It Needs to Happen, but the Idea of Creating a Will Makes Me Anxious

Lynn Somerstein
Lynn Somerstein, PhD, NCPsyA, C-IAYT is a Manhattan-based, licensed psychotherapist with more than 30 years in private practice. She is also a yoga teacher and student of Ayuveda—the Indian science of wellness. Her main interest is in helping people find healthy ways of living, loving, and working in the particular combination that works best for them, connecting to their deepest energic source so their full range of abilities can be expressed. Lynn's specialty is understanding and alleviating anxiety and depression.
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  • Gavin


    November 7th, 2017 at 2:06 PM

    Shouldn’t it cause you more anxiety to think about dying without having one and having your intentions and wishes explicitly known?

  • Margie


    November 8th, 2017 at 11:10 AM

    When you reach that point and have to confront the reality that you will not be around forever, yep, that can be a little overwhelming for even the strongest of us.

  • Lynn Somerstein

    Lynn Somerstein

    November 8th, 2017 at 1:49 PM

    It’s scary, that’s true.
    Take care,

  • william


    November 11th, 2017 at 6:33 AM

    Please take something from my story. My dad didn’t leave a will, and I still am not on speaking terms with my brothers as a result of that. I don’t know where all the animosity and anger came from but once dad dies and we had to try to work out the estate it has just been a mess that I wish other families could avoid. And the sad thing is that there really isn’t all that much to be fighting over and yet here we are. I don’t know that him having a will would have made things any better. Maybe the resentment would have still been there. But at least we would know that this is what he would have wanted. At this point we all have different ideas about what that is and it has taken a huge toll on the whole family.

  • Lynn Somerstein

    Lynn Somerstein

    November 11th, 2017 at 11:50 AM

    William, thank you for writing about the problems this caused your family– it’ generous of you to use your experience to help others. I’m sorry for the confusion and animosity that you and your family are experiencing.
    Take care,

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