Am I Depressed?

I can't tell if I'm depressed or not. I've done a little digging around the Internet, but it's still unclear. Basically I feel "blah" all the time. I'm not really getting excited about anything, but I'm also not getting too far low. I don't have suicidal thoughts. I just don't feel happy very much, and the things that I used to find happy don't really make me happy anymore. Would something help me get that feeling back? Is medication the answer? I don't know what to think. I'm just ... blah ... and I have been for about two years, I think. —Blah Blah Blah
Dear Blah Blah Blah,

Determining whether you meet the criteria for diagnosis of a depressive issue would require a face-to-face session with a mental health provider. However, the “blah” feelings you’re describing and loss of interest in previously enjoyable activities are common symptoms of depression. The good news, though, is that yes, you can regain the feeling of happiness you used to have.

Most people go through periods in life that are challenging, and those times can certainly take a toll on your mood. Dips in mood can be circumstantial. For example, job loss or the end of a relationship can have a negative impact on mood. As circumstances shift, the dip in mood may largely take care of itself. Sometimes, however, the circumstances that cause a dip in mood can have a deeper impact and be longer-lasting. Therapy can be a valuable tool for understanding these feelings, healing, and moving on.

I find myself feeling curious about the circumstances of your life. Have you had any major changes, transitions, or losses in your life over the past couple of years? Did you experience any kind of trauma a couple of years back when you believe all of this started? Perhaps no single event leaps out. Sometimes the triggers for depressive symptoms are not so clear. It doesn’t have to be a major event like a job loss, breakup, or traumatic assault. Sometimes mood issues can be triggered by slowly letting go of dreams and desires and settling into a life that isn’t satisfying.

Partnering with a therapist to explore possible triggers for the depressive symptoms you have been experiencing over the past two years might help you to understand how you’ve come to be where you are. Once you have an understanding of how your mood got off track, you might be able to work with your therapist to get back on track.

You inquired about medication. It is certainly possible that medication might help minimize some of the symptoms you are experiencing, but I would suggest finding a therapist as a first step. You may find that partnering with a therapist will provide you with a road map and the support you need to make some changes in your life. If this is the case, medication will likely be unnecessary. If things are a bit less clear cut, you and your therapist might decide that exploring medication options could be beneficial.

I also recommend that you check up with a physician, as there are many health conditions that could contribute to what you’re experiencing.

Whatever path you choose, please know that healing is possible and you do not have to accept the “blah” feeling you have had for the past two years. Best wishes on your journey.

Kind regards,

Sarah Noel, MS, LMHC is a licensed psychotherapist living and working in Brooklyn, New York. She specializes in working with people who are struggling through depression, anxiety, trauma, and major life transitions. She approaches her work from a person-centered perspective, always acknowledging the people she works with as experts on themselves. She is honored and humbled on a daily basis to be able to partner with people at such critical points in their unique journeys.
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  • Garrett

    September 26th, 2014 at 11:09 AM

    When you feel like you have lost that zst for life, well that in and of itself can be depressing . I would definitely seek out a counselor or other professional who can help you idntify those things with which you are unhappy which should then (hopefully) help you have a better picture of the different things that could be going on. mit could be omething really simple to work out or it could be a little trickier but I would at least give yourself the time to check on it and not just ignore it thinking that it will all go away.

  • Reginald Ndokotola

    September 27th, 2014 at 1:45 AM

    I agree with Garret. Seek professional counselling. Don’t diagnose yourself

  • Minako

    September 27th, 2014 at 11:25 AM

    I would like to know the difference between what is real depression and what is just going through a difficult time at this moment. Thank you

  • Wyatt

    September 30th, 2014 at 4:02 AM

    No matter what you are feeling, it could be serious and I would seek out some help. Even if someone tells you that you are fine, this will pass, then at least this will put your mind at ease a little more.

  • Kathryn

    October 13th, 2014 at 4:14 PM

    I don’t think just feeling “blah” all the time is something we have to put up with. It’s possible to feel better, and it’s worth checking out with a therapist. What have you got to lose?

  • Jennifer

    April 12th, 2015 at 8:05 AM

    I feel depressed all the time.. I also have anxiety all the time. Having a special needs child doesn’t help..I may need help, but don’t have money for a therapist..

  • Diana

    April 12th, 2015 at 3:26 PM

    Where do you live? In CA there are SO many accessible programs for mental health. Even medication etc. don’t cheat yourself out of feeling your best. You owe it to yourself!

  • Jennifer

    April 12th, 2015 at 6:31 PM

    I live in Minnesota.. st Louis park,Mn..

  • The Team

    July 27th, 2015 at 11:34 AM

    Hi Jennifer,
    Thank you for your comments, and we apologize for not replying sooner. We performed a search of the directory for therapists around St. Louis Park, MN, and found many in your area! You can explore the search results here.

    We are wishing you the best! Please know you are not alone; there is hope and help available.

    Warm regards,
    The Team

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