Tuning In: Mindful Music Listening to Reduce Stress

Mature man leans back in armchair, wearing headphones, smilingStress has a way of upending our lives—it can cause tension in our relationships, anxiety in our thoughts, and tightness in our bodies. You may have a self-care practice in place, or yours may need some shoring up.

Either way, mindful music listening can be a wonderful way to reduce your stress and reconnect with your body and breath. Mindfulness—the practice of being in the present moment—can be practiced at any time and anywhere. I often use mindfulness exercises with people in therapy as a way to tune into their body, breath, and mind. Mindfulness is not about having an empty mind, but simply noticing whatever is there, thoughts and all.

However, if you find mindfulness challenging (or haven’t tried it!), the addition of music can help you stay focused, while simultaneously helping you to connect with music as a source of strength and creative energy. Music can be a powerful way to experience the present moment.

Take a moment to think about the music in your life. Do you listen to music regularly? Is it live music? Recorded music? What kind of music moves you? Helps you relax? Energizes you? Do you play an instrument or sing? What music do you hear around you (perhaps music your kids or partner listen to)?

Now think about your relationship with music for a moment. Is it a source of frustration or a joy? Do you feel disconnected from music sometimes? Does music soothe you when nothing else seems to work? Do you have a lot of music on your phone but never listen to it?

Whether you listen to music all the time or rarely, mindful music listening can help you slow down and be in the moment. Here’s how:

  1. Choose a piece of music to listen to. I usually use instrumental pieces, as lyrics can add a whole extra layer, but it’s up to you. It can either be a familiar or unfamiliar piece (it’s interesting to repeat this exercise with the opposite of what you choose this time, just to notice if anything feels different).
  2. Take a moment to breathe and ground yourself—no matter where you are, or what’s going on around you. Inhale gently through your nose, and exhale deeply through your open lips. Notice your body, and tune into how it feels, whether you’re standing, sitting, walking, or laying down. Just notice any physical structures your body is touching (the floor, the chair, or your shoes) as well as any physical sensations (tightness, tension) in your body.
  3. Just listen. Use headphones or earbuds if that helps you focus or shut out external noise. Give yourself permission to only listen to the music, without simultaneously checking your email or refreshing your Facebook feed. If it helps, close your eyes (if that’s challenging, it’s likely because you really need the break!).
  4. Notice. Let yourself be aware of anything you notice, without judgment or self-criticism. Notice the pace of the music, the sounds of the different instruments, or the shifts in volume. Notice if you’re more aware of a certain part of your body as you listen (i.e., “I often feel vibrations of cello music in my chest”). Notice any thoughts or feelings that come up—perhaps the music is connected to a memory, or perhaps an anxious thought is trying to pop through. Let any thoughts just pass through your awareness, and then gently bring yourself back to the sounds of the music.
  5. Reflect. Take a moment to breathe and check in with your body, breath, and mind (see step 2). Does anything feel different? Do you notice any shifts after listening to the piece of music? Do you feel calmer? If the piece you chose didn’t feel like a good fit, what might you look for in another piece (i.e., slower, fewer instruments, louder)?

This short mindfulness experience can be a useful thing to practice daily, much like meditating. You might experiment with different types of music as a way to notice different responses. You may also find that repeating the same piece of music is a sort of touchstone, a way to continually reconnect to that place inside where gentle pausing and noticing can happen with ease.

I’d love to hear what piece of music you chose to listen to. Feel free to leave a comment below.

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  • Everly

    Everly

    October 11th, 2016 at 10:20 AM

    Sounds like a good plan to me!

  • Maya Benattar

    Maya Benattar

    October 11th, 2016 at 2:55 PM

    Thanks for commenting Everly!

  • Bethany

    Bethany

    October 11th, 2016 at 2:27 PM

    This really does work for my husband. He gets so into the music that he can literally tune out everything else around him. I think that there are days that his job can be so stressful that he very much needs an outlet like that to focus on when he gets home just to get rid of the yuck that he may have had to leave behind at work.

  • Maya Benattar

    Maya Benattar

    October 11th, 2016 at 2:56 PM

    Thanks for comment Bethany! Sounds like music is a great resource for him :)

  • Tuhin

    Tuhin

    October 14th, 2016 at 2:23 AM

    Listening music everyday might be a better option for me. I usually listen music from classic country radio. Listening to my favorite music gives me a piece.

  • Maya

    Maya

    October 15th, 2016 at 7:40 AM

    Thanks for your comment Tuhin! It’s a great idea to listen to your favorite music every day.

  • Nina

    Nina

    October 15th, 2016 at 6:27 AM

    It can be a real stress reliever. I mean, think abut what a good play list can do for you working out. It gets you moving and motivated to finish.
    Same thing when you are looking for something to calm you. You find the right mix of music, then that can automatically reduce and relieve those stress levels that you could be experiencing.

  • Maya Benattar

    Maya Benattar

    October 18th, 2016 at 9:03 AM

    Absolutely! Thanks for commenting Nina!

  • Jay

    Jay

    October 17th, 2016 at 10:17 AM

    It can’t just be any head banging music. I need a little tranquility to actually feel it.

  • Maya Benattar

    Maya Benattar

    October 18th, 2016 at 9:02 AM

    Thanks for your comment Jay! Sounds like you know what kind of music works for you, which is such a great start :)

  • Tao2112

    Tao2112

    October 5th, 2017 at 5:05 AM

    The resurgence of Vinyl is stress relieving as well. Shopping for records can be as much fun as listening. And you can’t hit the FWD button and examine the artwork and learn about where it was recorded, lyrics…the whole nine yards.

  • Maya

    Maya

    October 5th, 2017 at 8:32 AM

    Thanks for commenting! I agree, the process of shopping for records can be really relaxing as well. I do love the feel of a record (or CD) in my hands. :)

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