I’m Under the Age of 18; Does My Parent Have to Give Permission for Me to Go to Therapy?

Teen woman sits in school counselor's office, chatting with the counselorDifferent states have different laws when it comes to seeking therapy as a minor. You may or may not need your parent or guardian’s consent depending on where you live and your state’s legal definition of mature.

In What Cases Will I Need a Parent’s Permission to Go to Therapy?

In many states, if you are under the age of 18, you will need a parent’s permission to attend therapy. This is because in order to give any kind of treatment—medical or psychological—a patient’s consent must first be obtained. If you are under the legal age to give consent as an adult in your state, then you’ll need a parent’s signature.

In some states, it may be required that your parent attend the first therapy session with you. If you decide together that you’ll need to attend regular sessions, the therapist can give your parents a form that allows you to attend on your own. If your parents are divorced, talk with them about what custody requirements must be met when giving consent for your treatment. It is most likely as simple as keeping the other parent informed.

It’s also crucial that your therapist speaks with your parent or guardian before making any changes to your treatment—including the number of sessions per month you attend and any medication you may be trialing. Provided you are in an environment where it’s safe and healthy for you to discuss your mental health needs with your parents, seeking therapy as a minor simply requires open and consistent communication between you, your parents, and the licensed mental health professional.

Are There Any Cases Where I Don’t Need a Parent’s Permission?

As with every rule, there are exceptions to the parental permission requirement. Some states, like California, allow minors to give consent to treatment for things like substance abuse or mental health treatment as young as 12. In many states, however, minors can only give their own consent for therapy in specific situations.

One such example is emancipation, whether court-ordered or situational. In court-ordered emancipation, the minor is deemed an adult and can make all of the decisions in their day-to-day life as one. This includes consenting to treatment. Usually, court-ordered emancipation is achieved by the minor when they appeal for it, after proving to the court they are already providing for themselves and do not rely on parental support. In some states, minors may qualify for situational emancipation, in which their marital status, military service, or parenthood will grant them independence.

In all cases in which emancipation qualifies you to give your own consent for treatment, you will need a copy of the decree. It’s also important to note that most states allow minors to give consent for themselves if they are in a situation in which delaying treatment while waiting for parental consent for therapy would put them in danger, such as if they are threatening suicide or self-harm.

What Should I Do If I Need Therapy but My Parents Won’t Let Me Go?

The good news is even if your parents won’t sign off on therapy sessions, you have a lot of resources available to you. Minors seeking therapy without parental consent should start in their schools. Most schools offer a licensed counselor available throughout the day that students can schedule time with. If you don’t feel comfortable talking directly with the school counselor, they may be able to help you find the best solution for your situation.

Additionally, researching the laws regarding minor consent for health care in your state may open more opportunities. Some states allow minors as young as 12 to seek mental health care for either a limited number of sessions or for specific circumstances that may be endangering them.

If it’s safe to do so, talking openly and honestly with your parents or guardian about why seeking therapy is important to you may help them understand why they should grant permission for you to attend. If it’s not safe for you to talk with your family, it may be the most beneficial to consult another trusted adult such as a mentor, teacher, or school counselor on what steps you should take in your situation.

What Therapists Have to Say

Here, several therapists explain how this works in different states, and offer advice on who you can ask within your state about seeking therapy as a minor:

Somerstein-LynnLynn Somerstein, PhD, E-RYT
: People under the age of 18 need parental consent for medical and psychological treatment. This law is devised to protect minors, although there are some variations in the United States depending on the state where you live. Some people under the age of 18 may be considered “mature” by legal standards and so don’t need parental consent. These people may be married or in the military.

A good way to find help is to go to your school’s guidance counselor and ask. Alternatively, you can speak privately with your pediatrician, religious or youth leader, or a trusted teacher who will perhaps direct you to someone who can see you for therapy, although legal consent is still an issue.

Payment, of course, is also an issue. Usually the parent pays. This is difficult for everybody, because the parents will feel entitled to information that they are paying for, that is their legal right. The clinician will have to develop appropriate approaches, consulting the parents and the child under 18, to protect the child’s privacy.

