a physical illness, such as thyroid problems, multiple sclerosis, brain injury or tumor, or inflammatory illnesses. Other than the disease itself, there may be nothing sad in the person’s life, but in some physical way we don’t understand, the illness may create symptoms of depression.
  • Fluctuations: Even people who feel sad, empty, or hopeless when they get depressed may not feel it constantly. Some people get depressed in a way that is not constant. A minority of depressed people can be distracted from their depression for short periods. These people might feel relatively normal during these periods, even if they feel depression with sadness the rest of the time.

Differences between Sadness and Depression

Another important twist is that people can feel sad, even intensely sad, without depression being involved. When people experience a loss, they usually feel sad, but don’t necessarily feel depressed. Sadness and depression have similarities, but they have some important differences.

When people are sad and express their sadness, they feel better, whereas when people are depressed, expressing their pain may not give them relief.

When people are sad and express their sadness, they feel better, whereas when people are depressed, crying and expressing their pain may not give them relief. Sadness doesn’t involve mean thoughts about oneself, or hopeless or suicidal thoughts, but depression often does. Sadness doesn’t involve distortion in perception, or loss of perspective, whereas depression usually does. Finally, sadness doesn’t interfere with feeling other emotions, while depression often prevents a range of specific emotions.

In my experience, most people who are depressed have some sense that something is wrong, and if they don’t, people around them usually do. It really doesn’t matter whether suffering fits neatly into the DSM diagnosis for depression or not.

It’s not necessary to diagnose yourself or your loved ones. If you or someone you love is suffering, get professional help to assess what is causing the suffering and what would help relieve it.

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  • Veronica

    Veronica

    April 29th, 2014 at 3:35 PM

    I had just an overall feeling of lethargy and a non interest in everything. Nothing would get me excited one way or the other, and no matter how much I slept I always felt tired and like I could go back to bed and sleep hours and hours.

  • Kaz

    Kaz

    September 20th, 2016 at 6:46 AM

    Yeah, I can relate. I sometimes choose to switch off any remnants of emotion I have to just settle for a sense of peace. Apparently that’s not healthy to some. Sleeping though. I can sleep for 36+ hrs and lay back down the next night and go right back to sleep. I’ve taken to calling it my needed hibernations heh.

  • Lucy

    Lucy

    August 30th, 2018 at 3:47 AM

    I’m rather worried as I am experiencing almost ALL of these symptoms, I am thoroughly considering seeing a doctor but I almost fear being diagnosed. As well as this, I can’t help but feel that people have it worse or that I’m not completely sad all the time. Most of the time, I don’t even know what I feel. I’ve been crying for no reason lately but my emotion is unclear during crying- everything’s clouded. Could I really have depression if I experience this? It may sound clear that I’m depressed but these emotions are recent and I feel like it’s too soon to tell, yet, I can’t help but feel strongly that this isn’t a phase. Should I wait or suffer with the thought that it’s a phase in mind. Also, do you think I have depression?

  • M

    M

    December 1st, 2016 at 2:51 PM

    Hello. I am a normal person. With a great family. And there is nothing wrong. But for some reason i dont feel myself. Its been like this for three years. I dont tell anyone. But i have all the symptoms except for the eating part. Im cheerful most of the time. I’m addicted to music. I think too much and sometimes i get too much sleep or dont sleep at all. My grades are falling and i have enormous guilt hanging over me. I regret so many things and wish i could turn back time. I dont think this is normal. I’d like to know if im depressed. Please someone tell me

  • Mai

    Mai

    April 5th, 2017 at 3:31 PM

    It would be best to make an appointment with an appointment with a mental health professional. If you’re in college there should be counselor or therapy services (Granted, schools differ in quality: some hire licensed professionals while others make use of graduate students.)
    Keep a record of changed you’ve seen: You said you noticed this 3 years ago? Has your sleep, diet, and, concentration/attention, and activity levels flucuated and/or worsened over the time? While changing interests and discovering new passions is fine and normal, you may want to make a note if any former interests/passions doesn’t stir you at all. (This one is an emotional response, so it’s not that you don’t have time for it (Life gets hectic.), it’s more of a numbness or indifference to it.)

  • M

    M

    May 26th, 2017 at 9:05 PM

    You are a”normal person”?
    There’s your problem.

  • Reyna

    Reyna

    January 16th, 2018 at 2:15 PM

    I dont think I’m depressed or anything, I just og through these waves where I feel really tired and numb. I don’t know what to do to stop it. But then other times I’ll feel good for no reason. If anyone could help me understand whats going on in my head that would be very appreciated.

  • Mbarak

    Mbarak

    April 21st, 2018 at 10:29 AM

    Kindly look into Islam.
    “Unquestionably, in the remembrance of Allah (The One and Only God) do hearts find rest” (Quran 13:28)
    Kindly get a Quran and read through it. Be a critical thinker while reading its verses. Contemplate over its verses. God willing you will find the peace you are seeking. Strive for The Greatest. God is The Greatest

  • Hey

    Hey

    August 15th, 2018 at 12:34 PM

    Hi Mbarak I am Muslim also and I have depression and it doesn’t matter what religion you came from.

  • Nathan

    Nathan

    April 26th, 2018 at 1:38 PM

    Me too I’m 15 and haven’t been able to feel any kind of emotion i don’t know whats wrong with me….

  • caroline

    caroline

    April 30th, 2014 at 7:19 AM

    One thing that has always confused me is how you would know if you are just feeling sad or depressed RIGHT NOW or if this is something that is going to last. And how will you know when a long time is too long and you need to ask for some help? I know there have been days or even weeks when I feel so down and low but then a few days later I will bounce back and feel like my old self again. Is this normal to have those fluctuations like this?

  • maly

    maly

    August 18th, 2015 at 12:37 PM

    I know how you feel im actually going through the exacct same thing right now. for a week or two i will feel really really down and i sometimes have horrible thoughts but in a few days i come back up and im normal again. The only thing is, the days when i feel normal im ALWAYS listening to music. Its like im addicted to music. And i didnt know i was addicted to it until someone was like ‘why do you listen to music so much?’ and i gave it a thought and i realized i was letting out all my emotions out through music. Think about the things you do and think you do more than you think you should. I would spend all day listening to music then go to sleep listening to music wake up in the middle of the night to play music and wake up with music. But i didnt realize till i thought about it. So think about it.

  • Tim

    Tim

    September 29th, 2016 at 8:30 PM

    It is defined as depression if it lasts for 30 days or more. Source: DSM-V

  • Brittany

    Brittany

    August 17th, 2017 at 11:44 AM

    I’m keeping a journal of when I feel like this so I can see how often I really have these thought patterns and behaviors. But yes, I eat too much, either sleep too long and still feel exhausted or don’t sleep at all, I freak out over the tiniest mistakes and sometimes I just go completely numb and it worries me a lot.

  • Cynthia Lubow, MFT

    Cynthia Lubow, MFT

    April 30th, 2014 at 8:53 AM

    Veronica–yes, depression can be just like that, but illnesses can too, so if that happens for more than a few days, especially if nothing happens in your life to cause it, I would suggest seeing your doctor, just to be sure you’re in good health.

    Caroline, it is normal to feel depressed now and then for a few days, while more than a couple weeks is often a more serious issue. On the other hand, what’s important is your suffering, not the medical definitions. If you’re suffering because of something that happens to you, it’s always a good idea to talk with someone who is a non-judgemental, good listener to help the issue resolve and relieve your suffering. If this happens frequently, seeing a therapist might help prevent it from happening so much in the future.

  • Veronica

    Veronica

    April 30th, 2014 at 11:14 AM

    The great thing about seeing a psychiarist was that yes, he dealt with the depression but also encourage me to have some blood work done and come to find out I had a very low acting thyroid too, so we think that this could have been part of the depression too.
    Now I get treatment for both and am feeling better than I have in years. If I had never experienced the lehtargy and sought out some help then I may have never known about the thyroid issue too.

  • trinity

    trinity

    May 1st, 2014 at 3:44 AM

    This is where there is so much misunderstanding about what depression looks like and who is or is not depressed.

    For many people I do think that they are like, well I am still functioning and doing my day to day things so I must not be sick even though they are kind of just going through the motions. What kind of pleasure does this kind of life bring you?

    You deserve more than that and if you would look back then you will probably see that there have been times when you felt so much better than this and that there could be something going on that there is help out there for. It is at least worth talking to someone about, even if they say that there is nothing wrong then it could give you some peace of mind or at least some kind of clear direction in life again.

  • DOriAN

    DOriAN

    May 2nd, 2014 at 3:56 AM

    You know yourself better than anyone else and your friends do too. There is a likelihood that if things don’t feel quite right then they aren’t and you need to get some help with that.
    Being depressed or even just feeling depressed, there is nothing wrong with that nor is it anything shameful. But without seeking help it can be hurtful to you and the people who love you.
    I encourage you to talk to someone even if you feel silly because there might be a really easy answer for you, or at least there may at least just be an answer where for a while all you have felt like you had were questions.

