My Approach to Helping
Imagine if other people weren't able to hurt your feelings anymore. What if the things that make you feel stressed, sad, fearful, or angry suddenly didn't have the same impact on you? This is where I come in. In a warm, friendly environment I provide tools to help clients navigate through life's ups and downs. From the most severe crisis to minor concerns I can help you rewire your thoughts and feel better. The way we think about things directly influences the way we feel and the way we behave. It's important to think rationally even when we feel like saying or doing things that are irrational. Irrational thinking is stressful. High-stress levels often lead to anxiety and depression which can put a tremendous strain on a body and mind. This infectious and often overwhelming stress will inevitably affect your marriage, family, and even your job. Stress and anxiety reduction are key factors in improving lives and warding off serious medical issues as well. Together we will fill your metaphorical toolbox with tips, ideas, and techniques to help you work through your challenges. Therapy doesn't have to be difficult and take a long time. You will leave each session with a tool, skill, or idea to promote positive relationships and increased personal growth.
My Role as a Therapist
My role as a therapist is first and foremost to build a trusting and friendly rapport with my clients. The connection between myself and my client is extremely important to developing trust and understanding. Next, I will develop a full understanding of their reasons for seeking therapy and what it is they are hoping to achieve through the therapeutic process. I want to help my clients to identify what they are hoping to change, understand, cope with or achieve. It is also important to me to make my clients feel comfortable and safe. My clients can expect input and insights throughout our conversation along with gentle guidance toward reaching their personal goals in a judgment-free personal empowerment zone.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
My advice to someone who is on the fence about going to therapy is to look at it as an investment in yourself. We invest in our kids, our assets our financial endeavors, and our businesses so why deprive yourself of the opportunity to understand yourself and your environment better? Therapy has changed drastically over the last several years and the negative stigma once associated with seeking therapy has almost completely dissolved. Today people commonly see therapy for what it is... a luxury, a necessity, or a support that some of the most successful people in the world utilize to guide them. It's important to find the right therapist and feel connected to that person and when it's a good match there will positive results.
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
If you've ever had a negative experience in therapy don't throw in the towel. It may not have been a good match and you may have been seeing the wrong therapist for you. It can take a few tries before finding the right therapist for you or your family members. I've heard stories from clients that had gone through some negative therapeutic experiences before seeing me and I have to say I was appalled by some of the things I heard. For instance, one client told me that the therapist got mad at her when she didn't take her advice. This is very unprofessional. If you have ever been to a therapist and felt they were angry or snippy with you, you were in the wrong place. A good therapist would not ever make a client feel that they had been disappointed. This is your life and no-one has the right to judge your choices. Even if the therapist didn't do anything to indicate disapproval to the client, the client didn't feel comfortable enough to address it with the therapist. That's a red flag that it's time to find another therapist. Some clients have had successful therapy experiences for months/years only for their therapist to move away leaving them lost and still dependent on the therapist for help. It's understandable if that person has concerns about starting anew with another practitioner but they should continue anyway especially if they are still not where they want to be mentally, emotionally, or physically. Therapy is a tool that everyone should utilize. Even if it's just to be heard for an hour a week. If cost is an issue, there are many therapists, myself included that will work on a sliding payment scale. Don't let one bad experience stand in the way of your personal growth.