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The Insidious Impact of Parental Conflict on Child Behavior June 1, 2016 . 5 Comments
As a family systems therapist, it’s been my experience that when parents bring a child to my office due to acting-out behaviors or social challenges, it usually comes back to the dynamic ... Read More
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Understanding Yourself Is Key to Understanding Others July 15, 2014 . 5 Comments
I am an introvert. Both of my daughters, now grown, are extroverts. When the second was in her mid-teens, I was working very long hours. I would frequently come home, brain fried, and find ... Read More
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Conflict Resolution: Understanding the Four Temperaments April 8, 2014 . 8 Comments
There are four types of human beings, and I believe each is designed to attend to at least one of four critical areas of need in a functioning human society. The tasks that each temperament ... Read More
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Conflict and the Thinker/Feeler Struggle in Relationships February 20, 2014 . 20 Comments
The thinking/feeling dichotomy was first connected to individual differences in psychological types (personalities) by Carl Jung. It is used in the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator’s personality ... Read More
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Do Opposites Attract? The Extrovert/Introvert Dichotomy February 19, 2014 . 7 Comments
By 1915, Carl Jung had identified the key determinants of individual differences in psychological types on four behavior and process-opposite dichotomies. These dichotomies are: Extraversion ... Read More
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Embrace Conflict as a Path to Deeper Connection May 10, 2011 . 14 Comments
Conventional wisdom says that having conflict in a partnership is “bad.” Most couples perceive conflict or its lack as a measure of a relationship’s strength or weakness. The truth ... Read More
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Part V: Building a Great Marriage October 29, 2010 . 7 Comments
What little words turn out to be provocative, with huge potential for undermining goodwill in a relationship? The more couples use the words you and not, especially when they add should ... Read More
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Building a Great Marriage Part IV: Tone of Voice September 22, 2010 . 7 Comments
In what ways does tone of voice matter? Tone of voice conveys whether you feel positive or negative about something, and how intense that feeling is. Positivity in tone of voice, actions ... Read More
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How Do Marriage Partners Make Effective Decisions? August 4, 2010 . 12 Comments
Marriage partners are in a sense yoked together. Couples need therefore skills for making decisions cooperatively. If they can choose together when to turn left and when to turn right neither ... Read More
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How Can Married Couples Respond When They Discover They Have Differences? July 7, 2010 . 18 Comments
All couples have different viewpoints from time to time. All couples, especially in the early years of marriage, discover areas where his way and her way differ. The challenge of becoming ... Read More
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Individual Versus Couple Therapy: What Format Is Best for Marital Problems April 6, 2010 . 20 Comments
The Textbook of Family and Couples Therapy describes the three “most common types of couples therapy”: Individual therapy; Conjoint couples therapy; and Combined couples therapy In ... Read More
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Therapists as Experts in Conflict Resolution January 13, 2010 . 5 Comments
Couples entering therapy typically want help resolving their conflicts. They want their therapist to guide them to safe and satisfying resolution of the topics that have generated tensions ... Read More