  • tyler M

    tyler M

    May 3rd, 2014 at 4:51 AM

    You said that it is possible to have enough of the other symptoms to qualify as being disgnosed with depression, but if you say that it is possible to be depressed without being sad then it looks like there are a whole host of other things that you have to be in order to get that diagnosis.
    My thing is that either you are or you aren’t, why does it always have to be about some checklist of things that you need to be or experience? Depression is kind of deeper than some checklist, I wouldn’t wnat to think that someone was just checking things off to say if I am clinically depressed or not.
    If someone has sought out help then you have to know that there is something up and they are looking for some answers, not just wanting to know if they fit into some technical mold.

  • Harold

    Harold

    May 5th, 2014 at 3:51 AM

    If you have 1 of the symptoms or 25 of them, then it as least worth talking to someone about.

  • Anonymous

    Anonymous

    May 25th, 2014 at 2:23 PM

    I have pretty much all the symptoms except “thoughts of suicide or suicidal attempts” I still feel that my life is worth living and no matter my relationships don’t work due to my depression.. i still have some reason to live..

  • ela

    ela

    August 30th, 2014 at 8:12 PM

    I..have all except 2-3 I guess..

  • ela

    ela

    August 30th, 2014 at 8:14 PM

    nevermind.. I..wasn’t thinking straight. .

  • Delaney

    Delaney

    October 12th, 2014 at 8:45 PM

    I have all sadly… And I was diagnosed with depression when I was 6, but became numb at 4, I don’t know much different, and medications have stopped working.. I don’t tell anyone anymore

  • Ayn

    Ayn

    October 28th, 2014 at 4:46 AM

    I need help, I am suffering from Severe Clinical depression from Years I don’t have a family (all are dead) I don’t have anyone and I don’t have money

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  • Anon

    Anon

    November 8th, 2014 at 12:08 PM

    I’d just like to add, if someone suggests that they have depression, or even hint at it, don’t let the first thing you do be denying it.

  • Anon

    Anon

    December 1st, 2014 at 4:00 PM

    I can’t really explain what is wrong. I have a good job. Beautiful wife and baby with another one on the way. I feel lethargic, sad, worthless and unappreciated but with no reason. I have thought about what it would be like if I wasn’t here but don’t neccessarily have the guts to do anything. I just feel as if my world is collapsing sometimes and I can’t do a single thing to stop it.

    I am 37 with no real history of depression or sadness. I am the happy one as far as people can tell which makes it harder to talk to anyone. I feel useless as a parent and terrible as a husband.

    I want the pain to go away but have no idea how to make it happen. I can’t risk jeopardising my career or my home life.

    Life is just crap at the moment but I keep hoping that tomorrow will be a better day. Some days it is.

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    December 2nd, 2014 at 10:48 AM

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  • Blanca

    Blanca

    October 25th, 2016 at 3:39 PM

    The first thing you should do is call unto Jesus Christ, our Savior; ask him about your feelings. Ask Him what you need to do. The word of God says, He does not hear a sinner’s prayer, but He will listen if you repent. Please repent of all your sins, even if you don’t believe you have comImitted any. Obviously, we are all sinners. It’s why He died in the cross, to take our punishment and redeem our souls unto himself. Then, you should ask God for his guidance about finding a psychotherapist to help you sort out your thoughts and give you their perspective as to why you are feeling this way. God bless you, and I pray everything will work out for you.

  • kmb

    kmb

    October 26th, 2016 at 11:32 AM

    You need to keep religion out of this thread. Depression is real. If people could will or think their way out of it, they would. Telling someone that all they need to do is talk to some invisible, long-since-dead person is not helpful, and can make the situation worse by belittling people’s real feelings and pain. Who’s to say this man isn’t already a devout believer? Who’s to say his God didn’t somehow lead him to this group because THIS is where he will find the help HE needs? Who’s to say he hasn’t already been to a priest, minister, pastor, imam, rabbi, monk, etc.? You certainly are not the one to say so. I’m one to say, “Thank God for therapists and psychiatrists and psychologists”, because THEY have helped me and millions of other people.

  • Michael

    Michael

    January 10th, 2017 at 9:01 AM

    I’m not sure I agree with the first reply completely. But, I have to say God gave us physicians so we should take advantage of them. That said, the help Jesus can provide in our moments of need cannot be overstated. The truth is, God does hear the prayers of all people, including those who aren’t Christians. How else could we ever be saved of he doesn’t listen to those who are not believers .. yet. Our faith can do miraculous things for us, including curing depression and other diseases. It’s not will power, confidence or some other nonsense. It’s a tangible, usable power that we can all have. So, I believe anyone who is still seeking help for their health issues can only find help by looking into what Jesus can do for them.

  • Michael

    Michael

    January 10th, 2017 at 9:04 AM

    My previous comment was not worded properly. My last sentence should have said … seeking Jesus’ help can only help the situation, not hurt it. I see doctors too, but my faith is what has kept everything in perspective.

  • Nikki

    Nikki

    March 14th, 2017 at 6:18 AM

    I have a question …why are you here ?…while I believe in Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior, I too have felt depression and sadness and am wondering if I a suffering with it or just going through a rough patch …But I can also say being told to REPENT and seek God (while I don’t object ) SOMETIMES only add to the guilt and feelings of NOT being good enough only to further deepen your depression trust me I know…Depression makes you feel guilty confused and lost at times ..So why are you here giving advice that may only make a person focus on how disappointed God might be with them based on their Mis-interpretation of your comment…I understand what you meant but others that don’t know Christ or haven’t accepted Him into their lives may only feel worse..And not one time did you say or admit that you know your advice works because God delivered you so your advice or comment could really come off as judgement.. My advice to you is when “WITNESSING” try and be more sympathetic and He died on the cross not IN the cross so that we could Boldly come to the throne of GRACE with no judgement or condemnation… But some peopl don’t know that Maybe next time start off with asking HAVE YOU EXCEPTED Jesus Christ into your Heart ?? NOT REPENT that’s the problem non Christians have with Christians we come off as we got it all together.. All the while suffering just like everyone else. Immnit cindeming you I’m just asking you to think one Believer to another!…Peace and Blessings.

  • Anon

    Anon

    December 27th, 2014 at 7:33 AM

    Lately I’ve been feeling really strange. I haven’t really enjoyed things, and I’m not sure why. I have legitimately no reason to be depressed. I am an over privileged teenager who has great family and friends. But lately something has been putting me down. I get mad at my self because I feel like I’m being selfish, or silly for feeling this why. But I can’t seem to shake the feeling

  • Michelle

    Michelle

    January 12th, 2015 at 4:47 PM

    Have been diagnosed with major depressive disorder and have also been suffering with emotional marital abuse recently.

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  • Debbi k

    Debbi k

    February 21st, 2015 at 11:11 AM

    Is it possible to be depressed without knowing? Looking at why I am like I am for last 16 years I meet quite a lot
    Of points on ‘ signs of depression ‘ checklist. I work and function quite well but I have socially isolated myself for years and find such situations scary. I am ok if there is a purpose I.e. Helping someone, doing my job.
    16 years ago I went through a divorce and had two days where I felt ‘ depressed’ but then rallied out of it.
    I have some obsessions, swings of craziness.
    I have withdrawn from life apart from going to work!
    I don’t want medication….any ideas?

  • Cc

    Cc

    March 5th, 2015 at 10:03 PM

    I have been generally depressed for about 2-3 years at the begining of last year I almost got raped and was mellested but I thought I was over that I went to therepy for a year and hated every moment of it I now cut myself for now generally reason and I sleep a lot or I don’t sleep at all for days my boyfriend Is the only one that knows I don’t really want any one to know I’m kinda used to it now and I don’t know what to do I don’t want to be on pills or talk to any one honestly I would rather be in a dark room where no one bothers me for years

  • Kadiska

    Kadiska

    May 14th, 2015 at 7:30 AM

    Hi Cc. It sounds like you have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. This is treatable, for sure, but does require work to regain yourself. But think how wonderful it would be to be able to sleep properly, and to want to also be in rooms that are well-lit and happy?
    It is possible to be like that again. It just takes time, and some work.
    It sounds like you have lost yourself temporarily, and although it seems like forever, it doesn’t have to be. And, why should your molester win by taking your light away?!
    I, myself, have lost too many years myself, so I know.
    But, it is possible. To get yourself back. To be normal and happy again.
    There is always, ALWAYS hope!

  • Cc

    Cc

    March 10th, 2015 at 1:00 AM

    I want to die

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    March 10th, 2015 at 8:48 AM

    Dear Cc,

    We received the comment that you submitted on our blog earlier today. Thank you so much for visiting GoodTherapy.org. If you are experiencing a life-threatening emergency, in danger of hurting yourself or others, feeling suicidal, overwhelmed, or in crisis, it’s very important that you get immediate help! You can do one of the following immediately:

    • Call your local law enforcement agency (911);
    • Go to the nearest hospital emergency room;
    • Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 (TTY:1-800-799-4TTY)

    The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is equipped to take a wide range of calls, from immediate suicidal crisis to providing information about mental health. Some of the reasons to call are listed below: • Call to speak with someone who cares;
    • Call if you feel you might be in danger of hurting yourself;
    • Call to find referrals to mental health services in your area;
    • Call to speak to a crisis worker about someone you’re concerned about.

