My Approach to Helping
I want to to share with you (briefly) what I have learned about helping people over the last 30 years. I see people grow from feeling deeply understood, from being related to in a way that helps to improve their self-esteem and compassion, and from studying their impact on others. People also grow from being given respectful direction and advice. Most people respond to these "emotional nutrients", whether you have anxiety, depression, trauma, relationship or personality issues. I have lots of experience helping people with these and other life issues.
Therapy is a special kind of human relationship, with clear boundaries, that helps you to sit with painful situations and issues in a constructive way that moves you forward. Reducing symptoms, learning to change patterns, learning to live better within yourself, are only a few parts of the process. You may be surprised to hear that psychotherapy can be a beautiful process, creative, interesting, inspiring and enduring.
Your therapist should convey a sense of comfort, thoughtfulness, knowledge and responsiveness, no matter what you share with them, from the first to the final session.
If I were searching for a therapist, that's what I would look for. I hope this helps you get a sense of my style.
More Info About My Practice
I am an Out of Network provider only. My fee is roughly $225.00 per 50 minute session and I can at times offer a sliding scale based on schedule. If your insurance covers OON providers, I would write you a bill that contains all the information your insurance company needs to consider reimbursement. There is much more about this on my new own website. For your own sake, please read and download it, regardless of who you select to be your therapist.
How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist
There is no doubt that working deeply on my own struggles has made me a sensitive and emotionally honest person/therapist who has compassion for a broad range of people and issues. Many people who have the courage to enter therapy have endured painful life situations alone - without anyone really appreciating what they have survived. Often, they need to make a healing relationship that decreases their loneliness and inspires them to create a better life. If my life experience can reduce your shame I am happy to thoughtfully share it with you. This is what makes psychotherapy the deeply humane experience that makes it truly transformational. After all these years, I am still astonished by the gentle power of a psychotherapy experience. It is creative, beautiful work, and of great practical value. Good or great psychotherapy is worth the time, money and effort. It is a life-altering experience.
What I Say to People Concerned about the Therapy Process
There are very specific ways of working with your fear of becoming overwhelmed. I tend to use an approach called Experiential Focusing because it is gentle yet deep, and has served as the foundation for other approaches such as Somatic Experiencing. I am very sensitive to each person's needs for safety. Central to this is the deepening trust and authenticity that we will create with each other over time. So, although there are many techniques out there, and I am familiar with many of them, it is our therapeutic relationship - not techniques- that always comes first.