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Help! A Decade Later, I Just Found Out My Husband Has 2 Kids
What an incredible breach of trust. Not only did he lie to you about not having kids, which I’m sure made sense to him at the time, but he perpetuated the lie by actively hiding an ... Read More
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Help! I’m Lost in My Mind, with No Sense of Life Purpose
I don’t suppose it’s much consolation, but you describe your situation very well—lost in your mind, indeed. You seem very much in your head, sort of like having an “out of body” ... Read More
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Our Relationship Has Hit a Wall; How Do I Get My Needs Met?
It sounds like you are in a very frustrating, even painful, place in your relationship right now. While all relationships go through ebbs and flows with one partner’s needs taking ... Read More
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Help! If I Have an Abortion, Do I Have to Tell My Boyfriend?
Despite using protection, you have gotten pregnant; naturally, you are shocked. You are not happy with your boyfriend, he is not a person you want to parent with, and you’re wondering ... Read More
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She’s Everything I Want in a Woman—Except She’s Religious
Can relationships between people who share very different faiths work? Absolutely—but only if they also share a profound respect for one another and their respective beliefs. Does your ... Read More
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Help! I Love My Wife, but I Don’t Like Having Sex with Her
Thank you for your very honest question. This is, obviously, a sensitive topic. But you might take heart in the fact it is not all that uncommon an issue among couples. In this case, it ... Read More
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Help! Why Can’t I Stop Making Self-Destructive Choices?
While there is no simple answer to your question, I do suspect your parents’ issues with bipolar and alcoholism likely play a role in what you are experiencing now. I would imagine ... Read More
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I’ve Stolen, I’ve Lied, and I Want My Wife Back. Help!
You write that you have lied, stolen, and pawned jewelry from family, and used that money to buy alcohol. You were seemingly out of control, but you weren’t really—you made choices, ... Read More
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Help! My Husband Won’t Let Me Discipline His Children
You have put your finger on one of the biggest challenges in blended families—the role of stepparents in discipline. There is no single right answer for this question; every family and ... Read More
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My Husband Cheated! So Why Is Our Sex Life Hotter Than Ever?
Thank you for your letter. Let me start by saying this pattern is more common than many people realize. There are varying opinions on why feelings and reactions evolve this way, but there ... Read More
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Help! I’m Finally Clean, but My Boyfriend Still Uses Drugs
Thank you for your question, and congratulations on your sobriety! Fifteen months is great; clearly, in spite of your current woes, you’re doing something right. I think the answer to ... Read More
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Help! My Insensitive Family Won’t Shut Up about My Weight
Of course you’re not laughing! This all sounds incredibly painful. Ideally, family provide a place of warmth, comfort, and support. It sounds like you feel like you are getting shame ... Read More