My Approach to Helping
DO YOU FIND YOURSELF ACTING IN SELF-DEFEATING WAYS AT WORK, HOME OR IN YOUR INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS?
We live in a world where it seems important to be able to appear healthy and confident. Unfortunately, many of us don't actually feel that way. As a result, we have learned to put on a mask or create a persona that we believe people want to see. We are often praised during the time we are wearing our mask and feel weak when we take it off. It is no wonder that we begin to identify as the one wearing the mask rather than the authentic person we really are.
Wearing the mask has a cost. By silencing our authentic selves, we are able to present a life that looks successful but is actually shot through with anxiety, depression and other unpleasant mood states. Over time, we are less able to keep up the show and our lives start falling apart. Somewhere along the way, we may begin to experiment with, use, abuse and perhaps become dependent on alcohol, drugs, food, sex, shopping or some other compulsive behavior in order to defend against unpleasant feelings that arise when we veer from our true, authentic nature and force ourselves to identify with our public persona or mask. We begin to self sabotage.
If you can learn how to remove your mask and befriend the parts of yourself that you would rather not acknowledge, you will live a much more fulfilling life and you will unlock enormous creativity.
More Info About My Practice
Choosing the right therapist can be confusing. It is important that you feel comfortable with the person you will be spending time and money with. It is also important that they are able to help you.
My therapeutic style is warm and nonjudgmental. I bring together what I have found to be the most useful combination of different modalities and perspectives to help each client in a personal and unique way. The work we do together will be aimed at affecting lasting change. My style is collaborative and client centered. I am an active participant in the therapeutic process.
I will attempt to facilitate your innate ability to heal yourself and become whole. I will help you become unstuck in old patterns. You may be unaware of seemingly small decisions that you are unconsciously making that are self defeating. You may be your worst enemy. While our negative experiences in this world have led some of us to live in a fearful and defensive way, it is my belief that we each have within us the ability to heal from our pain and begin to live our lives from a place of security and confidence
Fear of pain is the real issue. In my experience, the fear of the pain is actually worse than the pain itself.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
Do you or someone you love struggle with alcohol, drugs, or another compulsive behavior?
Do you or your family need help navigating a relative's substance abuse problems?
Did you grow up or currently live in an alcoholic or otherwise dysfunctional environment?
Do you find yourself acting in self-defeating ways at work or in your intimate relationships?
Are you an adult but sometimes feel more like a child?
Do you wonder why your relationships are not fulfilling?
Do you have a difficult time determining what 'normal' looks like (behavior, relationships, etc)?
I'm a psychotherapist with over 15 years of experience working with individuals, couples, and groups to help them achieve their goals. I have worked with individuals suffering from a variety of issues, couples seeking to better understand their relationship, and families whose members are learning how to communicate more effectively and coexist more peacefully. My approach is clinically grounded and client centered. My work focuses on helping you find meaning in your life.
My specialties include addiction, codependency, adult children, anxiety, and depression.
How Psychotherapy Can Help
"Stranded" is a psychotherapeutic process group for individuals coping with loss of self during childhood. This loss causes stress, depression, anxiety, and interferes with your ability to have intimacy with others. Today, you feel isolated.
You may have many friends yet feel lonely because those around you are interacting with the false self you created to?survive. Your true self is buried under layers of defenses designed to protect you at a dangerous time in the past. You feel cut off from real life- as if you were stranded on an island.
In this group, you will be challenged to rediscover your true self.
Individual Assessment: $60
Weekly Group Fee: $60
Crosstalk is an ongoing psychotherapeutic process group for members and former members of 12 step groups who are recovering from alcohol/substance use, misuse, abuse or dependence and who are seeking to broaden the scope of their recovery. This group will also accommodate those to whom the 12 steps do not appeal.
The group is for individuals who have attained a level of stability in their lives and are interested in working on their Emotional Sobriety. Emotional Sobriety, for this group, is defined by the ability to interact with peers, engage in intimate relationships, work and play in an evermore authentic manner. This interpersonal process group will address group members? ?outside issues.?
What Makes up a Problem?
Addiction affects the entire family and navigating through the processes of recovery, relapse, and long term sobriety are complex. The different roles that each member of the family plays can become very confusing and overwhelming when someone uses drugs, drinks alcohol, and/or behaves in other compulsive ways.
How does the mother, father, sister, brother, son, or daughter of a substance abuser relate to the substance abuser without feeling manipulated? What do you do if the addict/alcoholic relapses? How can you continue to live your life while somebody you love is destroying theirs? How can you begin to heal from the toll of your loved one's addiction? How will you determine what role you have played in this situation? Are you helping or hurting the addict? Are you helping or hurting yourself?
It takes great effort from each member of the family to come to terms with the traumas associated with substance abuse and other forms of dependence, and begin to recover. With supportive counseling, I can help you work through what can be a complicated and confusing process of making decisions, steering through fraught relationships, and creating a healthy path forward.