Are Girls Taught to Be More Emotionally Attuned Than Boys?

A girl reacts to a book that she is reading with her momThere’s a broad assumption in our culture that women are just more emotionally intelligent than men. But women’s superior emotional intelligence is anything but a settled fact, in spite of claims of women everywhere to the contrary. Even if women do show more emotional awareness than men, a new study points toward environmental, rather than genetic, influences. According to that research, which was published in the British Journal of Developmental Psychology, mothers may teach girls more about emotions than they teach boys.

Do Boys Learn Less About Emotions Than Girls?

To evaluate differences in the ways parents talk to their children, researchers evaluated 65 Spanish parents of 4- and 6-year-old children. The parents told stories with their children and talked about previous experiences. Girls were more adept at using emotional words—such as happy, sad, and confused—than were boys. Researchers also found that mothers used more expressive words with their daughters than their sons, which might help explain why differences in emotional awareness emerge so early.

Undermining Boys’ Emotional Behavior

This isn’t the first study that has found that parents teach boys to be less emotionally astute than girls. In another study, a baby’s gender was concealed while he or she watched a jack-in-the-box. Observers were then asked to characterize the baby’s emotional reactions. When they thought the baby was a boy, they were more likely to call the reaction angry or aggressive, and girls were more likely to be labeled as fearful, potentially stigmatizing fear for boys.

Some parents may even punish their boys for expressing their emotions, and boys receive intense peer pressure to conform to a masculine social norm that demands disconnection from emotions. The British Journal of Developmental Psychology is just one more piece of research suggesting the ability to feel and express emotions must be taught.

References:

  1. Kindlon, D. (n.d.). Raising Cain: Protecting the emotional life of boys [PDF]. City Leadership Research Project.
  2. Mothers nurture emotions in girls over boys, new study finds. (2014, November 12). Retrieved from http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2014-11/uos-mne110914.php
  3. Widen, S. C., & Russell, J. A. (2002). Gender and Preschoolers’ Perception of Emotion. Merrill-Palmer Quarterly, 48(3), 248-262. doi: 10.1353/mpq.2002.0013

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  • Amiee

    Amiee

    November 18th, 2014 at 10:53 AM

    You hit one point perfectly when you talk about how boys are actually punished at times for being emotional and expressive. There are those parents for whom this is a big no no and they will do what they can from a very early age to stifle that in a little boy whereas it could be encouraged in young girls.

  • padgett

    padgett

    November 18th, 2014 at 3:39 PM

    These are the roles that many people expect boys and girls to play and sometimes without even realizing it, we play right into that as parents.

  • jenna r

    jenna r

    November 18th, 2014 at 8:46 PM

    I agree with the point on environmental factors..we sort of force girls into being ‘girls’ (or rather what we think they ought to be) this is especially true when it comes to emotions. a ‘strong’ girl may be complemented by her peers but as parents most of us would rather have an ’emotional’ daughter and a ‘masculine’ son.

  • Rosie

    Rosie

    November 27th, 2014 at 8:30 AM

    Yes!!
    I emphatically believe that we automatically place girls and boys into separate roles, the ones that we think are what they should be or what society has told us that that should be.
    I think that there are now times when we are able to be a little more free from that, and I think that is a good thing but we will always get some nasty reactions from some people who just think that everything has to conform nicely to what they believe ions the correct role for a make and female.

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