My Approach to Helping
Therapy should grab you while liberating you. When you are struggling with conflicts or stuck in familiar patterns there should be something so direct, personal, and real about what you discover and practice in therapy that it should dramatically change how you think, feel, and act. That's my specialty. Yet, even though therapy is serious work, there should be room for play: for trying things on, for practice, for being human. I draw upon years of experience working with children, adults and families, and I work primarily from an attachment-informed, emotionally focused therapy (EFT) model. But most of all, I listen carefully to your needs and make adjustments to help you get where you want to go.
ADULTS & COUPLES: If you are an adult coming to work on your own or with your partner, I will start by simply getting to know you. I will spend some time asking about your family and relationship history. We will look at key events and perhaps traumas that have occurred in your life. The purpose for doing this is not to 'dig up the past' but to see how the undertow of past challenges may be showing up in your life today. I will also really listen for the difficulties you are struggling with right now and what you would like to be different. Together we can work on defining your goals and moving towards change in a way that feels supportive.
FAMILIES: Sometimes it's valuable to invite many people into the therapy space. I truly enjoy working with families, either all together or in different pairings. Family therapy is really about having the conversation that is asking to be had. The focus might be about nurturing connection, resolving old 'stuff', shifting expectations or addressing power struggles. Or perhaps there is a life transition, a devastating loss, or unique situation that your family recently experienced and you are seeking a way to to move through the difficult feelings connected with this change.
CHILDREN & TEENS: I work with children from toddlers up through tweens and teens. I love working with kids of all ages. Being able to connect and build a trusting relationship is the first thing I focus on, because without it therapy can't even begin. I use play therapy so children can more fully express themselves. I weave in cognitive-behavioral work. I am passionate about including parents in the process. Whether I am coaching families to try on new parenting strategies or different ways of communicating, the ultimate goal is about making deep and lasting changes that feel natural. Some of the common issues I see include: anxiety, attachment problems, adoption and identity, cutting and self-harm, depression, divorce, aggression, body image/eating concerns, giftedness and performance, sexual abuse, social problems, self-esteem, and parent-child conflict.
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