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Living With Frustration in a Relationship November 3, 2011 . 7 Comments
Many couples I work with come in with a large amount of stress and difficulty. The causes vary, but the behaviors people use to respond to the upset are often predictable. People who start ... Read More
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The Pursuit of Happiness: Internal or External? November 1, 2011 . 2 Comments
According to Randy P. Auerbach of Harvard Medical School, McLean Hospital, positive feelings and feelings of happiness are the result of intrinsic pursuits. “Intrinsically-motivated goals ... Read More
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Is It Love, Or Is It Object Personification Synesthesia? October 21, 2011 . 4 Comments
Perhaps youʼve come across one of the many articles or videos with titles like, “In Love with the Eiffel Tower”, or a recent National Geographic Taboo program called “Forbidden Love?” ... Read More
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Restlessness, Boredom, and Groundlessness October 6, 2011 . 11 Comments
While there are a multitude of distractions and amusements available to anyone with a library card, it is not unusual to go through periods of boredom when not even the most scintillating ... Read More
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Learn to Sit with Discomfort in Your Life August 31, 2011 . 14 Comments
I have a confession to make: I do not believe you can feel happy 24/7, any more than you can feel anything every minute for your entire life. We are designed to feel a broad spectrum of ... Read More
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Why Do I Have to Talk About My Painful Feelings in Therapy? August 18, 2011 . 23 Comments
You’ve sat comfortably on your therapist’s couch for six months talking about everything under the sun; how you prefer to do your laundry, how nothing is ever good enough for your spouse, ... Read More
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Love, Drugs, and the Primitive Brain
August 3, 2011 .
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The most common question I get in my work and sometimes from my friends is “Am I an alcoholic?” This is usually followed by “Does this mean I have to go into rehab?” or “Will ... Read More
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Cultivating Trust in Yourself July 29, 2011 . 14 Comments
If hope is the thing with feathers, as Emily Dickenson said, then trust floats on gossamer wings. Most people lose that child-like trust with the end of a first love, but not all. I have ... Read More
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We Are Greater Than The Sum Of Our Parts: Internal Family Systems Therapy for Eating Disorders July 26, 2011 . 13 Comments
I am half way through the year-long Level 1 of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) training. IFS is a psychotherapeutic modality used for helping people and their therapists understand and ... Read More
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Shadow Work: Transforming Emotional Suffering into Freedom
July 13, 2011 .
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If you read last month’s blog, Creativity vs Shadow, you will remember a brief mention of Deepak and Gotham Chopra’s book, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Superheroes. In the book Chopra ... Read More
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When Worse Is Better: The Unfortunate Hierarchy of Eating Disorders July 11, 2011 . 13 Comments
Imagine a life where you are continually tormented by an inner dialogue that screams of your worthlessness, your hideous appearance, and your pitiful, meaningless existence. Imagine a ... Read More
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Group Therapy for Adults Abused as Children June 23, 2011 . 4 Comments
Group therapy can be the most nurturing and also the most challenging form of therapy. It is highly effective. While it doesn’t replace individual therapy, it can be a great adjunct and ... Read More
