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Help! How Do I Get My Husband to Help More Around the House?
Your frustrations are not uncommon in households where one partner works outside the home and one stays at home. Feeling like you do it all, particularly if you feel as if your efforts ... Read More
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How Can I Stay Strong Knowing My Wife Has Terminal Cancer?
I am so sorry to hear about your situation, and cannot imagine the pain you and your wife must be experiencing as she fights her battle against cancer. Let’s get to the root of your questions. Find ... Read More
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How Upset Should I Be If I Was Hired Because I’m a Minority?
Wow, that’s a really tough issue to face. I’m glad you wrote, and I hope I can help you out some. My first question is how do these colleagues know about the hiring process? Many companies ... Read More
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Should I Tell My Wife about an Affair That Ended Long Ago?
Thank you for your question. It does indeed sound as though the vice-like grip of guilt has taken hold. Painful, indeed. As Pete Campbell from Mad Men said in the show’s final season ... Read More
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Why Do I Freeze Up When I Speak in Front of People?
Whenever a problem develops where no problem existed before, my first question is always: what is different now? You mention that you previously gave lectures to 150 people as a teacher’s ... Read More
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Help! My Mother-in-Law Is Taking My Husband Away from Me
This is a classic in-law conundrum. Many spouses can feel torn between their responsibilities to their families of origin and the families they are creating. It feels like a no-win situation ... Read More
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I Feel So Guilty about Leaving My Husband, but Leave I Must
Thank you for your honesty in describing what sounds like an unbearably painful situation. Alcoholism and addiction basically put both the addicted person and his or her loved ones in an ... Read More
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My Girlfriend Hid Her Depression; Now I Don’t Feel Safe!
Depression can be scary sounding, and exaggerated or altogether inaccurate media portrayals of people with depression often don’t help. I hear that you feel sad, angry, frightened, and ... Read More
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It Was Only Flirting, but Now My Husband Doesn’t Trust Me
With the intensity of the feelings you and your husband are experiencing, I imagine two weeks feels like a long time. In reality, and especially considering your husband’s preexisting ... Read More
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What If My Racist Family Rejects My Girlfriend and Her Kids?
Thank you for reaching out with such a powerful and important question. I commend you for taking the time and being thoughtful, considerate, and deliberate in planning your course of action ... Read More
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Help! My Husband Is Putting His Hobby Before Our Marriage
It sounds like you are feeling very alone in your marriage. Understandably, that is causing you great pain. I imagine your husband’s rather disinterested, even cold, response to your ... Read More
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A Call for Help Adjusting from the Military to Civilian Life
Thanks for writing in, and thank you for your service. I can only imagine the difficulty of transitioning from being in the service overseas to civilian life. I’m curious as to why, if ... Read More