    If you are a victim of domestic violence, you can call your local hotline and/or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE (7233) (TTY 1−800−787−3224)

    RAINN provides support for sexual assault victims and their loved ones through two hotlines at 800.656.HOPE and Online.RAINN.org. Whether you are more comfortable on the telephone or online, RAINN has services that can guide you in your recovery.
    • The National Sexual Assault Hotline: If you need support, call 800.656.HOPE, and you will be directed to a rape crisis center near your area.
    • The National Sexual Assault Online Hotline: is the first secure web-based crisis hotline providing live and anonymous support through an interface as intuitive as instant messaging.
    • For more information visit http://rainn.org/get-help/national-sexual-assault-online-hotline.

    Warm regards,
    The GoodTherapy.org Support Team

  • Anon

    Anon

    March 27th, 2015 at 8:26 PM

    After more than 6 years of a very difficult work/life situation (battling depression the whole time) I finally landed a new fantastic job that involved a move to another state. Since I moved, my life has changed dramatically and 100% for the better–great job, lovely community, new car, beautiful apartment, even a wonderful unexpected relationship with someone who loves me like no one ever has before.

    As wonderful as it appears from the outside, I don’t “feel” happy. When I got the job offer (after 4 years of excruciatingly stressful unemployment), I felt *nothing*. I always thought when I finally got a job I’d hear a symphony, the air would smell of roses, the birds would sing louder, colors would be more vibrant etc… But *nothing* happened. Were my expectations too high? Not that I was disappointed. Just surprised that I didn’t react to it.

    Even when I left my home of 12 years and all my friends (and drove off, alone, on a 3 day road trip to my new life), I felt nothing–no homesickness, no excitement, no sadness, no nervousness, just nothing.

    My Dr. has suggested that being in ‘survival mode’ for so long it’s no wonder I’m having trouble feeling something now after such a dramatic change in lifestyle (it’s hard to go from despair to elation overnight). But I’m worried now that this very strange state of mind will never end and could threaten my relationship. My new beau doesn’t understand depression and it’s hard to explain to someone what it feels like to NOT feel anything. And then to explain that it’s not just him/our relationship; I ‘feel’ this way about everything in my life. My therapist says she can tell in my face and my demeanor when I talk about my love that I do love him (she described it as ‘a softening’ of my face, body language, voice), and I know intellectually that I want to spend the rest of my life with him (we’re both in our 40s, so we’re no spring chickens and we both waited this long to find the perfect person and there’s no doubt we are absolutely perfect for each other), and I have no trouble SHOWING him that I love and want to be with him, but I just don’t *feel* it, at least not in a way that I think I ‘remember’ what feeling happy feels like. (Confused yet?!?!)

    I’m now increasing my medication dosage (I was on 75 mg of Effexor and we’re on our way up to 150, currently at 112.5 to see how it affects me) hoping beyond all hope that it’ll bring me back to ‘normal’. I long more than anything to FEEL something. And I think I seek out strong negative emotions just so I can feel something (strong negative emotions are what I’ve been most familiar with in the last 10 years so I know how to feel that). It’s like the only time I feel something is when I feel sad. And I like it because at least it’s an emotion! So to me, feeling “happy” seems to mean the absence of feeling sad. But not FEELING happy….

    Sigh… I don’t want to continue to be in this state. I’ve come through an extremely trying time in my life and I survived and came out on top in so many ways. But I don’t know what more to do about it. I don’t know if the new meds dosage is making me more depressed (which can sometimes happen, though not typically in people of my age group), or perhaps it’s bringing me out of depression enough that I can at least ‘feel’ sadness–which beats feeling nothing at all.

    OH THIS IS SO INFURIATINGLY CONFUSING! My therapist and my Dr. say they’re confident I’ll get my mojo back. I fear I never will and all I want to do is assure my dear love that I do love him with all my heart and all my emotion and reassure him that I’m in this as much as he is.

    Does anyone have any guidance? I’ll be following up with my Dr. and therapist again soon. What questions should I be asking them? Could the meds be making me depressed? Is it possible that it’s bringing me out of depression enough that I’m just relearning how to feel anything and for now, sadness is what I remember? How can I help my boyfriend understand depression, and to not take my lack of emotion personally?

    I realize this was a long message, but I’m hoping that (a) others can identify with what I’ve said as much as I’ve identified with earlier messages in this thread so they know they’re not alone, and (b) someone can provide me with some good suggestions for how to proceed, especially when discussing things with my Dr. and therapist.

  • Kadiska

    Kadiska

    May 14th, 2015 at 7:21 AM

    Hi Anon! I wanted to respond to your message because I know exactly how you feel, so much so that it helped ME! Thank you for that.
    I am engaged and life has improved drastically for me, after some earth-shattering circumstances that basically changed my life, and me, so that neither is recognizable to me hardly at all. So much loss!
    But great things have happened, yet they feel so distant. Even these positive things feel like they’re happening to someone else…
    This is what I believe is happening to us: I think that, just like you said, being in survival mode has affected us; I believe that it has seriously affected our brains, recharging the neurological pathways into a deep and accustomed groove. I believe that we have now programmed ourselves to feel nothing, really.
    I DO believe that we can change it up, by recharting the neurological pathways by relearning how to be happy and joyful. I think that the more happy things we do, and the more deeply we can get ourselves to feel them, and the more often, the healthier and deeper new neurological pathways can be formed.
    Keeping a journal of happy things helps. I believe we have to allow these lovely things to settle into our bones, and minds, and hearts. I believe that drugs and therapy will help.
    I believe that there is hope, endless and amazing hope.

  • Karen

    Karen

    July 21st, 2016 at 4:41 PM

    Hi, were you unable to feel towards your partner before the Effexor? Effexor can reduce your love and romantic feelings for your partner and cause sexual difficulties.

  • Anon

    Anon

    July 22nd, 2016 at 11:55 AM

    Hi Karen. I’ve been on the effexor for a couple of years now, since before I met my beau, and before I met him, I was ‘happily single’ and never in a million years thought I would find someone. We are still together, and planning to get married, and yes, my ‘non-feeling’ affect still remains. I have read about possible sexual side effects and that has made me wonder as well. I’m still on the higher dosage. I don’t think it made all that much difference (for the better) so in my next appointment I’m going to ask about reducing the dosage back to the 75mg, or again ask about getting off of it for good… though that’s a risky move since I am one of the lucky ones who have dealt with serious bouts of depression for almost as long as I can remember (the first I recall occurring in 7th or 8th grade, completely ignored by my family and teachers, I might add, as were my next serious bouts in high school… it’s a wonder I’m still here, really.) Nevertheless, my life overall is so much more stable than it ever has been on every level of my existence (home, family, work) so a part of me would like to cease taking meds altogether. I suppose in a way it’s not all that different to trying a different medication–the time it takes to wean off of one, then get onto another and try it for some time before seeing if it works is always the worst part. But maybe I need a new ‘clean’ baseline upon which to make further decisions about medication. I’d like to try not being on meds for at least a year. If things spiral out of control within 6 months then I’ll know, this should/will be a permanent part of my life. But if not, with a new outlook on life, perhaps I’ll be able to develop some more healthy coping skills that will enable me to live without medication. Unfortunately, it’s all a chemical Heisenberg Uncertainty situation…. you can never know the state you’d be in in both cases at the same time; there’s no contemporaneous way to compare on vs. off meds. All I can do is what I feel is best for me. Actually, it might be more interesting to get off the effexor to see if my emotions do seem to reprogram, as the previous commenter suggested. If that’s what happens, that’s the only way to know that the meds are flattening my affect. But again, it could take a couple of years to really make that assessment.

  • Curiar78

    Curiar78

    April 29th, 2017 at 6:25 AM

    Yes, I experienced exactly what you are describing a decade ago. It preceeded a spiritual awakening on my part, was the catalyst for my seeking of truth. That numbness. I now experience the full range of emotions again, sometimes even magnified! Following my joy is what lifted the veil of numbness for me. It happened over time, not immediately. Do what YOU feel like doing, listen to that little voice inside of you and disregard the reasons your head tells you you can’t do it. Start small. Walk in the rain when you feel like it. Take off your shoes outside. Tell a colleague “no.” Laugh when you’re not supposed to. Attend that far away lecture you think you don’t have time for. Take an art class. Best of luck to you!!!!

