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I work with adults and couples who are thoughtful, capable, and often accustomed to handling life well, but have reached a point where their usual ways of coping no longer seem to be working. They may feel stuck, disconnected, overwhelmed, or unsure of what they want, or they may find themselves repeating patterns in their relationships or work that they don’t fully understand. I also work with people navigating major transitions such as divorce, parenting, career changes, loss, questions of purpose, and the complicated process of figuring out what comes next. My approach is psychodynamic, direct, and deeply curious about what is happening beneath the surface. I help clients understand not only what they are struggling with, but why they respond to life and relationships in the ways they do. Together, we explore patterns, defenses, fears, expectations, and the stories people develop about themselves and others. I value openness and honesty in the therapeutic relationship, and I’m comfortable saying what I see when I think something may be important for a client to consider, even when it may be difficult to hear. At the same time, I want clients to feel that they can bring anything into the room without fear of judgment. My style is warm, engaged, and conversational, and I often use humor and playfulness to bring some lightness to difficult conversations and reduce shame around things that can feel hard to talk about. I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in New York with extensive experience working with individuals and couples. My work draws from psychodynamic, attachment, relational, and differentiation-oriented approaches. I provide psychotherapy through my private practice, The Mindful Map Mental Health Counseling, PLLC, based in New York City. I offer therapy exclusively through secure virtual sessions to clients throughout New York State. My practice is private pay, with superbills provided for clients seeking possible out-of-network insurance reimbursement.

Are you feeling unmotivated, moody, or have run into some sort of life obstacle? Are you too shy or socially isolated? Do you worry too much about tomorrow or the future? My goal is to help you unblock obstacles and help you reach your goals at your own pace. We will work together to improve your quality of life. I currently treat adolescents, children, adults, families, as well as couples. I am a Bilingual Mental Health Counselor and Psychotherapist. I've been working in the area of human services for over twenty years. I help people of all ages strengthen their executive skills in efforts to decrease and even eliminate weaknesses responsible for instability. I am an open-minded therapist whose fundamental goal is to improve your quality of life. Feel free to contact me with any questions and I will promptly reach out to speak to you.

I am currently taking new patients who are experiencing problems with work, school and/or relationships that are due to obsessive and problematic usage of internet/computer/video games. Depression and anxiety are often associated with excessive use of these interactive technologies. Within the past seven years, I have seen a significant rise in my practice in people who have experienced major difficulties that have been rooted in spending too much time online, or excessively involved in one or more forms of interactive technology (i.e., computer/video games). For some, it has to do with excessive internet surfing. For others, it may involve multi-user online games (e.g., World of Warcraft, Call of Duty). A growing number of people have reported spending ("wasting") hours upon hours on blogs, watching Youtube vidoes, and on Facebook, Tumblr, and other social networking sites.

You deserve a life of happiness and health. Together we can understand your life, then craft a plan that addresses the source of your stress. Are you overwhelmed, or unsure how to achieve your goals? Therapy is a powerful tool that can resolve the difficulties you face. It strengthens coping skills and self-esteem.

I’m here to support you through whatever challenges you’re facing—whether it’s healing from trauma, navigating a life transition, or managing feelings of depression and anxiety. I believe that therapy is a powerful tool for growth and healing, providing a safe space where you can explore your thoughts and emotions, gain new perspectives, and develop coping strategies that work for you. Together, we’ll work on building the tools and insights you need to achieve greater mental and emotional well-being. I specialize in a range of areas, including anxiety and depressive disorders, trauma, post-traumatic stress, sexual violence, grief and loss, coping with chronic illnesscancer, life transitions, relationship & family issues, women's and men’s health, infertility, and caregiver distress & burnout.

I believe in the power of therapy to heal and to bring a shift in ones perceptions. My effort is to engage the other in a cooperative process and in doing so to open all kinds of other possibilities in one's life. I have worked as a therapist for quite a few years and feel that the initial coming to the office is a difficult first step, but one that in the end will enable you to have a better quality of life.