Risi-AndreaAndrea M. Risi, LPC: Each state can differ slightly on this rule. In regard to mental health treatment in Colorado:

  • “A minor who is fifteen years of age or older may consent to receive mental health services to be rendered by a facility or a professional person. Colo. Rev. Stat. § 27-65-103(2).”

In regard to treatment of addiction to or use of drugs in Colorado:

  • “Minors may voluntarily apply for admission to alcohol/other drug abuse treatment, regardless of their age, with or without parental or legal guardian consent providing the treatment agency demonstrates adherence to its policy regarding admission of minors without parental or legal guardian consent. …Minors’ signatures shall suffice to authorize treatment, releases of information, fee payment (if minors have personal control of adequate financial resources), and other documents requiring client signatures. 6 Colo. Code Regs. § 1008-1 (15.225.2)1”

To summarize, in Colorado minors older than 15 years may seek mental health counseling without consent of a parent and any minor may seek treatment for substance abuse. Remember that when parents do give permission for you to attend counseling, that doesn’t mean they have access to your counselor’s records, nor can they talk to your counselor without your consent. I usually tell minors I am providing therapy to something like, “Everything we talk about is confidential unless you talk about hurting yourself or someone else, but we may want to include your parents on occasion with your permission.”

Hirschhorn - DebDeb Hirschhorn, PhD: According to a document produced in 2004 by the New York Civil Liberties Union, minors can obtain therapy without parental permission provided they have the ability to understand the “nature and consequences of a proposed treatment, including its risks, benefits and alternatives, and to reach an informed decision.” This is called informed consent.

The minor is entitled to confidentiality as well, meaning that the substance of the treatment, and the fact of being in treatment, is not disclosed without the person’s consent.

New York, however, includes a catch. There are three conditions, any one of which needs to be met:


  1. There is no parent or guardian
  2. Including the parent or guardian would be detrimental to the therapy
  3. The parent or guardian has refused to consent and a physician (medical doctor) decides that the therapy is necessary. The physician must notify the parents, but only if he or she thinks doing so is “clinically appropriate.”

An exception to these requirement is if the minor is living independently (called “emancipated”), married, pregnant, or the parent of a child.

Getting Help

Regardless of what route you follow when seeking therapy as a minor, the best thing you can do is build a support network you can talk with about the process. If you can’t speak with your parents, then it can be healthy to talk with a trusted friend or adult figure in your life. A teacher or family friend could be a good source of support and encouragement to have as you begin to find a therapist. The more people you have in your corner as you begin your mental health journey, the stronger you’ll feel and the better your process can be.


  1. Corcione, D. (2017, August 29). How to find a therapist when your parents won’t help. Retrieved from https://www.teenvogue.com/story/how-to-find-therapist-parents-wont-help
  2. McNary, A. (2014). Consent to treat minors. Innovations in Clinical Neuroscience, 11(3-4), 43-45. Retrieved from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4008301

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  • Tracie C

    December 2nd, 2015 at 2:54 PM

    I work at a High School, I have a young lady that has confided in me that she feel’s like she needs to talk to someone and her mother will not assist in helping her get the help she need’s. What can I do to help this young lady

  • The GoodTherapy.org Team

    December 2nd, 2015 at 3:14 PM

    Dear Tracie,

    Thank you for your question. GoodTherapy.org is not qualified to offer professional advice, but the young lady in question can search for a therapist using our website.

    A list of local therapists and counselors can be obtained by entering a ZIP code here:


    It may also be helpful to encourage her to speak to the school guidance counselor.

    If the young lady is experiencing a crisis situation, information and resources can be found here:


    We hope this helps.

    Kind regards,

    The GoodTherapy.org Team

  • Beth M

    December 12th, 2015 at 8:50 PM

    My school counselor has referred me to a mental health therapist. What does this mean?

  • Madelyn G

    April 27th, 2016 at 2:49 AM

    I’m 16, almost 17 years old, and I wanna talk to a therapist but I don’t wanna tell my mom and worry her, so is it possible for me to seek help by myself in Las Vegas? Or am I required to have a parent/guardian with me since I am under 18

  • Annsleigh E

    February 5th, 2017 at 7:41 PM

    I am a Highschool Freshman and I want to talk to a therapist, but I don’t want to tell my parents, because of past events of them basically saying they don’t believe me. Is there any way for me to seek help without my parents having knowledge of it or having to give consent?