  • Cristian

    Cristian

    April 3rd, 2015 at 9:38 PM

    I have about more than half the symptoms I read at the top. I didnt know but I’ve been depressed for years. I found out I was depressed when my family and friends started telling me I acted like a depressed person, but they didn’t want to say anything. I denied it for a while but then started to notice it was true. I had friends and family growing up and I stood up for myself. But I acted like a tough guy, like nothing phased me, but deep inside I had and still have alot of pain and anger inside. I hate when people feel sorry for me so I hid my true feelings. My mother raised three kids on her own and me and my siblings are super close… but I think that the problems in my mothers life caused her to make mistakes. She didn’t really notice what she was doing but she made me not do certain things because she was afraid. I wanted to box, it was a no, music no and the things she said yes to she was not interested in. Im older now so I understand more but I constantly think of the experiences I missed out on and the chances I missed. My passion is to draw and create video games and get into graphic design to express myself, but I am afraid to do anything. I get hyped for like a week and get lethargic and get negative thoughts in my head. At night I can’t sleep thinking of mistakes I made and things I should’ve done differently. Honestly right now I feel like deleting this and not posting it. I love to make people laugh even though I feel bad and I like to make people feel good even though I don’t. But then I look at the really horrible disgusting things some people do and the twisted world we live in and start thinking about death. I mean its gonna happen so what’s the point, is what I say in my head. And at times I think of how much better it would be if I was gone… I look at what im writing right now and think, why the hell am I writing this? But I recognize I need help and I want it but when I come close I push help away. I know I can do so much, get fit, get a girlfriend, get my dream career, but it seems so far away. Even some girls I dated showed me never to trust people.. And I always ask the same question.. why am I so damn depressed…

  • Anon

    Anon

    April 6th, 2015 at 12:45 PM

    Cristian… you are SO not alone in this. So many of the things you expressed I too experience or have experienced on a daily basis; especially the regrets over missed opportunities, chances not taken, and the ‘mistakes’ that I feel I’ve made that led to these regrets. I recognized my struggle with depression as a teen, though my family was also in complete denial, so I dealt with it completely alone for DECADES. Some years better than others. It was only in my 30s that I finally felt like I could confront these demons and seek help for me. Furthermore, it was also a time when I realized that I no longer cared what my family thought and I refused to hide the fact that I’ve had a long-standing illness (which they chose to ignore…and still do). I needed to do something for me.

    In your case, I would definitely start with a good therapist. It might take you meeting 2 or 3 over a few months to find the right one, but I really encourage you to stick to it. It’s a first and very good step to getting your life back and to finding the life you truly want.

    On another note, know that there are people out there you can trust…I’m sorry you’ve had such a bad experience with those relationships. I avoided relationships altogether my entire life…until just 6 months ago when someone truly wonderful practically fall in my lap. I wasn’t looking for a relationship, never considered it an important aspect of my life plan. And yet here it is, and I’m so very grateful…though I am still learning how to trust this person and to realize that he’s here to support me and help me through whatever I go through. I’m having to educate him about depression (something he’s never had any close encounters with so it’s very confusing to him), but I’m being patient and actually sharing some journal entries that no one else has seen… it’s the only way I can help him to understand what I go through. I see him struggling to understand, but the fact that he is struggling to understand is really wonderful and reassuring.

    Anyway, all of that is to say that I’m 44 years old and it may have taken a long time to find the perfect person for me, but we’ve found each other and it WAS MOST CERTAINLY WORTH THE WAIT! You shouldn’t worry about relationships right now. You should focus on you, and you feeling well, and as soon at that happens, you will attract the right people. I promise. There’s no hurry. You’ve spent a long time (so it seems) dealing with this illness on your own. It’s right and fair for you to also spend a long time taking care of yourself. It’s never too late.

    The fact that you wrote your letter here means you are ready… or at least ready enough to share and entertain the idea. Find a therapist or counselor soon. Do it for YOU. Give yourself permission to voice your regrets and doubts and allow someone to help you through them. It can be hard once you start (I really didn’t open up fully to my therapist for probably a year, but I kept going realizing that I really wanted to open up and maybe ‘this time’, I’d be able to. Once I did, it became so much easier.) And I also promise you that people who become therapists really do want to help you. It’s okay to let them. I mean, if you saw someone trip down a flight of stairs, you would surely run to help them up again. There’s no difference here. It is okay to accept the help when someone offers a hand. Forget everyone else and what they may think. You know you best of all and what you need. Perhaps going out and getting the help you want will also serve to show you that you can go out and get other things in life. Start with this one little step. You won’t regret it.

  • Trevor G

    Trevor G

    April 25th, 2015 at 9:59 AM

    I’ve felt pretty bad these last few months. like constantly busy and my parents have been yelling at me so much. t.b.h. i deserve some of it because i have missed a few homework assignments. but even with those complete their still mad even when i get an A. anyways i just fell so burned out. so i thought i could feel better on spring break. that kept me going for like 3 weeks. the thought of spring break coming up! i felt great on spring break, relaxing, exercising, swimming, sun, the literal day i got back i hit a wall. i just felt so hollow inside. its been a month since spring break and i still feel like this, just i.d.k. extremely unmotivated, tired no matter how much sleep i got, I’ve gained some weight that i’m trying desperately to get off. its not like i feel sad. i’m not like crying all the time i just feel hopeless. if that even. i guess its more like hallow. empty. and i feel like this for like a good 3/5 of the day. the only time i don’t feel like this is when i’m hanging out with my friends or exercising. anyways i told my parents about it and they kinda laughed it off and said i was just worried about school. maybe i am i.d.k. anymore. well any feedback would be much appreciated.
    Thanks,
    Trevor

  • Trevor G

    Trevor G

    April 25th, 2015 at 10:02 AM

    oh and just one more thing. I’ve never been diagnosed with depression or add or anything, so my feels have kinda caught me out of the blue. I’ve never felt like this before expect for about a month last fall. but before this freshman year I’ve literally never felt like this. I’ve been bullied and sick and that felt better than how i feel now.

  • Anon

    Anon

    April 27th, 2015 at 1:56 PM

    Trevor. I don’t know if you’re in high school or college, but either way, there are counselors available for you to talk to about this. It’s sad how some families either don’t take these things seriously or simply can’t deal with it (my family was/is still that way). When I was in high school I was hit extremely hard by a serious bout of depression. My family did nothing for me (despite the obvious signs…including the discovery of a suicide note) and they were in complete denial leaving me to deal with it all on my own.

    I managed somehow to seek counseling at school and I had one friend who knew everything and was truly a lifeline for me. But I didn’t seek ‘real’ help until I was well into adulthood. I wish more than anything that I could’ve opened up and sought truly professional help (i.e., not just a high school guidance counselor) when I was that young. I suspect my life would have unfolded very differently.

    All of that is to say: DO NOT HESITATE TO SEEK THE HELP YOU KNOW YOU NEED ON YOUR OWN. YOU KNOW YOURSELF BETTER THAN ANYONE AND IF THIS EMPTY, HOLLOW, HOPELESS FEELING CONCERNS YOU, I IMPLORE YOU TO TALK TO SOMEONE ABOUT IT. IF YOUR FAMILY DOESN’T GET IT, I’M SORRY. BUT YOU NEED TO DO THIS FOR YOU AND NOT FOR THEM. Don’t waste the time that I did. It may not be easy, or maybe it will. If it is just a temporary setback, counseling will help you recognize that, and either way, they’ll provide you with some coping strategies to make it through this difficult period. They will be able to help you understand why you’re feeling this way. Use this as an opportunity to really learn about who YOU are, what makes you tick, and how you want your life to unfold in the best way possible. Be selfish. Talk to someone for your benefit. You will not regret it. I promise you that.

  • Babz

    Babz

    May 5th, 2015 at 10:28 AM

    Hi, I have some syptoms. I am 28 yrs old have a beautiful 2 yr old daughter and a loving husband of 8yrs who supports me in every way he can. I just have no energy, dont enjoy things I used to and dont feel happy or excited, even when there is something I should be excited about, i dont play with my little girl like I should, we dont spend much time outside because the garden is overgrown and Im worried about snakes, scorpions etc. I am a stay at home Mom too. I live in Zimbabwe. Thats at the bottom of africa near south africa, our economical situation here isnt so great for everyone, but we eat 3 meals a day have electricity and running water and a decent house. When I think about our lives 10 years from now I feel we will still be in the same place doing the same thing, My friends are all single and either have no kids or their kids have grown and left home, the one friend I do have with little ones is my husbands boss’ wife. I dont go out at all, just once a week to do shopping and then home again, partly because I have bad floridosis of the teeth so i dont smile much, im embarassed about them. Dont have the money to go to dentist for replacments. I just needed to get that off my chest. Maybe Im just lazy idk.. Thanks 4 listening

  • Kadiska

    Kadiska

    May 14th, 2015 at 6:47 AM

    Hi, Babz! I am sorry you are feeling bad. I can understand the not wanting to smile thing, due to the floridosis, because of problems I have had with my teeth in the past. I looked it up and did some research: your teeth certainly don’t need to be replaced! They don’t even need veneers. Teeth can now be carefully buffed, over a series of visits, and bleaching done. Then you sleep every night with bleaching trays for a few weeks. It is amazing, the difference! This is the latest technique.
    Meanwhile, most people love to receive a smile, and any reasonable person (not petty) does not concern themselves too much with what your teeth look like. A smile, especially one that includes the eyes, says so many positive things to people. And your husband and daughter: I’m sure they love it when you smile!
    It may be a few years before you can get your teeth done. It would be a shame if you prevented yourself from smiling until then! Smiling helps your own mood, so much.
    Sure, you might get someone commenting on your teeth, but I promise you that is their insecurities and should never be something you let touch you.
    Just concentrate on smiling whenever you want, to show affection or joy or love or happiness or appreciation, and I guarantee that your mood will begin to pick up.
    Like I said, I’ve been there.

  • Anon

    Anon

    May 14th, 2015 at 12:36 PM

    Kadisha. In response to your message #33…

    You are so right. I too believe that our brains were reprogrammed due to difficult circumstances where feeling happy ultimately meant crushing disappointment later, each time being more and more difficult to manage. It was just too risky to feel happiness. So we stopped… even when there were things that made us laugh… I long for those times when I *FELT* happiness in my gut, in my soul.

