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If Sex Doesn’t Involve Kink or BDSM, I’m Not Interested January 15, 2016 . 11 Comments
Thank you for your question, which took bravery on your part, I’m sure. I think I get the “I’m a little afraid of your answer” part, as I’m sensing some shame or self-doubt just ... Read More
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Help! Every Sound I Hear Makes Me Anxious and Irritable January 8, 2016 . 11 Comments
I find myself filled with compassion for you. It sounds like so many of the common, everyday sounds of life are extraordinarily uncomfortable for you. I imagine it makes engaging with the ... Read More
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Should I Tell My Therapist I Have a Crush on Him? January 1, 2016 . 27 Comments
Thank you for reaching out with this honest question. I commend you for having the courage to admit this is happening and to seek counsel for it. You may be surprised to know that what ... Read More
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Why Would a Man My Age Have a Rapidly Declining Sex Drive? December 25, 2015 . 8 Comments
Thanks for your honest letter. This is not at all unusual, what you’re going through, for men especially. In a way, it means you’re growing up and are now ready for some honest-to-goodness ... Read More
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How Can We Convince My Sister to Dump Her Loser Boyfriend? December 18, 2015 . 14 Comments
I hear your love and concern for your sister. There is nothing more painful than watching someone you love make choices you believe are harmful. Unfortunately, they are her choices. You ... Read More
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Help! Is It Time for Some ‘Tough Love’ with Our Teenage Son? December 11, 2015 . 8 Comments
Thank you for your question, which sounds like just about every parent’s nightmare—one that’s more common than you might think. For me, the key to the answer is in your last two questions. ... Read More
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Bah Humbug! Am I a Bad Person for Hating the Holidays? November 20, 2015 . 34 Comments
You are not alone—not everybody loves the holidays, and plenty of people hate them. Thanksgiving is only round one. Not long after, you get socked with a real haymaker, the endgame (literally, ... Read More
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Help! My Girlfriend Keeps Making Her Pets My Problem November 13, 2015 . 4 Comments
Before I try to answer your question, I have to come clean. When my husband Mark and I first met 30 years ago I lived with a 7-year-old boy, two snakes, two cats, a dog, a bunch of tropical ... Read More
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Why Do I ‘Troll’ People on the Internet and How Can I Stop? November 6, 2015 . 8 Comments
Thank you for reaching out with this powerful question. There are a number of reasons you may be engaging in this behavior, and I hope this response helps you to uncover some of what motivates ... Read More
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Help! My Only Friends Are Homophobic and Don’t Know I’m Gay October 23, 2015 . 18 Comments
Real friends are supportive of one another. You may think that the buddies you hang out with are the ones you need, but I think they are just the ones that are around—friends of convenience ... Read More
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Help! I Feel Like I Don’t Deserve My Husband and He’ll Leave October 16, 2015 . 7 Comments
I think you have quite a bit of insight about your problem: your childhood experiences and past relationships have shaped your worldview in such a way that you don’t trust your current ... Read More
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A Child Smeared Poop in Our Home; Should I Tell Her Parents? October 9, 2015 . 6 Comments
How upsetting to make such a discovery! It is unusual, developmentally, for an 8-year-old to smear feces on the wall, though I would hesitate to jump to the conclusion of mental health ... Read More
