My Approach to Helping
My therapeutic approach is to provide a collaborative, compassionate, deeply non-judgmental space in which you and I can explore the areas in which you feel stuck and uncover what's holding you back. Sometimes this means grieving a loss, sometimes it means re-examining core beliefs you've been holding onto about yourself and/or others, and many times it's a little of both. My hope and intention for my clients is that you develop a strong, grounded, resilient sense of self with which to face life's challenges. I also believe strongly in providing a comfortable, warm, and inviting space in which to do this important life work -- it's hard to talk about your most personal stuff under fluorescent lights, am I right?
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
I specialize in assisting couples or individuals touched by infidelity (including emotional affairs), those grieving losses through break-up or divorce (including if you feel like you "should be over it by now"), those grieving the death of a loved one including pregnancy loss, individuals and families coping with a chronic, terminal, or otherwise life-altering medical diagnosis, and those processing (or considering) big life transitions -- chosen or not.
I'm also completing a certification in sex therapy, because I believe it's important for us to be able to discuss all of the ways that sexuality impacts and is impacted by the rest of your life. I specialize in sexual dysfunction, sexual pain, and couples or individuals who struggle with sexual desire.
I'm a queer-affirming and trans-affirming therapist, and I work with monogamous, non-monogamous, and polyamorous clients, without prejudice.
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
Finding the right therapist is not always easy, but therapy with a clinician you really "click" with can be an incredibly liberating experience, and can create real movement in your life. If you're skeptical about entering or re-entering therapy, let's talk about it. If you want to meet with me for a free half-hour consultation (or a half-fee hour), that might help you get a sense of whether we 'click'.
If you and your partner have tried couples therapy before and feel like it didn't help, I encourage you to talk to me about your experience -- some therapists and counselors practice couples therapy without receiving specific training in it. My graduate degree required extensive experience specifically with couples and families, and my theoretical orientation is very much steeped in what it means to relate to one another. In fact, I kind of geek out about this.
Also, if you and your partner are 'on different pages' about going to couples therapy vs. beginning a separation or break-up process, I offer Discernment Counseling, a short-term process to help you get clarity and agreement on that decision.