    It’s funny you mention journaling because my new counselor also suggested the exact form that you described. I haven’t done it yet, but seeing your email is prompting me to start that today. I have a notebook at my desk and as soon as I finish my reply here, I’m going to start writing down the little things in my day that make me smile. Like watching the birds right outside my window building their nests (babies soon to arrive!), the sudden appearance of purple wild flowers painting two slopes of the ‘mountain’ I see in front of me, the beautiful clouds and the shadows they cast on that same mountain, the little bunny rabbit I see every afternoon out for a stroll and a meal, the remarkable rain storm we had for over 12 hours–remarkable because I live and work in a desert climate and rain in the desert is a magical thing, the love-of-my life’s soft reassuring kisses. There is so much to be thankful for an happy about. Including, now, your reply to my message above. It has inspired me to take back a little bit of control over my own happiness. Thank you for that. I hope you continue to nurture and grow your own garden of happiness in your life. It’s nice to know I’m not alone.

  • Sophie ...

    Sophie ...

    June 16th, 2015 at 3:25 AM

    Can depression be brought on by being overwhelmed or uncomfortable???

  • Emma

    Emma

    July 29th, 2015 at 7:15 PM

    I’m only 13 and I feel like I have clinical depression, I’m restless, fatigued, emotionally numb, etc. The only symptoms that I don’t experience are suicidal attempts, self-harm, and loss of interest. So I don’t know if I can really classify it as depression. I also think I have a form of anxiety, too.

  • Brittney

    Brittney

    October 6th, 2015 at 7:01 PM

    Well Emma it sounds like we are in the just about the same position. Isn’t it ironic how when you are depressed you had the sadness and then you feel numb and hate it even more.

  • Anon

    Anon

    July 29th, 2015 at 9:50 PM

    Emma. I remember starting to have the symptoms of depression before I was 13 years old. More than anything I wish now that I would have talked to someone about it then before it turned into a truly life-altering condition. I didn’t have family to turn to. If you do, you need to try to muster the courage to tell someone in your family whom you trust. Or talk to a favorite teacher or guidance counselor. Really what saved me were a couple of teachers (in high school) and a guidance counselor…and the parent of a dear friend of mine. But certainly not my own family, which was in complete denial that I was experiencing such emotional pain and turmoil. Please talk to someone soon. If the first person doesn’t ‘get it’, talk to someone else. Keep talking until someone hears what you are saying and can help you figure out what’s going on.

  • Chazz

    Chazz

    August 29th, 2015 at 8:57 AM

    Hi,
    I haven’t been feeling good about myself for about a year now. It got worse when I didn’t get accepted into the schools that I applied to. I am quite cheerful and I am that person that talks a lot or makes the place lively. But every now and then I feel really bad; I am my biggest critic and I am incredibly rigid, I also have added weight and for some reason I sleep a lot and overeat. Most times I feel really tired and that does not happen on a normal day because I am very hardworking. I have also made myself distant from socialising, I don’t chat on normal social networks because it would have to make me put up my pictures and I feel that at the moment I don’t look good enough to take pictures. I also hate taking pictures, I’d rather be behind the camera than be in the the picture. I don’t go out and I have great difficulty fininshing what I start. I also am not confident and I feel that every compliment I get is made just to make me feel better and not actually true so I don’t accept compliments. Things haven’t really been going smoothly and it’s as if I’m not good enough. I don’t appreciate the good parts of my body and if you told me to tell you the things I hate about myself I would without hesitation or thinking tell you 20 but for the good parts, that I would think about for some minutes. I feel I’m smart, no, I know I’m smart but I have really bad insecurities. I never knew I was depressed because I don’t show the signs of depression until I read up on depression and I had like 5 symptoms of being depressed without knowing it. I also have a lot of thoughts of how I want myself but whenever I start up a diet journey or trying-to-get-myself-back-on-track journey, I slack. I feel better writing this out because I haven’t told anyone about this and what I’m going through. Thanks a lot for creating this forum.

  • nova

    nova

    September 8th, 2015 at 2:04 PM

    i have been feeling so depressed for a while now. i fluctuate between eating everything in sight to not eating for days. i had plans to move for my health but have no money to do so. i found out that i have caused my fiance distress by wanting to move. he has worked so hard to be where he is in his job and he loves what he does. if we move he would have to start over. i dont think i can do this to him… i want him to be happy with what he does in life even if that doesnt include me. after hearing his feelings about moving and finding a new job i got so depressed i took a triple shot of everclear and went to bed. i didnt get out of bed until 1:30pm and now i dont know what i can do to be happy because i wouldnt be happy staying here with him even if he is happy with his job, i cant be happy knowing i took his dreams away, and i cant be happy without him. so i took one of my ambien hoping to stop feeling so depressed, but i know it wont help in the long run. it just seems like i am just prolonging my eventual suicide.

  • The GoodTherapy.org Team

    The GoodTherapy.org Team

    September 8th, 2015 at 8:18 PM

    Thank you for your comment, Nova. We wanted to provide links to some resources that may be relevant to you here. We have more information about what to do in a crisis at https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html

    Warm regards,
    The GoodTherapy.org Team

  • Devan

    Devan

    September 13th, 2015 at 7:59 AM

    I don’t feel sad, but I noticed lately that I rather don’t feel anything at all and I’ve lost interest in doing anything. It’s weird to me but I’ve really secluded myself from people and only go to work and sleep. I don’t even know if it’s really an issue. It’s just weird and I’m not sure if it’s normal or not.

  • snehal

    snehal

    September 24th, 2015 at 1:50 PM

    I have this numbness since couple of years now. I am never ecstatic or extremely angry. There is nothing to look forward nor anything which makes me excited. Every day is just a passing day for me. Nothing makes me happy or accomplished. Just feel high for a fleeting moment and suddenly the next moment it passes away. I have tried several times to diagnose this issue I have but can’t. Do not have the will to go for counceling as I am sure it won’t do me any good. Not sure whether it’s actually an issue or not.

  • Brittney

    Brittney

    October 6th, 2015 at 7:08 PM

    I guess it’s my turn to put down my story…. I am 13 and I have depression and anxiety. Only I can’t get help with it because #1 I am afraid of being put in a mental institution and #2 I can’t trust anyone. I have trouble sleeping, I can’t concentrate, I have a bad memory, I feel numb, I feel stuck, and I feel worthless. I don’t even know if anyone cares but I thought I would go ahead and put down my story. By the way,I knoe I’m young but 50% of people who have mental illnesses have symptoms before they turn 14. Bye for now I guess.
    -13 and depressed

  • RiseInspirePersevere

    RiseInspirePersevere

    October 15th, 2015 at 4:28 PM

    You wouldn’t be put in a mental institution unless the people around am you are unable to deal with something they can’t understand. If you have access to a counselor at your school I would suggest starting there. I’ve dealt with depression and anxiety for as long as I can remember, even before the age of 13. I’d love to tell you it gets better, but I can’t. This is because that is my experience, I have struggled very long, and it seems like I’m stuck in an endless cycle. The other reason I can’t tell you is because for others it does get better. With therapy, and other methods (I personally don’t like meds but more natural remedies) a lot of people find resolution. I think this is something I will be working on for my whole life, so that is why I can not tell you it will get better. But you are the one who can tell yourself that it gets better. Don’t ever give up, and if I could tell you this in person I would. Never ever give up no matter how bad because believe me I’ve been to the very bad and you’re going to want to continue on. DONT EVER GIVE UP. Always use counseling to help yourself, never turn to drugs or alcohol because that will make you feel worse. I wish you the best, I truly do

  • Kathryn

    Kathryn

    October 8th, 2015 at 8:23 PM

    I show just about every sign of depression, except I don’t have suicidal thoughts. This is preventing me from getting checked for depression, since I think if I don’t want suicide I either don’t have depression or it isn’t putting me in actual danger so it is not serious enough to worry my parents about it. I am trying to make my mom aware without straight up telling her, so she can make it her own choice to get it checked, but she says every kid my age goes through this stage. Should I tell? Is it possible to have depression without suicidal thoughts? (13 F)

  • Rihana B.

    Rihana B.

    October 24th, 2015 at 9:10 AM

    I never really knew if I was depressed and to be fair I still don’t. Yes, I do feel more tired than I usually do and yes I’ve become a lot quieter in public, but because I don’t have suicidal thoughts I always thought I don’t have depression. Every now and then, specifically at least a few times a month I cry over the same thing. And I usually have this dark cloud above me, which makes me feel sad all the time without even knowing. I don’t know if I’m just sad or I’m in some way depressed b cause I’ve been feeling hopeless and suffered with slight anxiety since I was 12.

