My Approach to Helping
I know what it's like to want to find a therapist who shares some of your identities or values and how hard it can be sometimes to find a good fit. People who work with me tend to say things like "I feel different than other people and not really understood", "Why don't other people seem to have these big feelings?", "I feel afraid of being targeted for one or more of my identities", and "I feel like an imposter, like I'll be found out". My practice is focused on helping people with these same kinds of worries and grief find some peace and some hope and some self-love. Yes, I said love! In therapy, sometimes you might cry and other times we might both be laughing really loud. Some days you'll leave feeling like a huge weight's been lifted off. Other days you'll leave feeling determined, with a list of "to-do's". You and your well-being are important. Investing in therapy is one step you can take to show yourself that you matter.
More Info About My Practice
People who know me describe me as intuitive, curious, smart, sometimes funny, and fiercely caring. Folks I work with are ready to dig deep, even though it's scary, and to hold sacred space together. Some of my clients process their sessions afterwards through creating art or writing about their insights. Others may share what they're learning with a friend. Things I've learned over the years in my own life about this process: 1) Don't see a therapist who hasn't been to therapy. You can ask this when you call or have a first session! It's okay to have that transparency. 2) You get what you pay for, just like buying a car or picking out a restaurant for dinner. 3) You get out what you put in. A therapist who invests in their own training and ongoing learning can be a great guide and support, but they can't do the work for you.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
I've worked for 10 years with the trans community, assisting people with gender exploration and transition needs, including children and their families. I've worked with partners of people going through transition.
My work with LGBTQ+ folks has included relationship counseling, parenting coaching, and support during fertility treatments and family building.
Additionally, I've done individual supportive work with straight people who are navigating polyamory or non-monogamy or who are artists, creatives, or activists looking for emotional support for their work.
Many of my clients, regardless of identities, have found in our work that issues related to having a parent who has a narcissistic or borderline personality disorder or been abusive has emerged. I use EMDR treatment for trauma recovery work with a majority of my clients at some point in their therapy.
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
A lot of folks come to see me after they've tried therapy before, sometimes more than once and didn't have a good experience. For my clients, it usually had something to do with a therapist's missteps and misunderstandings related to gender identity, sexuality, and/or race. Some of the people I work with saw a therapist for a long time but could never disclose a deep trauma or "come out" to the therapist about a certain identity because of a feeling that the therapist wouldn't get it or would be judgmental. I ask people to think about what has worked for them in the past with therapy and what definitely has not and to share that with me in our first meeting. Your first meeting with a therapist is really a time for both of you to see if you feel comfortable working together. The first session isn't a commitment. It can be scary to think of needing to see a few therapists before finding one that works for you, but it's important. You want someone you could see off and on in your life for years if need be whenever things come up-somebody who's on your team. So, don't give up! Try it and know that there IS a therapist out there for you.