Online Dating Causes More Marriages to Go Offline

Stressed woman with laptopInternet dating is more popular than ever. What used to be seen as the last resort for desperate singles is now the chic and trendy way to find that special someone. And although online dating has its perks, some people believe it is a leading factor in the increasing divorce rates throughout the world. In a recent article, Sanjay Shelat, a writer and blogger, explains that both secular and religious folks, despite having opposing views on relationships, feel that the Internet is the culprit. But the latest research shows that even though divorces are occurring more frequently in recent years, they are less likely to happen to people who are religious, or part of a religious community.

Perhaps it is the popularity of civil unions, believes Shelat. The acceptance of nontraditional marriages has resulted in less commitment. This isn’t the case for all married couples, but definitely for some. When things get difficult, it is much easier to reach to the tablet, phone, or laptop for some sympathy than it is to go to the local bar. The sheer volume of available virtual shoulders to cry on creates a new dimension of temptation for those with wandering eyes.

But religion seems to act as shield of sorts that protects people from succumbing to lustful lamentations. “A study of the religious groups revealed a rate of divorce amongst Christian communities is on average 53% less than the rate of divorce among the nonreligious,” Shelat said. Perhaps religious individuals, especially those with close ties to their religious communities, feel more pressure to stay married and behave according to their beliefs. Or maybe the support of a religious family makes it easier for couples to work through difficulties without having to turn outside of their marriages.

Shelat doesn’t believe that Internet dating is all bad. In fact, it is a great way to find people with similar values and interests. It makes weeding out the undesirables a lot easier than the traditional way. But overall, when someone makes a commitment to enter into a marriage, civil or religious, no amount of cyber-temptation should sway them into going astray.

Reference:
Shelat, Sanjay. Online dating causing divorce rates to rise (n.d.): n. pag. Sacramento Bee. 10 Dec. 2012. Web. 10 Dec. 2012. http://www.sacbee.com/2012/12/10/5043277/online-dating-causing-divorce.html

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  • Olivia

    Olivia

    December 21st, 2012 at 5:12 PM

    Is religion really a shield or is it just a way to hide beneath a problem marriage? What I mean by this is that I find that just as many people who are religious and go to church are just as unhappy as the rest of us are in our marriages, they might just think that it would not be the Christian think to do to get a divorce.
    I think that more of them are simply choosing to stay in a painful situation that they should get out of, and is that really what we would wnat for them?
    I am all for people trying to work on their marriages and work things out if that’s what they want, but not if it means suffering in silence and feeling like they have to be miserable.

  • mae

    mae

    December 22nd, 2012 at 8:11 AM

    why are you even looking at online dating if you are married?

  • TT

    TT

    December 22nd, 2012 at 8:48 AM

    Dating, whether online or offline, can definitely cause problems in marriage. What is to consider here is that it has become easier to cheat now and because it is easier more people tend to do that.

    I agree that religious people have a little bump in their way if they plan on cheating but it cannot be generalized. The level of commitment one puts into his or her marriage, which is the foremost reason to not cheat, does not have a lot to do with ones religion.

  • braden

    braden

    December 22nd, 2012 at 1:18 PM

    I find it pretty disturbing that there are still those who will say that the internet is the root cause of so many marital problems? Really? It’s not as if your computer randomly takes you to sites that will get you in trouble. Last time I checked I am still the one who has the control over the web sites that I vist. I am my own person and make my own decisions, good and bad. So if there is a problem in the marriage, that problem is there with or without the internet. You are the one who chooses to make it better or worse.

  • jason

    jason

    December 23rd, 2012 at 2:51 AM

    oh social media is such a good thing! it is a way to stay in touch with long lost friends needlessly, people we wouldn’t have spoken to in high school and now we ‘friend’ them.it is also a good medium for some attention-seeking youngsters to put up every single picture they click and the comments and ‘likes’ to follow.but the best has to be that it can reconnect you with an old flame or someone random,thus paving the way for problems in your marriage.

    get back to the real world people,social networking has more drawbacks than uses and that is exactly why I’m not F’d, or rather Facebook’d.

  • LISA

    LISA

    December 23rd, 2012 at 5:23 AM

    There are many more things today that have been made “acceptable” because of the internet. But that does not make them right :/

  • tyler

    tyler

    December 23rd, 2012 at 1:41 PM

    who says its okay for married people to date and cheat on their significant others?online or offline what’s wrong is wrong.it would not be right to blame the Internet or dating sites for this.they cater to many people who are sincerely looking too,not just cheaters.and as for some dating sites that encourage cheating and all the discrete stuff,I’m totally against them.

  • Roman

    Roman

    December 24th, 2012 at 9:04 AM

    The internet has definitely made it easier to cheat. But you either cheat or you don’t. There’s no such thing as online-only cheating. A cheater is going to cheat regardless. But as the internet and online dating sites have made it easier,it does call for some new-age measures.

    Maybe couples that are in a committed relationship could have each other’s passwords? My wife and I share our passwords and know everything that goes through our accounts. Its easy if you do not have a roving eye.

  • Libby Rhodes

    Libby Rhodes

    December 24th, 2012 at 11:38 AM

    aarrgghh there are so many temptations and downfalls right at our fingertips these days that it’s a wonder we aren’t all making mistakes like this right and left. But what I have learned over the years is that when you really love someone then those things don’t matter. They don’t tempt you quite as much as they would if you didn’t really have a pretty strong relationship with your partner. It’s all about love, and when you know that you have it then you find that you don’t need so much of all that other stuff being thrown at you.

  • Karey

    Karey

    February 18th, 2013 at 7:57 PM

    I found out my husband was looking to hook up after going back to work on the rigs. He got drunk did cocaine and tried to get laid and he swears up and down that he loves me. So we went to counselling and the on sloe kinda made me feel bad for looking at his emails. But this had happened twice before. I told him if I went ‘snooped’ we wouldn’t be here.

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