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15 Tips for Letting Go of a Relationship That Is Not Healthy
August 29, 2019 .
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Ending a relationship and letting go can be incredibly difficult no matter how toxic it is. Part of this is for simple biological reasons, as some scientific studies have shown that being ... Read More
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10 Things You Should Know Before Starting Therapy
April 12, 2018 .
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Dear new client: Welcome to the wonderful world of therapy! I know it can be hard to come in for your first appointment—really hard. You are here to meet me, a stranger who will hear ... Read More
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Love Is Good Therapy: The Gift of Being Loved by Your Therapist
January 16, 2018 .
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People come to psychotherapy because they want to feel better. A big part of a therapist’s ability to help a person feel better lies in their taking a loving stance toward that person. ... Read More
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Working with an Uncooperative Partner: 6 Tips for Success
December 20, 2017 .
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Imagine you are in a long-term relationship that, like all relationships, has its rough patches, its areas that need improvement. You are motivated to address these difficulties in order ... Read More
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Finding a Light in the Dark: How to Make the Most of Therapy
October 12, 2017 .
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Pursuing psychotherapy is a brave endeavor indeed. Many people make this choice when they find themselves in a dark place and are unable to see any light ahead of them. In order to even ... Read More
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Bored with Therapy: Unmasking the Real Feelings Behind ‘Boredom’
June 20, 2017 .
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Has it happened to you? A few months into therapy and you’re scratching your head wondering what you’re still doing here. Things started off so strong. You were exploring your relationships ... Read More
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How Psychotherapy Retrains the Brain to Expect (and Feel) Better
June 5, 2017 .
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People enter psychotherapy with the desire to feel better, but they are often unsure how therapy will help them accomplish this goal. A common refrain from people hesitant to enter therapy ... Read More
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Are You on the Dance Floor or the Balcony? Discovering New Perspective
May 11, 2017 .
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When you decide to seek help from a therapist or counselor, chances are you’re struggling. Maybe you’re feeling lost in your life, or maybe you’re experiencing painful disconnection ... Read More
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When Your Therapist Is Away: Their Break, Your Breakthrough
April 17, 2017 .
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Therapists go on vacation. Therapists need time off for health reasons. Therapists have emergencies. But what does it mean for you when your therapist needs a break? It can be difficult ... Read More
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Therapy’s Goal: Finding Pathology or Accepting Complexity?
March 30, 2017 .
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Labeling pathology in another person is easy. One teacher of mine said it’s like “shooting fish in a barrel.” Think of any person you know and, unless you’ve totally idealized them, ... Read More
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Silence Can Be Golden: Talk Therapy Without the Talking
February 21, 2017 .
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I love to talk. I can sit and watch one of those movies where nothing seems to happen except a bunch of people sitting around a room chatting. I can still be riveted because I love hearing ... Read More
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Suicide and Saying Goodbye: Leaving Survivors with Love
February 16, 2017 .
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I hardly dare to write or even think about suicide, a topic difficult enough to discuss when it is not outright painful. Suicide, attempted or completed, has touched the lives of many. ... Read More