My Approach to Helping
Please, if you are grieving the loss of a loved one, come join fellow grievers building and deepening this community of healing, connectedness, insight and renewal.
Washington Irving said, "There is a sacredness in tears. They are not a mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition & of unspeakable love."
Grieving the loss of a loved one may be the heaviest emotion we humans experience. This group focuses on coming to terms with the reality of loss, on working with and through the pain of grieving and on adjusting to life in light of the absence of the deceased, all while finding an enduring relationship with your loved one that allows you to heal and grow and invest in living fully again into the future.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
Through developing a warm, open, authentic and welcoming relationship together you and I co-create opportunities for growth, change, healing, equanimity, and renewal to occur. Work within the therapeutic relationship will immediately begin to enhance each individual's life and the life of their family members. Heck, it very often enhances my life as well. When entered into as a family, the therapeutic process enhances family connectedness and intimacy. Gains made in our time together naturally are disseminated into your day to day life.
No matter what challenges arise in physical, emotional, mental or spiritual realms, each person is uniquely capable of learning to live well despite illness, chronic pain, body changes, depleting treatments, the demands of aging, personal losses or the loss of a loved one.
I offer support to individuals and families in all realms of health, healing and life transitions. I am skilled with mindfulness. Your work with me could focus on coping with any serious and chronic illness; managing the acute phase of mental illness and adjusting to a chronic mental health diagnosis; learning to live with and better relate to chronic pain; considering what one values most and addressing advance directives and advance care planning accordingly; managing the many facets of healing after medical treatments, procedures, surgeries; navigating the unknown and often challenging world of cancer survivorship; settling into chronic disease management; facing dying authentically and openly and preparing to die while focusing on life and living; moving through life while grieving and learning to live fully despite the absence of loved ones; dealing with the strains of other family transitions due to loss through divorce, job loss, lay offs/income decreases, relationship separation, ending of a friendship or coming to terms with the "coming out" of a loved one which is often perceived as difficult; Even during "positive" life events that contain the stresses such as family formation through foster care and adoption or emerging into one's true self through the "coming out" process.
Exploring the aspects of oneself that may have been forgotten in the shadow of "the Problem" can quickly help reduce stresses and guide individuals toward rediscovering inherent and unique knowledge, confidence and wisdom allowing them to stand up to and get the upper hand against problems while honestly acknowledging and diffusing distress related to adaptations to the "new normal."
I provide individual, family and group therapy in person and through encrypted video conferencing.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
"There is a sacredness in tears. They are not a mark of weakness, but of power.
They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues.
They are the messengers of overwhelming grief,
of deep contrition and of unspeakable love."
Grieving the loss of a loved may be the heaviest emotion we humans experience. This group focuses on coming to terms with the reality of loss, on working with and through the pain of grieving and on adjusting to life in light of the absence of the deceased, all while finding an enduring relationship with your loved one that allows you to heal and grow and invest in living fully again into the future.
The process of grieving is saying goodbye and then saying hello again. Every experience of loss is unique (though they may very likely bring up losses experienced years ago) as are the requirements for moving through and healing after a loss. What I have found through the honor of sitting with and companioning many individuals who have experienced the loss of a loved one is that each individual finds their unique way of positioning the absence of their loved one within the context of their life, not ending the relationship completely, what has erroneously become known as "closure," but rather finding where that member - whether connected through family of origin, extended kin, chosen family or friendship networks - resides now, even alongside their absence. This allows for an enduring connectedness, or a "re-membering" of that lost loved one, to naturally arise and a re-emergence into life and fully living to naturally flow and grow.
Attending to your grief will facilitate expressions of deep sadness, often tears, which can be difficult, however, you will experience relief as well, and at the same time foster a new sense of aliveness that allows for an authentic experiencing of the loss and grieving and, very importantly, cultivation of hopes for life and living.
Please come join me in healing, connectedness, insight and renewal through the therapeutic safe space.