How to Rediscover the Sacred Space Within Yourself

forest pathMost of us at some point have felt a deep longing to go home. This home for which we yearn is usually an inner state of being, rather than an actual physical place. We may feel a tug of nostalgia and imagine that our desire is to return to the house where we grew up, but the ache that we feel deep inside tends to be more for the childlike sense of wonder and innocence that we left behind.

As young children, we have the ability to truly inhabit each moment. This innate gift allows us to be acutely aware of and connected with nature and the universe around us. We are not concerned by what might happen tomorrow or haunted by thoughts of the past. Instead, we are in a deep relationship with whatever presents itself to us in the moment, creating a sense of sacred space.

At times in our lives, we sometimes stumble across this sense of sacredness again and are catapulted into a timeless moment. Our hearts might be touched by the beauty of a sunset painting the sky crimson and gold, or we might be struck with awe by the magnificence of an ancient church or cathedral. Sometimes, a poem or piece of art can move us to tears if it resonates with that deep place of yearning within.

As we grow older, however, we frequently lose this sacred aspect of ourselves as we become more and more preoccupied with outer concerns. On some level, though, we realize that we have become separated from the very core of our being and yearn to return to that state of joy and wonder. We often try to ignore the inner pangs of the heart or run away from them by becoming involved in an unending list of activities. At times, the ache may subside to a dull throb, as we lose ourselves in our work, surf the web, text our friends, or do anything else to take our minds off our pain. At other times, we may feel a deep sadness that won’t let up and that can, on occasion, deepen into depression.

Often, the solution can involve offering ourselves the gift of time to truly sink into our feelings, rather than running away from them. Connecting with nature can be a perfect first step for tuning back into our own natures. Walking along a forest path lined with majestic pines, or sitting in the sand meditating to the sound of the waves crashing on the shore, presents perfect opportunities to let go of the mind’s frantic pace and help us to reconnect with the slower rhythm of our hearts.

When the pangs of the heart become unbearable and the ache turns into depression, professional help may be another answer. Within the context of a compassionate therapeutic relationship, a deeper exploration of the true ailments of the heart can be undertaken. Through the willingness to peel back the layers of one’s carefully constructed facade and reveal the truth of one’s being to another, a deep inner healing can take place.

The sacred space of a timeless moment can be discovered anytime two people meet on a truly authentic level, in all of their vulnerability and humanity. Some of the tools that can be helpful in this journey involve becoming more mindful of our feelings and reconnecting with our symbolic nature by means of dreamwork and active imagination.

In the safe container of a caring therapeutic relationship, we can turn our focus inward and begin to share our deepest wounds with another. Although the process can be frightening and painful at times, by revealing our wounds and airing them out, we can start to nurse them back to health, rather than keeping them hidden and festering inside. As we honor the aspects of ourselves that we had previously kept hidden away, we start to more fully inhabit the present moment once again and to reconnect with the sacred space within—our inner source of peace and joy.

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  • tooshy

    July 24th, 2014 at 11:36 AM

    A large part of what I am going through is that I feel like with everything that I have to give to the other people in my life that I have lost that sacred space because I never have nay time left for me.

    This is quite draining both emotionally and physically, not becasue I feel like I have secrets that I need to keep hidden but mainly because I don’t have nay time to do the things or enjoy the things in life that are very much things that I once found joy in.

  • Riley

    July 25th, 2014 at 4:12 AM

    This is so beautifully written and very encouraging for any of us who feel sort of lost, and want to get back to who we really are at the more basic level.

  • Melissa

    July 27th, 2014 at 5:07 AM

    I love to watch children become so lost in amazement and wonder at the world around them.

    I suppose that as adults we feel like we have been there, done that so much that it is hard to recognize all of that beauty and wonder anymore. We become quite immune to the joyful things that surround us. How sad :(

  • carlos

    July 29th, 2014 at 5:57 PM

    On one end of the human spectrum you have tyrants who’ve totally lost touch of the sacred space within and on the other you have the mystic or teacher who bathes in its infinite delights. How much more cool would this world be without the former.

  • Brittani

    July 30th, 2014 at 4:20 AM

    I don’t know if anyone else has noticed this but I used to love to play all sorts of things alone when I was a child- dolls, just going outside, it didn’t matter I could let my imagination run wild for hours on end. As I have grown a little older I have noticed this tendency to always want to be aorund other people more, and that has become a huge issue for me because I don’t know what happened to trigger that but I would rather do almost anything now except be alone. I at one time enjoyed that so much but have lost it and am not sure what happened but I would love to reclaim that but how?

  • Nicole

    October 25th, 2014 at 6:35 PM

    Hello Britanni,

    It is good to hear that you would like to reclaim your alone time. It is also important to spend some times in our sacred space in this chaotic society. I would like to suggest starting a journal; it may be a good start (eg. 5 minutes to write a thought, a memory or a daily activity). As time progress, you will eventually find that alone time is back in your life. Hope this helps! :)

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