Fred Harlan, MA, MA, MFTI

Fred Harlan, MA, MA, MFTI

Professions: Marriage & Family Therapy
License Status: I'm a therapist practicing under supervision
Primary Credential: Marriage & Family Therapist Intern - 74125
Verified Credentials
1-800-651-8085 ext. 29969
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Thousand Oaks, California 91360 - United States

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Over the course of a lifetime, there are a number of stressors that a couple can face. I can help you with at least three of them:

1. The Relationship itself. Relationships are not easy and can be hard work at times. In keeping up with the hustle and bustle of every day life we some times realize that we are not communicating well, feeling stressed out and arguing over the same things. Things happen in which trust is questioned or broken. Or perhaps we simply don?t feel as connected or in love as we once did. I can help you to recapture that loving feeling, communicate more effectively, re-establish trust and learn to resolve arguments quickly and fairly.

2. Infertility. For 1 out of every 8 couples having a child is not as easy as simply trying. If you are one of those couples then you know the heartbreak, loneliness and anxiety that infertility brings. Each couple?s, and each person?s, infertility journey is unique and has individual needs. At the same time, there are many commonalities that couples experience. As a person who struggled with infertility, I experienced first hand the benefits of seeing a therapist skilled in infertility to help me manage the stress, emotions and pain, and assist my wife and me make informed decisions that were right for us along the way.

3. Parenthood or more specifically, Fatherhood. When a couple has a child everything changes. The couple goes from being lovers to ?business partners? in terms of raising their child. Not only are we trying to learn how to care for this little person who did not come with an instruction manual, but we are also learning how to relate to one another in this new way. On top of that, there is a whole host of additional challenges that a birth can bring such as postpartum depression, changes in hormones and dramatic changes in or the disappearance of your sex life. Being a new dad can feel like change and stress on steroids, even during the most joyful parts of parenthood. If you are feeling overwhelmed or finding yourself in need of some help, I will teach you strategies for parenting to raise a healthy happy child, to be a supportive partner, mange your stress and thrive in your new found role of Dad.

Email or Call Fred Harlan, MA, MA, MFTI at 1-800-651-8085 ext. 29969

More Info About My Practice

I am an in-network provider for AETNA and Kaiser. For all other insurances, I will be happy to provide you with a detailed invoice at the end of each month for you to seek reimbursement from your insurance company.

What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist

I love seeing the changes in a couple's body language as they begin to experience new and more positive ways of relating to one another. I see them go from sitting apart, arms folded and legs crossed to sitting closer with an arm around the shoulders or a hand on a knee. But the best part is when anger or sarcasm disappear and they are once again able to look into one another's eyes with love.

After my wife and I struggled through infertility, I became passionate about helping couples, and especially men, to maintain hope. I can help you manage stress, preserve their relationship, and make informed decisions that are best for you and your partner through the infertility journey.

Thriving as a father is one of the greatest joys I have ever experienced. Helping new dads experience that same feeling is the next best thing.

Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist

The two most important factors for choosing a therapist are:

1. Choose a specialist for that which you are seeking help. There are a lot of therapists, counselors, psychologists and even coaches out there, most of whom will tell you that they can help you. However, when you look at their profiles and websites they provide a laundry list of conditions that the claim they can help with. How can any one person be good at all those things? There's an old saying that goes "a jack of all trades is a master of none." This absolutely true when it comes to therapy and counseling. A therapist who specializes in only a couple of areas is someone who repeatedly helps people with those type of issues and has become skilled at doing so. Thus, the likelihood that you can get where you want to be increases greatly with a specialist.

2. Choose a therapist who you like, connect with, can trust and who you think will be able to help you achieve your goals.

Services I Provide

  • Individual Therapy & Counseling
  • Marriage, Couples, or Relationship Counseling
  • Family Therapy
  • Group Therapy
  • Online Counseling / Phone Therapy

Ages I Work With

  • Adults


  • English

Client Concerns Within Your Scope of Practice

  • Communication Problems
  • Fertility Issues
  • Infidelity / Affair Recovery
  • Parenting
  • Pre-Marital Counseling
  • Relationships and Marriage
  • Self-Care
  • Trust Issues

Types of Therapy

  • Breathwork
  • Conflict Resolution Therapy
  • Emotion Focused Couples Therapy
  • Emotionally Focused Therapy
  • Existential Psychotherapy
  • Family Systems Therapy
  • Mindfulness Based Interventions
  • Narrative Therapy
  • Solution Focused Therapy

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