  • Emma

    Emma

    October 31st, 2015 at 9:00 AM

    I left a comment on here a while back and someone replied. I took her advice, but no one will believe me. Not even my family. Just because I’m a teenager doesn’t mean that I can’t be depressed. I know this particular stage in life is when the hormones kick in, but this is not it. I really believe I am depressed to a certain degree. The only people I find that seem to understand this are people on the internet who are going through the same thing. People in my family just don’t seem to understand that just because I don’t self-harm that I’m not depressed. That I’m just fine and dandy. But that’s a gross stereotype. Not everyone who is depressed self-harms

  • Curtis

    Curtis

    November 2nd, 2015 at 4:30 PM

    I am a 16 year old boy, since my girlfriend broke up with me I’ve felt most of these symptoms… I’ve never been the type of person to cut themselves but for the first time in my life I had forgotten about my problems while doing so. I also can’t sleep very well whenever I try to sleep all I can think about is her getting with someone else although it’s selfish she promised to me that she would always love me and be there for me… I was so sad I started turning to drugs, lsd cocaine mushrooms cannabis mdma speed… Because they take my mind away from the bad things in my life and make me feel okay about myself… I really need someone to explain to me how to stop loving someone because my life is falling down on me, it’s so hard because I go to school with her as well… Today I stayed off school and wrote out a bunch of letters to my family members because I was going to try and kill myself because the pain was so bad, I had 32 paracetamol and a glass of water just staring at me I sat there for atleast an hour just waiting for someone to speak to me and nothing. I realised I couldn’t do it but the thought still hasn’t left my head it’s eating at me, I can’t eat sleep or do anything that would change my mood my life must be over. I wish I wasn’t born this all hurts too much.

  • The GoodTherapy.org Team

    The GoodTherapy.org Team

    November 2nd, 2015 at 8:13 PM

    Thank you for your comment, Curtis. We wanted to provide links to some resources that may be relevant to you here. We have more information about what to do in a crisis at https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html

    Warm regards,
    The GoodTherapy.org Team

  • Layla

    Layla

    November 6th, 2015 at 7:27 PM

    Hey. I’m 15 years old. I read the symptoms and I think I have it all. Almost all of it. I told my elder sister that I think I have depression and she thinks that Im just exaggerating things. Since march or April,I dont feel anything, i feel numb. I had a few (a lot) of fight with the people who are close to me such as my best friend and my mom. And other people. I also feel so insecure. I often tell my friends “Sorry if I annoy you”

  • GoodTherapy Admin

    GoodTherapy Admin

    November 7th, 2015 at 12:21 PM

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  • Danny

    Danny

    November 12th, 2015 at 4:57 PM

    I’m 16 years old, I have recently just had my first child. She was born in May, me and my ex girlfriend split up in September she has now got a new bf and unable to see my daughter for the first month I felt guilt,sad and angry. Just mixed emotions constantly. I got into a fight and we went over a little wall but a high drop on other side I banged the front left of my head i most of blanked out for at least 2-3 seconds because I remember waking up but ever since iv felt mostly every thing iv read apart from self harm or suicide as I don’t feel anythings at all. My mind frame has completely gone, the way I think isn’t right and not Evan feeling emotion towards things I do and think about is kind of scary… Not seeing my daughter doesn’t Evan touch my emotions in anyway but I think of her so much. I feel like everything is numb apart from my brain I just think constantly, paranoid but feel nothing.

  • Danny

    Danny

    November 12th, 2015 at 5:07 PM

    I noticed it mentioned about banging you head and others but it was after the fight the numbness started.

  • Cate

    Cate

    December 9th, 2015 at 3:55 AM

    Lately I have been feeling really down and I have 7 of the symptoms listed above but I really need some advice. I don’t know if what I have is something and I should get help or not. I have scratched with a pin a few times but I haven’t in two weeks because some people saw and one of them cried and I don’t want to hurt anyone else. I am really scared and I feel so empty lately. It feels like I constantly have a shadow or something. Also, sometimes I get really anxious and just sit and I can’t keep still. I hardly ever cry. And I want to because it would be easier to let it out then hold it in but I just can’t cry when I feel sad. I am so scared to talk to people but my friend is trying to get me to see someone. I am mostly just wondering do you personally think I might have depression or not because I jut don’t know anymore. I blank out and I can’t think properly. Also, what should I do now?

  • The GoodTherapy.org Team

    The GoodTherapy.org Team

    December 9th, 2015 at 8:57 AM

    Dear Cate,

    Thank you for reaching out to others for support on our site. We applaud your courage and want to say thank you for sharing how you’re feeling. We definitely want to let you know that our site shouldn’t be a substitute for professional help, and it may help you better understand and process your feelings if you speak with a professional. A key part of therapy is creating a safe, non-judgemental space where you can talk with someone. If you would like to consult with a mental health professional, please feel free to return to our homepage, https://www.goodtherapy.org/, and enter your zip code into the search field to find therapists in your area. If you’re looking for a counselor that practices a specific type of therapy, or who deals with specific concerns, you can complete an advanced search by clicking here: https://www.goodtherapy.org/advanced-search.html

    Once you enter your information, you’ll be directed to a list of therapists and counselors who meet your criteria. From this list you can click to view our members’ full profiles and contact the therapists themselves for more information. You are also welcome to call us for assistance finding a therapist. We are in the office Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Pacific Time; our phone number is 888-563-2112 ext. 1.

    Wishing you the best,
    The GoodTherapy.org Team

  • Izzy

    Izzy

    December 11th, 2015 at 10:50 PM

    I can’t enjoy anything really and when I do it’s being alone and with music and lately it’s all sad music and my mom every day can’t go with out saying something rude and most days I cry by of of it I’ve been through a lot because of my dad and I was really close to him and now he doesn’t want to see nor can he my grandma used to be the only person I could talk to but now she’s been taken away too and so now I’m left to music and my thoughts I can’t sleep I don’t have the energy to do anything I don’t want to eat and when I do everything tastes weird different or bad it’s hard for me to do school too I can’t concentrate I think about suicide every day now and the one thing that has stopped me from doing it is music but my mom yells at me and calls me antisocial I feel like everyone hates me i think I’m not doing good to the world and I shouldn’t be here.

  • GoodTherapy Admin

    GoodTherapy Admin

    December 12th, 2015 at 1:54 PM

    Dear Izzy,

    Thank you for your comment, Izzy. We wanted to provide links to some resources that may be relevant to you here. We have more information about self harm at https://www.goodtherapy.org/therapy-for-self-harm.html and additional information about what to do in a crisis at https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html

    Warm regards,
    The GoodTherapy.org Team

  • Kenna

    Kenna

    December 23rd, 2015 at 5:47 PM

    I’ve had a thing dealing with depression since I was 13, I’m 16 now. And well I always tried to approve of this feeling just trying to think it was puberty and it was all in my head. I also have a self harm problem, after one night I tried telling my parents I felt quite depressed and them responding with “depression is just an excuse for weak people”, that happened when I was 14. But recently I’ve been feeling nothing. I have felt numbness before but I eventually overcame it, but this time it seems like I can’t. And I hate it and I’m sick of it because I have to fake what I feel so I don’t make others feel bad. I’ll give you an example: for my 15th birthday my dad paid a trip for myself to Cancun, the day came to depart and I wasn’t excited at all I felt bad though because he paid so much money and I didn’t want him to think it was a waste, so I faked my emotions. I just want to know how to get rid of my depression and numbness without the support of my parents. I want it gone.

  • The GoodTherapy.org Team

    The GoodTherapy.org Team

    December 23rd, 2015 at 6:48 PM

    Thank you for your comment, Kenna. We wanted to provide links to some resources that may be relevant to you here. We have more information about self harm at https://www.goodtherapy.org/therapy-for-self-harm.html and additional information about what to do in a crisis at https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html

    Warm regards,
    The GoodTherapy.org Team

  • merdeka

    merdeka

    January 1st, 2016 at 2:59 AM

    I do not know how I feel whether it is classified as depression or not. I feel so empty, weak and worthless. This is because I have done and prepared everything that I want to achieve yet the results simply make me so upset. I want to cry but I can’t cry and I want to escape somewhere but I don’t know where it is. I hate this life so much and I suppose everything that comes to me is only to fake me. I told my parents and friends about my feeling but they said that I had to be grateful in life which I try to be like that but I can. I just want what I am dream of would be possibly happened as I have done my best that I can.

  • emily

    emily

    January 1st, 2016 at 9:17 PM

    Idk what’s wrong with I starting to treat people like I no longer care for them I feel like a bitch I don’t have feelings for anything there was this dead guy lying down while people were crying driving in the car and I didn’t care emotionally

  • Raven

    Raven

    January 8th, 2016 at 8:06 PM

    I feel like I’m not really depressed or anything because I always feel selfish when I think mean things about myself and I don’t cut or too much self harm, but I have had suicidal thoughts and mean thoughts and random outbursts and I tend to be shoving people away and not wanting to do my homework like I used to love doing, I just kinda thought for a while that may have went with my anxiety. I don’t even know anymore, because I want to kill myself a lot, I just feel so guilty when I think like that because I think about my parents and friends and how they’d be like “oh I had no idea.” Is this normal?

  • GoodTherapy Admin

    GoodTherapy Admin

    January 9th, 2016 at 12:45 PM

    Dear Raven,

    Thank you for your comment. We wanted to provide links to some resources that may be relevant to you here. We have more information about self harm at https://www.goodtherapy.org/therapy-for-self-harm.html and additional information about what to do in a crisis at https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html

    Warm regards,
    The GoodTherapy.org Team

  • Zhack

    Zhack

    February 24th, 2016 at 3:57 AM

    I can’t feel the pain that I felt before. The pain that was near the chest when you thought of the memories you had with crush. I cried for someone but now, I can’t. I still laugh and crack jokes but I want my Pain-on-the-inner chest back. I feel something lacking when I can’t cry and that pain is the key that makes me cry.

