Seeing Fireworks? Perhaps You’ve Found the Love of Your Life

Illustration of couple watching fireworks

Well, maybe not real fireworks. But according to MeiMei Fox—a speaker, depth psychotherapy life coach, and author of a recent article—feeling as if fireworks are exploding is one of the 10 sure signs that you’ve found your true love. Fox, who has had her share of failed relationships, worked with her new husband to come up with 10 signs that partner is Mr. or Mrs. Right:

  1. Sexual attraction: Even though fireworks may eventually smolder, sexual attraction to your partner is a must and serves as a foundation for love, honesty, and intimacy.
  2. Authenticity: Partners should be comfortable with each other exactly as they are, with no pressure to act like someone they’re not.
  3. Commitment: If one partner is not able to commit wholeheartedly to the relationship, it could mean they have doubts. Commitment is at the core of a true loving union.
  4. Honesty: There is no place for secrets in the most important relationship of your life. “When it’s true love, you should find yourself wanting to share everything,” Fox says. “Your love is made simple and true by being honest.”
  5. Unity: Each partner must put his or her needs behind those of the relationship. As the old saying goes: “There is no ‘I’ in team.” True love is about teamwork.
  6. Priority No. 1: The relationship should come before anything else. The love you share with your soulmate should be the most valuable thing in both of your lives, and you should stay committed to letting nothing get in the way of working toward and sharing in its success.
  7. It’s romantic: Relationships should not be all work. They should be fun, and each partner should be living in the fun of the relationship rather than talking about the relationship and its problems.
  8. Your friends are happy: People sometimes worry too much about what their friends will think of a new love interest. Fox agrees that outsiders may be able to see things in your partner that you can’t. When family and friends like the person who makes you happy, it’s a good sign.
  9. You want to be home: Looking forward to returning home to the arms of your partner reinforces that you’re with someone you love, value, and enjoy being with.
  10. Having that lucky feeling: Fox says that she feels as if she’s won the lottery every morning she wakes up next to her husband. Although that might not happen all the time for most people, you can be pretty sure you’ve found a keeper if you feel darned lucky that he or she found you too.

Reference:
Fox, MeiMei. 10 Signs You’ve Found “The One” (n.d.): n. pag. The Huffington Post. 12 Sept. 2012. Web. 12 Sept. 2012. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/meimei-fox/10-signs-youve-found-the-_b_1870841.html

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  • abbie b

    abbie b

    September 24th, 2012 at 1:25 PM

    I have felt this way about my husband from the very first time that I met him and it makes me so thankful to have him in my life!
    I know that there are some people who say that real love doesn’t have to come with those fireworks, but I say pooh on that, real love IS all about the sparks and the fireworks!
    When you stop making one another a priority it shows in how you relate to one another, and in how you feel about your partner. Whole lots easier to continue to do all the hard work so that your spouse remains your top priority in life.

  • dillon

    dillon

    September 24th, 2012 at 9:22 PM

    there is many things that can help see that this person in front of you is the special one for you.and the things mention here are very close if not perfect.identifying these things is not too tough but for the occasional person it could be a tougher nut to crack…nevertheless it is a wonderful feeling indeed…feels great to fall in love… :)

  • Davis Stewart

    Davis Stewart

    September 24th, 2012 at 11:50 PM

    I’m not sure having these ‘ideal’ signs may be a great idea. After all, what’s in your mind often seems to come alive when you WANT it to rather than when it SHOULD by itself. I wouldn’t want to have my head stuck around a few things and expect to see them for certain to tell me that it is the love of my life ;)

  • Sal

    Sal

    September 25th, 2012 at 3:45 AM

    Sometimes the fireworks could be a little deceptive, don’t you think? Who is to say that the firewroks that you are feeling are the kind that will last forever? Maybe you have this feeling confused with lust for the person that you are feeling, or maybe it’s just that initial attraction that is throwing you off kilter. Either way, while I hope that these fireworks do mean forever for you and that you have found that lasting and true love, I think that you have to give it a little time to know if it is that love that is going to be right and everlasting.

  • cyndi coxe

    cyndi coxe

    September 25th, 2012 at 8:51 AM

    Aaahhh it’s those fireworks that from the very beginning make things so fun and exciting!

    I have told both of my sons that if the fireworks aren’t there, then don’t try to make them be there. If it’s the real thing and she’s the one for them then they will be instant.

  • SHELTON

    SHELTON

    September 25th, 2012 at 9:10 AM

    These sound like good indicators but most of them would tell you you are in love.There is no way of knowing the couple is compatible or that the relationship has good prospects does it?That is a real mystery,isnt it?

  • Soco

    Soco

    September 25th, 2012 at 9:21 AM

    And what is it when just one of the partners feels it? the 10 ! is it just a confirmation that you have found your true love but you are not his/her and then you have to let it go then :/

  • Alana

    Alana

    September 25th, 2012 at 4:40 PM

    There is that immense feeling of goodness and everything feels pleasant when you’re in love.And the feeling that’s present when you spend time with the special person just cannot be described.Yes,I’m in love and very happy to see that things mentioned here are what I feel about him <3

  • Trevor

    Trevor

    September 26th, 2012 at 12:01 AM

    There is that weird unexplainable feeling that just tells you this person is the ONE for you! I have had this happen to me and I can tell you, when it is the one for you, you just know! Maybe the signs will differ for different people but that great feeling inside that never changes!

  • Marina S

    Marina S

    September 26th, 2012 at 5:32 AM

    I know that I am a hopeless romantic and often my friends will just roll their eyes at me when I confess that I still believe in love at first sight, but I do!

    I do think that when you meet the person you are supposed to be with then there will be this feeling that you can’t deny and you will just feel those fireworks.

    Of course there are those who will argue that this is not true, if it was then the rates of divorce would not be so high. But my argument is that divirce doesn’t necessarily happen because you are not with the right person. What if this was the right person but one or both of you stop trying to make things right? Or what if you just rushed in? Just because there is that spark doesn’t mean that you can skip over the steps of getting to know each other.

    But there is still something to this that just feels right to me. There is that something that is undeniable that you sometimes have and when you feel it then you have to act on it!

  • josie

    josie

    September 30th, 2012 at 8:13 AM

    Aren’t there more people like me out there who find this a little too simplistic?
    Yes I want to find the love of my life just like anyone else. That’s important to me too.
    But I don’t think that I will know it when that tall handsome stranger automatically walks into the room.
    The person you end up with for life may not give you those fireworks when you first meet. I don’t think that you really feel the fireworks that will last until you get to know someone. And those things take time!
    The ones that you sense the firewroks with from the very beginning, who is to say that those feelings will last forever? That might just be that immediate gut sexual reaction based on looks; but when you get to know him, you might be thinking ewwww gross instead.

  • Danny B

    Danny B

    February 9th, 2015 at 11:11 AM

    That is an absolutely sure fire way to get completely duped by a charming talented covert sociopath!!!! I truly know this from my own horrible experience. That article should also warn you about taking things slow and to watch out for warning signs and lovebombing!!

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