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Childhood Trauma Left Me Feeling Worthless and Depressed January 23, 2015 . 14 Comments
Thank you for your question. Boy, oh boy were you put through the wringer. My heart ached to read of your experiences. I suppose the short version of my answer would be to see a therapist ... Read More
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I Was Once My Husband’s Mistress. Now I Can’t Trust Him! December 5, 2014 . 71 Comments
Thanks for your question. Six years is a long time to be living with this kind of uncertainty! And not only is this situation more common than you might realize, but the concept of certainty, ... Read More
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Help! What If My Therapist Goes on Maternity Leave Again? July 4, 2014 . 4 Comments
This is a gut-wrenching position you find yourself in. On the one hand, you’ve done some great work with this therapist and built a strong relationship with her; on the other hand, ... Read More
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Understanding My Fear of Abandonment June 29, 2014 . 4 Comments
I am a 59-year-old female. Just recently have I come to understand the consequences of being abandoned over and over again while growing up. Sadly, history repeated itself with my own daughter, ... Read More
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Fear of Abandonment Continues to Hold Me Back May 25, 2014 . 24 Comments
The pervasive challenge of overcoming fears of abandonment is similar to always having to walk uphill under leaden skies carrying an umbrella heavy as stone. The head-shaking irony of the ... Read More
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Can We Survive My Girlfriend’s Control and Abandonment Issues? April 4, 2014 . 7 Comments
Thank you for your question. Boy, have you been on a roller coaster! In fact, this was my first response: Gee, does he really want to get back on? But then I reflected on it, and I began ... Read More
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Young Woman Copes with Holiday Blues via Craigslist December 30, 2013 . 6 Comments
There are many resources published this time of year encouraging those who experience loneliness and depression during the holiday season to explore various ways of connecting with those ... Read More
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Avoidance in Trauma Survivors: An Interview with Robert T. Muller December 18, 2013 . 7 Comments
Those who have endured trauma experience unique challenges in coping with life after the fact. It may feel as though no one understands the anxiety, depression, nightmares, flashbacks, ... Read More
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Why Can’t I Forgive My Mother for Abandoning Her Family? August 30, 2013 . 25 Comments
It sounds like you have tried to get help in so many ways, yet nothing has worked for you. That must be incredibly frustrating. There is no question that being left by a parent is painful. ... Read More
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My Therapist Won’t Email with Me Anymore. I’m Devastated! July 26, 2013 . 16 Comments
Wow. It sounds like you feel like you’ve really had the rug pulled out from under you. It’s certainly understandable; you’ve had daily contact for three years and it has ... Read More
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Resolving Relationship Conflict by Understanding Underlying Concerns July 8, 2013 . 3 Comments
Underlying concerns are primarily what motivate relationship conflicts. In couples’ therapy, partners are encouraged to express their concerns and learn ways to resolve issues that stem ... Read More
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Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse, Part II: The No-Contact Rule June 18, 2013 . 149 Comments
In my previous article, I touched on the subject of narcissistic abuse recovery. I decided to write a second article as a follow-up for individuals who wish to explore further how to move ... Read More