My Approach to Helping
Do you feel completely overwhelmed right now but you hide it really well? You seem high-functioning and successful but deep down you worry that you're about to lose it? You may have sleep problems, upsetting thoughts and feel exhausted all the time. You may notice yourself trying to self-medicate in various ways but that isn't working anymore. A major crisis hasn't happened yet but you worry that it could be coming. You might be having some relationship issues or just trying to distract by taking care of everyone else. If you are reading this, part of you wants to seek help now. It could be the most important thing you'll do today.
You can share things in therapy that can't be shared with your usual supports. I will help you identify where unhealthy coping came from, reduce the shame and get on with life. I am a compassionate listener and an active collaborator so you can form better strategies and practice and reinforce healthier ways to cope. You can heal the old wounds and move on. I do what I do because my life was saved by support that included a therapist and circles of strangers that oddly seemed to be experiencing what I was when I thought I was alone in all of it. Living a life of recovery from everything is a lot of work but it's well worth it. Feel free to reach out for a free phone consult. I'd love to hear from you.
More Info About My Practice
In addition to individual therapy I also provide group therapy, including the following:
Power of the Circle: Your issues and concerns are the topics for these groups. It is not based upon a manual or curriculum. As the facilitator, I am like an orchestra conductor. You as group members are the main attraction. I direct the process so things go smoothly and everyone gets her turn. It is important that every woman feels heard. This makes it different from self-help meetings. To be clear, I absolutely endorse 12-step and other groups like Refuge Recovery. A main difference though is that part of group therapy involves direct feedback. Group therapy gives women the chance to draw on the compassion she has for her peers. It then serves as a reminder to direct some of that same compassion back to herself. It involves a sense of connection and commonality that individual therapy cannot provide.
Seeking Safety: Seeking Safety is about learning more about PTSD and recovery. By staying in the present there is less risk of relapsing than with past-focused approaches. We learn about what behaviors and thoughts are common for people surviving trauma and addiction. This group is not a process of looking at details from the past. No one is asked to share specifics about her trauma history with the group. If that is of interest it may be part of individual therapy. That will be entirely up to you.
Most often people come away from this group feeling very validated. It shows you that you aren’t alone in your thinking. Old self-defeating coping skills came about in response to surviving trauma. Developing new coping reduces anxiety and depression symptoms. The goal is to not be bogged down by the impact of trauma. It’s about being able to move on and participate in your life and relationships.
Helping Women Recover: This structured group focuses on women’s empowerment. This group is divided into 4 Modules:
Self, Relationships, Sexuality and Spirituality.
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
Most women I work with have had some not so good therapy experiences. Often I hear that therapists were either stuck in one narrow therapeutic model they were taught or they only did reflective listening and brought no direct feedback. I will work with you in a collaborative way. I will provide lots of suggestions and even homework you can decide to do or not. We will work together so you can make your life better and not need therapy at all.