  • Chevelle

    March 22nd, 2017 at 11:59 AM

    I’m 16 years old, I live in PA. I was wondering I’ve been seeing the same therapist for over a year now, due to very personal family problems, and I never wanted to start seeing her. Can I make the choice to be discharged or is that on my guardians (or in my case, a CYS Case Worker)??

  • Daniela

    April 9th, 2017 at 1:25 PM

    I’m 14 and my mom doesn’t believe in therapy since she didn’t have one for her problems but my doctor told us that I have depression and we need to look for therapists. And I live in Las Vegas, Nevada.

  • Amanda

    April 27th, 2017 at 9:11 AM

    I am a high school teacher at an alternative school in Texas. I have several students who see counselors who are contracted through the school. My question is: If students DO NOT want to see these counselors and their parents Have NOT consented to it, do they HAVE to go?

  • Mark Mirante

    May 5th, 2017 at 10:33 AM

    In Washington state a child of 13 years old may request mental health counseling without their parent’s consent.

  • Indigomom87

    July 31st, 2019 at 4:45 PM

    My kid just got out of a child assesment unit ! Being in spectrum with high functioning with seperation anxiety attack episodes. He does have a meltdown . that unit instead of helping me and my kid they were doing nothing but a character assasination to me and my child . It was nothing rather than justifing their own service and existence ! nothing about our own environmental stress triggers from us living in Shelter where i was sexually harassed on a daily basis infront of my child and the second shelter where they discriminated against us . Bear in mind we got out of the worst dv case a person can live fleeing domestic violence from a sociopath in lever 3 in the registry. Also our living condition has zero activity and simulation : we been sent to era where we have zero family, community, resources . Me and my kid are traumatized and marked for that . I has asked in the past his regular therapist to have private session with him. Now with what happened in that unit he is scared and refusing he worries she is like the others who “used our own words against us cherry pick what can make us look bad and our story not told” . yet looking for extra story where there is none . he is asking me. What if I am wrong about her like I was about others? What if she tries to separate us like the others ? how to answer that ? I like the lady and I trust her but he does not at all ! He is demand that I stay till he knows in future he can trust her ! How cam help him restore trust in her at least and not giving to his sepration anexiety and this last trauma.? Please help us .


    January 23rd, 2020 at 6:28 AM

    Very good

  • Natalie

    May 9th, 2020 at 8:02 PM

    I am diagnosed with MDD, GAD, I also have panic attacks. I take medication for this (this is the fourth one we’re trying), but what I really need is therapy. I was seeing a therapist who I really liked, but I had barely started before my mom got tired of taking me. She either says it’s annoying to have to take me or that she didn’t see it helping me any (again, I had hardly begun therapy). How can I get myself help?

  • LaurenGT

    May 11th, 2020 at 8:16 AM

    Hi Natalie. We are so sorry that you are going through this. Feel free to use our site to search for someone who offers telehealth in your state – that way your mom wouldn’t have to drive you – or for a therapist so close to your home or the bus route that you could get there on your own. Another option, if you’re in the sort of school that has school counselors, is to connect with one of them to find out what other resources are available to you. We’re rooting for you!

  • Natalie

    May 12th, 2020 at 6:08 PM

    Thank you. I appreciate it. I live in rural Oklahoma/Missouri so I don’t have access to any public transport, and school is already on summer break, so I’m really glad I found this website because I’m hoping it will lead me to help.

  • Benjamin

    October 14th, 2020 at 8:36 PM

    Im 15 and I have a therapist that i went to with my parents. I had an argument and I said I wanted to talk with my Therapist but my parents won’t let me. What should I do?

  • Katelyne

    November 1st, 2020 at 7:02 AM

    I’m 17 years old in the state of Ky. I need to go to therapy due to my mental health but my parents won’t let me is it possible for me to do that.

  • Francine

    August 23rd, 2023 at 12:11 PM

    My 17 year old stepson confided in me that he wants therapy. His birth mother seems to be source of his angst. Can my husband and I get him help without involving her right now? We are located in NJ.

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