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Understanding Maternal Covert Narcissism: When Mom Can’t Let Go
Covert narcissism, which tends to be expressed in passive or indirect ways, differs from what most people might imagine when they hear “narcissism.” Those with traits of covert ... Read More
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Achieving Optimal Work-Life Balance When You Have ADHD
What do you consider an optimal work-life balance? People may have slightly different views on what an “ideal” work-life balance is for them, but there is a general consensus, ... Read More
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To Find Yourself, Follow Your Truth: Authenticity as Self-Care
I had a conversation with a friend the other day regarding authenticity—a value that I place close to my heart. It seems, in these times of “fake news” and the questioning of the ... Read More
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10 Red Flags to Watch Out for in Your Couples Counselor
Starting couples therapy can be scary. Since 1995, when I was licensed as a marriage and family therapist, I’ve heard complaints from couples who’d been ready to make their relationships ... Read More
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PTSD and Self-Soothing Behavior: When Trying to Feel Better Hurts
Self-soothing is as natural to people as breathing. Even as infants, we quickly learn the soothing results of sucking our thumb when our mother’s nipple isn’t available. As we grow, ... Read More
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Healthy Self, Healthy Love: Characteristics of a Strong Relationship
Much has been written about unhealthy love and toxic relationships, but what about healthy love? When we think about healthy love in a relationship, what does that look like? Maya Angelou ... Read More
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Cultural Competency and C-PTSD: Why Therapists Can Never Know Enough
Complex posttraumatic stress, known as C-PTSD for short, is the result of prolonged series of traumatic experiences at the hands of someone the victim has a personal relationship with. ... Read More
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Rearranging the Stars: Healing Through Family Constellations
From a space of wonder, in a garden under a summer moon, two lovers studied the starry sky and considered how they might arrange the constellations if they hadn’t already been named. ... Read More
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Are You Ever Too Old to Benefit from Therapy?
“With aging, you earn the right to be loyal to yourself.” —Frances McDormand “I don’t mind aging. I’m glad to be aging. I’ll never die young.” —Elizabeth ... Read More
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You Want Kids. Your Partner Doesn’t. Can Therapy Help?
“Things are really coming together for us,” the man in my office said confidently. “If we can just figure out the kid thing.” His fiancee nodded. “The kid thing,” I repeated, ... Read More
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The ‘Should’ Trap: Expectations, Entitlement, and Gratitude
I witness daily how believing circumstances should be different can negatively affect one’s life. I observe this dilemma not only in my work as a psychologist, but in my own life. Recently, ... Read More
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The Benefits of Meditation for Stress Relief
All of us experience periods of ups and downs, which tend to be compounded by the demands of modern living. Stress has become the norm rather than the exception for many of us, and its ... Read More