  • Victoria

    Victoria

    March 7th, 2016 at 10:04 AM

    I was assaulted yesterday.. I feel like I’ve lived a million years since that moment. I feel like my emotions are never what I need. I feel heartbroken but not fully, I’ll smile in a conversation but not feel happy. I don’t have the right sadness, it’s incomplete. I have no true joy, it’s empty.. I as a person do not feel like a person anymore. I am dehumanized while still living in a humans body. I am discusted being in this body, and I’m trapped in it forever. I feel starving but when there is food in front of me I can not eat. My body is in extreme physical pain, but I can’t help but walk and move as if it isn’t. My thoughts are pounding in my head, but my voice is silent. The only full feeling I have.. Is broken. Help me.

  • The GoodTherapy.org Team

    The GoodTherapy.org Team

    March 7th, 2016 at 10:33 AM

    Dear Victoria,

    Thank you for your comment. We want to encourage you to reach out. The GoodTherapy.org Team is not qualified to offer professional advice, but we strongly encourage you to use our therapist directory to find a qualified mental health professional to talk to about this or any other concern.

    To find a therapist in your area, please return to our homepage, https://www.goodtherapy.org/, and enter your zip code into the search field. Once you enter your information, you’ll be directed to a list of therapists and counselors who meet your criteria. From this list you can click to view our members’ full profiles and contact the therapists themselves for more information. You are also welcome to contact us for assistance finding a therapist. We are in the office Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Pacific Time. Our phone number is 888-563-2112 ext. 1.

    Please know help is available, and we wish you health and healing.

    Kind regards,

    The GoodTherapy.org Team

  • Liam

    Liam

    March 17th, 2016 at 4:59 PM

    I don’t feel sad very often, but I never really feel happy anymore. I experience some of the symptoms listed but I’m not sure if I’m ‘depressed’. These symptoms are: lack of interest, slight decrease in eating, over-sleeping, low energy, sometimes a feeling of worthlessness, lack of enjoyment in previously enjoyed activities, feeling hopeless or pessimistic.
    If anyone could tell me if this is actually depression or if they have any advice I’d appreciate it greatly.

  • Nick

    Nick

    April 23rd, 2016 at 8:47 PM

    I often have this feeling of nothingness inside. I guess when you go thru so many tragedies your body and emotions just shut off I am still in high school but I have had a long unforgiving life. I found out here resently my mom is going to die from huntingtons disease and I might have it to it is a neurological degenerative disease that is uncureable and has a 100% mortality rate ever since then it is only gotten harder my mom started a YouTube chanel and It’s called hunt nomore. I guess that is giving her closer I guess it feels a little better talking about it well getting to what I wanted to say. Don’t give up don’t do drugs it will only make it harder and never works I know this becaus my uncle tryed this try to get thru it and if you suffer frum depression like me find a vent a happy place you can go to get away from life it’s better than all of the alternatives good luck

  • HMY

    HMY

    May 7th, 2016 at 4:50 PM

    Thank you this post, it really resonated with me. I just never really realized that what I feel right now could be a form of depression, I just never realized because about a year ago I was mildly depressed and I felt pretty constantly sad and helpless. This time, it’s different and this post has helped me to recognize and understand my actions and feelings better.

  • D

    D

    May 9th, 2016 at 8:02 AM

    I’ve had this nagging thought in my head for quite some time, usually dismissed it …
    I can’t say I don’t feel anything because I get angry and tears are usually a comment away (don’t ask me how I’m doing today). But today it dawned on me that love is missing. I mean I “love” those around me, or at least I tell myself I do but I don’t show it very well.
    I came looking for answers and found that I’ve dealt with just about everyone of these situations in my life at some point or other…no answers.
    Not sure why I’m commenting here but I suppose I’ll do what I’ve always done, keep trying, have a positive attitude (things could be so much worse). Tomorrow is a new day. I’ve perfected pretending. Funny.

  • Joe Sabo

    Joe Sabo

    August 25th, 2016 at 6:03 PM

    How are you feeling now? Better, I hope? You provided a great description of my recent past also. Missing the upper and lower portions of the emotional spectrum.

  • Anon

    Anon

    May 13th, 2016 at 3:17 AM

    In my regular “google my symptoms” sessions that I usually do when I am feeling depressed and anxious, I came across this page. For the past month, my mood has gone from really depressed and anxious to the point that I contemplate whether suicide will help, to average. Sometimes I feel happy but I feel like it’s because I am distracting myself because as soon as I am by myself and not busy, I begin worrying and criticising myself.
    I have suffered from depression ever since I was 10 so this is definitely not new, but I am afraid to talk to a therapist as it will just confirm that I failed to keep my depression and anxiety at bay.
    I have recently gotten married and moved to a new country so it may be that, but I feel bad about feeling this way when I should be so happy.

  • The GoodTherapy.org Team

    The GoodTherapy.org Team

    May 13th, 2016 at 9:30 AM

    Hello Anon,

    Thanks for sharing your experience! There’s a large body of research that validates the effectiveness of psychotherapy for treating depression, and we’ve found that a pervasive stigma toward therapy often keeps people from accessing it. We encourage you to do your own research so you can find what works best for you, but if you decide to consult with a mental health professional, please feel free to return to our homepage, https://www.goodtherapy.org/, and enter your zip code into the search field to find therapists in your area.

    Once you enter your information, you’ll be directed to a list of therapists and counselors who meet your criteria. From this list you can click to view our members’ full profiles and contact the therapists themselves for more information. You are also welcome to call us for assistance finding a therapist. We are in the office Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Pacific Time; our phone number is 888-563-2112 FREE ext. 1.

    Kind regards,
    The GoodTherapy.org Team

  • Faizur r

    Faizur r

    August 23rd, 2016 at 10:08 AM

    After getting hurt each day, people breaking trust and else.. much things have happened. It was once upon a time I used to fear losing people close to me, but now I don’t know what.. I don’t feel sad nor happy or anything. It’s just like am a stone, I don’t feel anything. Recently my only best friend left me coz of some issues she had with someone, I tried to help her out but she fought with me and left. I felt nothing, I don’t know what’s happening to me.. But I can say one thing, it just feels like I can go through anything, but there is some pain deep inside that I am not able to be happy nor sad neither cry.. It feels completely different..

  • Chris

    Chris

    September 19th, 2016 at 3:04 AM

    I don’t sleep well at all on the days I don’t sleep I feel really down but just say I get two days of good sleep I feel happy and like myself is this depresstion or not ?

  • damian

    damian

    March 3rd, 2017 at 5:49 PM

    its most likely not depresion and you should see a doctor about it

  • Mustan k

    Mustan k

    October 16th, 2016 at 11:12 PM

    I am feeling nothing. I am very confused and can’t concentrate on any thing.. This is happening with me from 3 years since I left my school plzz I need help
    I everyday feel that I am worthless I should die. Plzz help me

  • The GoodTherapy.org Team

    The GoodTherapy.org Team

    October 17th, 2016 at 9:17 AM

    Hi Mustan,
    Thank you so much for reaching out. If you are in immediate danger of hurting yourself, it is very important you seek help immediately. You can call 911 or your local law enforcement, or visit your nearest hospital emergency room. If or when you experience suicidal thoughts, you can call to talk to someone immediately at the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 (TTY: 1-800-799-4TTY). You can also search for a therapist in your area on the GoodTherapy.org directory by visitinghttps://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html.

    Please know there is hope, and help is available. We are thinking of you and wishing you the very best!
    Kind regards,
    The GoodTherapy.org Team

  • Laura

    Laura

    October 20th, 2016 at 10:15 PM

    I have been diagnosed with major depression and on meds for a couple of years now.
    I have this problem when I’m sitting on the couch I think I want to go and do a certain thing and I feel good and motivated to do it but it’s like my brain and my body don’t communicate. I’m thinking to go do the dishes or feed my birds or go for a walk for example but my body just won’t do it. Does anyone else get this? Thank you

  • Mo

    Mo

    October 21st, 2016 at 3:53 PM

    3 years ago I got fired and didn’t see any choice but to use what I had and start a business. It’s been a little but up and a lot down. 18 months ago I got £8000 into debt and since then it’s the same. I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years last week and I’m still not sure why I did it. Sure she could be annoying but she loved me and for a while I think I loved her. Out of the list I think i have had then all for a while. Suicidal thought’s are new but they go away quickly. I do go for a drink a few times a week. Normally mates are busy so I just go have a couple drinks by myself. I normally have a joint before bed. I think I feel trapped, destined to do the same job same routine forever with no hope of ever leaving the loft room in my parents house. I always feel that doesn’t need to be done now can wait until the absolute last moment and eventually it doesn’t get done.

  • Levi

    Levi

    December 4th, 2016 at 1:44 PM

    Is bipolar hereditary? My mom has depression and my gran may have bipolar and I defiantly do

  • (I don't feel like sharing my name)

    (I don't feel like sharing my name)

    December 12th, 2016 at 5:02 PM

    I feel tired and numb inside. I don’t know what to do..

  • D

    D

    January 24th, 2017 at 3:40 PM

    Michael, I’m in agreement with you. I believe that through all my issues, GOD (through Jesus) had kept me going. I rely on Him to see me through each day.

