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Why Can’t My Wife Let Me Unwind at the Pub after Work?
Thank you for your letter. This kind of issue comes up frequently with couples, particularly early on in one’s marriage or partnership. It often involves a topic that has potent but conflicting ... Read More
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Heartbreak and Healing: Why We Love Breakup Songs
If you like to listen to music, you’re probably familiar with the intense flurry of emotion that can come when you hear a song that precisely fits the mood you’re in—a song that perfectly ... Read More
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Moving Forward after the Death of a Child
The death of a child is one of the most difficult and traumatic events that a parent can encounter, one that will shape emotional experiences over the lifespan. Parents will encounter a ... Read More
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Depression and Suicide: How to Know When You Need Help
While most Americans will experience some level of depression in their lives, some will experience an intense and serious depression that requires the help of friends, family, and often ... Read More
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Feeling Good Yet? Seven Ways to Boost Endorphins
Known as the body’s natural “feel-good” chemicals, endorphins stimulate feelings of pleasure, well-being, and pain relief, making them an essential component in a balanced, happy ... Read More
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The Idealization of the Therapist
Editor’s note: This article is the second in a series exploring why use of the term “patient” is harmful in the context of psychotherapy. For the first part, click here. For an introduction ... Read More
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When It All Falls Apart: Trauma’s Impact on Intimate Relationships
When something traumatic happens, the result can be the development of a variety of symptoms that impair a person’s ability to function. These symptoms reverberate beyond the person who ... Read More
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The Devaluation of the Person in Therapy
Editor’s note: This article is the first in a series exploring why use of the term “patient” is harmful in the context of psychotherapy. For an introduction on the topic, click here. The ... Read More
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Gender Identity, Shame, and the Search for Authenticity
Recently I was walking through the grocery store, stopped in the deodorant section, and found myself dismayed. The women’s deodorants didn’t appeal to me at all—too pink, too ... Read More
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The Grief of Joy: When Feelings of Loss Accompany Happy Transitions
We are familiar with the grief associated with death. Denial, anger, and acceptance are part of the grieving process as it pertains to death. But what about grief that is unconnected to ... Read More
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Should We Abolish the Diagnosis of Borderline Personality?
The diagnosis of “borderline personality disorder” carries profound stigma for many people. Even some mental health professionals use the term pejoratively, which is not difficult considering ... Read More
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Selfishness, Guilt, and Separation: When Parents Take Precedence
“You’re so selfish!” I hear this phrase too frequently when working with people who have trouble with separation and individuation. When children hear from their parents that they ... Read More