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Take Time to Slow Down: The Benefits of Mindfulness and Meditation
In my work with people who are facing things like stress, anxiety, or trauma, I often talk about the importance of making time for relaxation and self-care. Relaxation techniques, mindfulness, ... Read More
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Growing Together, Individually: We Are Designed to Love Autonomously
In part 1 of this series, we touched upon the blissful and frightening states that can occur when we feel merged with a partner whom we love. These states are drawn from our earliest experiences ... Read More
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Differentiation and Merging: Bridging the Chasm Between Me and We
“NO, that’s NOT what I mean.” “How could you say that?” “I wasn’t finished. Where are you going?” At first glance, sudden and intense misattunement between partners may ... Read More
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How to Refer Someone to Therapy (and How Not To)
The decision to initiate any interpersonal relationship is anxiety-provoking, and the decision to talk with a therapist might be uniquely so. When we decide to meet with a therapist, we ... Read More
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How Naming the Emotions That Emerge in Our Dreams Helps Us Heal
One of the least talked-about aspects of dreaming is emotions. These strange creatures have stirred up many a restless night in the form of fear, anger, or despair. They take many shapes ... Read More
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Somatic Mindfulness: What Is My Body Telling Me? (And Should I Listen?)
“Mindfulness” is a popular buzzword in therapy and personal-growth circles. Mindful.org defines mindfulness as “the basic human ability to be fully present, aware of where we are ... Read More
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How Do I Fix Trust Issues After Being Caught Cheating?
Dear GoodTherapy.org, I cheated on my girlfriend. Yes, I’m a cheater and I’ll never live it down. I don’t deserve forgiveness. I don’t deserve her, period! I made the biggest mistake ... Read More
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Recognizing and Addressing Anger Before It Becomes Rage
In my years as a therapist, I’ve worked with many people who have varying anger issues. I’ve seen the devastating results that unchecked anger can have on people’s lives. Anger ... Read More
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Water Is Water: Can New Rules of Engagement Help Your Relationship?
Water is water. Are you thinking, “Of course water is water. What else would it be?” Perfect. If you’re thinking that, you’re already on the right track to understanding ... Read More
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How Emotionally Intelligent People Use Negative Emotions to Their Advantage
Emotion and emotional expression play a fundamental role in our daily lives. Evolutionary psychologists believe emotions serve a primal function in helping us navigate and adapt to our ... Read More
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5 Signs It May Be Time to Let a Friendship Go
“With friends like these, who needs enemies?” —English proverb Spring has finally arrived. For many, the arrival of spring means new beginnings and a time for cleaning out the clutter. ... Read More
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Middle-Aged? Single? How to Cope with What You Might Be Feeling
When we think of developmental milestones, we often think of children. But a lot of people aren’t aware that we continue to experience change points in life as we grow and age. As part ... Read More