My Approach to Helping
I work with individuals, couples and children who are struggling with stepfamily issues. Graduate school offers no education in stepfamily. As a result most therapists are not trained to work with re-coupling and children.
I have been seeing only clients in remarriage for 30 plus years.
Our model of how we work uses the concept of business management. Our work is educational and directive. We manage, we advise on role descriptions, discipline issues, conflicts of loyalty, who comes first, the children and young adults, rejecting and acting out and much more.
I have written 5 books
we provide solutions
More Info About My Practice
Individual therapy is based on "individuating" What is best for the person not the couple and family. We provide the map of how to work as a couple in the often confounding stepfamily system.
Most therapist focus on feelings and past relationships. Our first focus is taking care of what's up to bat NOW. The present to a positive future
66% of remarriages fail in traditional therapy. 84% of our clients are still together 3 years post counseling.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
I am skilled at helping with the classic issues in the stepfamily.Some are : the need to manage the new family...stepfamily system.... the stepmother's role; the bio parent and discipline, how to parent in the short period of time with the children; conflicting loyalties, the biological relationship and the partnership relationship conflicts in step.
Sex and blood conflict in step.
The stepfamily cannot and will not
function as does a biologically connected family.
It can't. It won't
"Trying to manage a stepfamily is like a biologically connected family
is like using the rules of checkers to play chess.
"Stepfamilies don't blend...they collide"
How Psychotherapy Can Help
How our work helps: We educate and organize the confusion of the stepfamily.
Your life is changed after the first session. Why? because we have answers and years of insight and knowledge.
We honor and work out differences. And there are many.
Our worked is supported by substantial research involving more than 5000 individuals.