Many of my clients come to therapy for help with relationships, and are frustrated that they repeat patterns but don't have an alternative. I believe relationships are central to life and I also know that much of what we learn about how to relate comes from childhood. Often we've outgrown certain ways of interacting, but it can be hard to know what or how to do things differently. My approach to therapy is collaborative and leans heavily on curiosity. I don't see therapy as a place to "get fixed" but a place to explore, learn, and embrace who you are. In order to do things differently, we need to understand ourselves, and this requires an open, non-judgmental a mind. Of course it can feel difficult and even scary to learn about yourself or discover new things, so I will work at your pace and refer to you as the expert on your experiences. I have great respect for our ability to heal and grow if given the opportunity and a safe space to do so. I believe we are all capable of living a life that aligns with who we authentically are, not the person we created to make the world happy.

I believe that we are all meant to live happy lives, full of meaning. I feel strongly that the adversities we face in our lifetime can serve us well by providing us with the opportunity to gain a higher plain of purpose. My passion and excitement for providing psychotherapy stem from my desire to help individuals discover how they can use their negative experiences in a way that benefits their lives.

You’re probably known as the person who has it together. From the outside, you’re capable, successful, dependable, and handling all the things. But inside, your brain may feel like it’s running 47 browser tabs, and you can’t figure out which to close. Maybe you’re exhausted from being “fine,” stuck in perfectionism or overthinking, or carrying a mental load that would qualify as a second full-time job. You may be great at taking care of everyone else while having absolutely no idea what to do with your own needs. Therapy is a place where you don’t have to perform, achieve, fix, or have it all figured out. I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in New York. I specialize in complex trauma and work with high-achievers, perfectionists, and parents who have learned to survive by being capable, responsible, accommodating, and in control. Using approaches such as eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) and Internal Family Systems (IFS) parts work, we’ll explore the patterns underneath the coping without shaming the strategies that helped you get here. You don’t have to wait until you’re completely burned out to ask for help. Maybe you’re ready to understand why you can accomplish so much and still feel like you’re barely keeping up. Together, we can move beyond simply functioning and begin creating a life with more connection, flexibility, and ease. Let’s talk about it.

I provide both teletherapy and telephone options . Please call me for a free 15 minute consultation to see how I can be helpful to you. I am a warm, compassionate and empathic therapist which, in combination with extensive training and skills developed over many years of practice, enables me to work successfully with people who are dealing with a wide variety of issues including stress, anxiety, depression, social anxiety, academic and career concerns, trauma, grief and life transitions. Because each individual is unique, I utilize an integrative approach including Psychodynamic therapy, Hypnotherapy, and CBT, among others, to find the best fit for you. Hypnotherapy can be very helpful in treating a variety of issues including stress, anxiety, and insomnia. CBT addresses negative and self-defeating patterns of thinking and behaviors that may be impacting your life and keeping you stuck and unable to move forward. I also provide stress management and mindfulness training. My area of expertise is working with adults with issues including relationships, life changes, identity, griefloss, depression and anxiety. My practice is diverse and includes people from many different life experiences.

If you're feeling stretched thin between your work, your relationship, or both, and you're exhausted from carrying it alone, you're not imagining how heavy it's become. Maybe you and your partner keep having the same fight without knowing why. Maybe you're successful everywhere except in the parts of your life that matter most. Either way, you're likely here because you're ready for something to actually change, not just to talk about it. I'm Jon Abelack, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in Connecticut, and I work with couples and individuals dealing with relationship strain, career stress, and burnout. Before becoming a therapist, I spent over 20 years in high-stakes careers, so I understand firsthand what it's like to perform under pressure while your personal life quietly falls apart in the background. I bring that same direct, no-nonsense approach into the room. My work draws on Gestalt therapy and Relational Life Therapy, which means we don't just talk about your problems in the abstract. We pay close attention to what's actually happening between us right now, because that usually tells us more than any story about the past. I'll help you communicate more honestly, break the patterns that keep tripping you up, and set the boundaries you've been avoiding, whether that's with a partner, at work, or with yourself. This isn't therapy that drifts for years without direction. It's active, it's honest, and it's built to get you real, lasting movement toward a relationship, or a life, that actually works. If you're ready to feel grounded again, more connected, and back in control, I'd welcome the chance to talk about how we might work together.