Is a Happy Marriage Only Seven Steps Away?

Couple sitting together in grass

According to a recent article, you can have a successful and happy marriage if you follow seven simple steps. If this sounds too good to be true, it’s understandable. But, just as losing 20 pounds in one month with limited exercise is unlikely but not impossible, so goes it for marital bliss via seven simple steps.

Step 1 suggests that couples start with communication. Open, honest communication is vital to a healthy relationship. Even if couples find only 15 minutes a day to talk with each other about their hopes, fears, and dreams, this will keep the lines of communication open for when the big issues arise. The next step is to be respectful to each other. Step 3, treating each other with dignity, goes hand-in-hand with respect and will keep the foundation of the relationship strong.

Step 4 is to remember that compromise is not a bad word. Rather than viewing it as giving in or giving up, each partner should view the common ground in their decisions as a way of working together to achieve an outcome that will be mutually satisfying for each. This leads to Step 5, which requires full disclosure with respect to finances. Secrets can kill relationships, and this especially true in the case of money matters. Separate accounts, investments, and purchases are OK, as long as you’re on the same page regarding the overall financial picture.

The next step may be the most difficult for some. However, respecting and bonding with in-laws is necessary for a happy marriage. Even if you don’t become best friends with your extended family, you should make an effort to be civil and cordial when you are together. Any stress between you and them could spill into your marriage. And when difficulties arise, it is nice to know that there is no animosity preventing your family from supporting you when you need them most. The final step is probably the easiest—and most fun: Keep the romance alive! Says marriage counselor Sanjoy Mukerji: “Give appreciation, attention and quality time to your partner, whenever genuinely possible.” Even if you find some of the other steps challenging, this step will make the others worthwhile.

Sawant, Purvaja. 7 secrets to a long-lasting marriage. (n.d.): n. pag. Times of India. 21 Oct. 2012. Web. 21 Oct. 2012.

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  • francis

    November 1st, 2012 at 2:30 PM

    its like the seven important things that often get the least attention.i certainly believe marital bliss can be attained with these seven aspects.but trust me,we do a lot of things to make it difficult for ourselves to follow these seven things.that is a bigger problem than actually following them!

  • graham

    November 1st, 2012 at 3:17 PM

    Maybe. . . but you both have to be willing to walk all the steps together

  • Livy

    November 2nd, 2012 at 4:04 AM

    You’re right- the hardest step is the one re: bonding with the in laws!!
    Isn’t that terrible to feel that way?
    I mean, I can say that I love them because they are the parents of the man I amrried and he is a good one.
    But to want to hang out with them all the time or feel like I am best friends with my mother in law?
    um, no

  • Nolan

    November 2nd, 2012 at 8:41 PM

    While relationship cannot be made I work with formula, there are often things that when followed, can get you close. It is not for nothing that many of these elements have been mentioned by counselors time and again. And these elements have the testimony of many people backing them. I’m no expert in this but they couldn’t all be wrong?

  • Lacey

    November 4th, 2012 at 6:22 AM

    It’s so hard to keep the romance alive after you have kids.

    This is the big thing that my husband and I have struggled with.

    After we decided though that we had to make one another a priority and started scheduling a date night every week, it has made things so much better. Keeping the romance alive has been a challenge but we are making it work, and even when it doesn’t feel like it, it is do-able.

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