  • Mesh

    Mesh

    February 7th, 2017 at 9:38 AM

    I m into fandoms and only thing I literally do besides breathing is reading fanfics and not study ! Fangic r only thing which makes me feel alive and I knw it’s pretty dangerous that I m soo much into it .I don’t even care about anything anymore in reality ..And I feel this is taking my life up.not really sure what shud I do

  • Kris

    Kris

    February 21st, 2017 at 7:32 AM

    My partner is depressed, and it causes stress in our relationship. He tends to have this outburst of anger and then feeling of numbness, th enager usually causes him to hurt me emotionally and then with numbness it just enforces the hurt, as during this period he does not seem to feel sadness and guilt for my pain. All od these outburst cause so many issues, I want to help him but sometimes it feels that the only choice left is either sacrify my sanity and stay or leave. I fully understand that life with depression is difficult but this situation makes me lost.

  • John

    John

    April 19th, 2017 at 7:11 PM

    I’ve been depressed for a long time. Years. It all started after a few nervous breakdowns and psychological trauma resulting in a nihilistic worldview and a numbness to just about anything. This used to allow me to be passive and understanding, a mediator or counselor for frirnds, but now I’m easily irritable, especially by those with hysterical emotions. I hate being like this. I can only ever cry and I don’t even control when. I know there isn’t a full-proof one size fits all solution to depression, but nothing is helping. I’m numb and no website I find can assist me in any way. Does anyone have any tips?

  • k

    k

    October 4th, 2017 at 7:54 AM

    so true, i just got debarred and i don’t feel a thing.

  • Kelsey

    Kelsey

    November 15th, 2017 at 5:18 PM

    I have depression and it is terrible.I sometimes feel as though my life isn’t worth it.I like this one person and we talk a lot and have been for a couple years now.I feel obsessed with him and It hurts when hes mad at me, it feels like I have nothing to live for at this point.Im not sure whats wrong with me but whatever it is its killing me on the inside.I get overly obsessed during serious relationships.I just need somebody to love me I guess

  • Saif A

    Saif A

    November 28th, 2017 at 12:22 AM

    Same Emotion Ilness Me
    How Again Feel Emotions
    Can You Help Me Please
    I Have No Feelings
    Please Help Me

  • Kathy C

    Kathy C

    December 4th, 2017 at 3:08 PM

    When I was a teen I had an abusive teacher, and was bullied at school. I was completely miserable, and the school counselor sent me to a therapist. They said I had depression, but I knew it wasn’t true, because when I got home I was a happy social butterfly, compared to my sad extroverted school self. I had been misdiagnosed with other things too, before finding out i was gifted. I was already prescribed drugs for something else I didn’t have, and that didn’t work out well. I was left with stunted growth, and bad memories of the pain the unnecessary drug caused me. I got put on drugs that did even more damage, against me (a minor at the time)’s will. Nobody would listen to me and the drug caused me pain. Just want people to know that people can be sad and miserable because of a situation, not their mind. And anybody would feel that way in the situation. Drugs wouldn’t solve the problem and cause unnecessary pain if your mind isn’t the cause. Changing the situation will. No offense at all for anyone who does have depression. But for the people who know they don’t, if possible find a trusted person who can help you get out of the situation, other wise, find the right combination of willpower, and assertiveness. If your like I was, bless you, and good luck, you can make it through it! – And your right, your not crazy! : )

  • Nusya

    Nusya

    February 13th, 2018 at 7:19 AM

    I barely understand myself anymore. I’m in the early 20, but my appearance looks old. my friends can smile bright, but I’m no more know how to be happy with them. they even said that i’m boring, and I don’t even care less about it. It seems that I didn’t care about my surrounding anymore. Everytime I’m thinking about my life, I got headache, and sometimes my breath becomes unstable. My memories fades. I barely remember anything about my past. I just feel nothing now. But I do learn something. People who have a meaning in their life will able to overcome depression. I once do have targets in my life. After time passes, I couldn’t identify anything that I want to achieve.

  • Jason H.

    Jason H.

    February 24th, 2018 at 5:37 AM

    I’ve been told that the creator (God) made us all for a purpose and if we aren’t working to attain that purpose that our souls are being misused. That this will cause depression. Does anyone else believe that “sin” could be the primary cause of depression?
    It does seem probable to me because so many people say that guilt and feelings of failure and worthlessness are the primary symptoms. It’s easy to say “stop feeling guilty, you’ve done nothing wrong.”, But if the soul knows better, it seems there may be no relief that doesn’t include repentance of sin and a commitment to a loving and forgiving creator.

  • Karo

    Karo

    March 26th, 2018 at 1:58 PM

    I’m 16 and a lot of the time if I feel under pressure or like i’m being forced to do something, I get unreasonably and uncontrollably angry and I start to cry because I feel like I’m falling apart and can’t control it, and recently I realized that when I’m not angry like that, I don’t really feel any other strong emotion. I’m tired all the time and don’t really eat much, and when I get up in the mornings I have to force myself and just go through the motions, and I sometimes I just think “what’s the point?” or “why do I bother?”. I don’t know why I feel this way, but the lack of motivation is seriously impacting my grades, and I don’t want to just assume it’s depression and have people tell me I’m just overreacting. :\

  • Matthew H.

    Matthew H.

    April 4th, 2018 at 9:55 PM

    So I am a college student 38, and still have no idea what I want to do… I am walking around now not doing good in any of my classes, I have heart problems, seen the dr. but they can’t really fix the problem…. I guess for me I think about it alot. I can’t help it because I can’t control it…. It skips beats so it is an arrhythmic heart. I don’t have bradycardia because its still beating 60 beats per minute… I go to give blood plasma like 2 times a week… Its driving me crazy. I can’t think straight in school, I mean I can get homework done because they give you a bit to get it done but my test scores are hopeless… I have no idea what to do… and these people don’t care… I mean would I care, I guess I would, I would want to find out why a person is not passing there exams however these people don’t want to care… I am confused. I have a test tomorrow actually… Plus I’m the oldest person at this school and well n one wants to study with a guy thats my age or something. Like I don’t understand how people here get stuff done… Its so boring… and you can say there are only boring people but what the f*** man,,, I stay in a tent, I camp out because I am so tired of paying rent for nothing… I’m never home… why be at home…
    But now I am running into the problem of things getting really boring… Like I just don’t care… Like what are you supposed to care about any way… so I did this report on physics and well I might as well send this because it totally answered my question about religion… being so full of s***… its a powerpoint/word doc. and they correlate the idea of both the words in the bible/science figuring out a new story that makes more sense… however now i am so at a point were money seems to be the only thing I need and I am bored as all hell… uwmadison.box.com/s/gjbon6h7cuvmhi22mqz5ertv4qvjpndt
    uwmadison.box.com/s/8m9v2w04heyk4mjszdcyawkxvwmynssz
    Well this probably will not go though but… I’m just saying life is…

  • Tris

    Tris

    July 14th, 2018 at 4:41 PM

    I currently am 14. I think im depressed but i tell myself im not. I have started to feel numbness when I was 13, no emotions at all and sometimes i would feel really down and just spend the whole weekend in bed. I haven’t told anyone and I am afraid to tell anyone because I don’t want them to worry about me I don’t want them to waste their time on me. I have most of the symptoms to be classified as depressed but im not sure if I am 100%. Im just writing this down so I could relieve myself. And if anyone knows why im numb and if anyone could tell if Im depressed the please let me know.

  • The GoodTherapy.org Team

    The GoodTherapy.org Team

    July 14th, 2018 at 5:10 PM

    Hi Tris,

    If you would like to consult with a mental health professional, please feel free to return to our homepage, http://www.goodtherapy.org/, and enter your zip code into the search field to find therapists in your area.

    Once you enter your information, you’ll be directed to a list of therapists and counselors who meet your criteria. From this list you can click to view our members’ full profiles and contact the therapists themselves for more information. You are also welcome to call us for assistance finding a therapist. We are in the office Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Pacific Time; our phone number is 888-563-2112 ext. 1.

    Kind regards,
    The GoodTherapy.org Team

  • Mbarak

    Mbarak

    July 18th, 2018 at 12:40 AM

    Hi Tris. I am a Muslim and in Islam we are taught to live in obedience to our Creator, The Greatest One and that turning away from His remembrance (which is to turn away from living by what He has decreed given that He alone knows what is best for us) can lead us to living a depressed life. Given that we are taught that turning away from remembering our Creator can lead us to living a depressed life, then the solution is that we turn to His remembrance which he has outlined for us in the Quran. Kindly look up Chapter 20 Verse 124 of the Quran. If you find that your relationship with The One and Only God feels weak, then that’s the problem you’ve identified. God is not unjust that He moves away from us. Our false behaviour makes us move away from our Creator and therefore we move away from attaining the peace we truly desire in our lives. Lots of love Tris. I was going through depression. I was considered to have a chemical imbalance in my brain and I had to be on medication to help regulate the chemical imbalance and I am now off medication and all because of our Creator. I had a cousin who went through a severe form of depression and has completely come out of it. One thing we can both relate to (my cousin and I) is that our life before depression was one where we lived in disobedience to our Creator. The solution is to understand that there is a Creator, to acknowledge our mistakes and to turn back to our Creator in sincere repentance and thereon live a life in obedience to Him alone, and no turning back.

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