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Ashley "Cat"July 11th, 2012 at 5:57 AM
How sad and how great an understanding you have. Having met many individuals in my life that appear to be something other than human I wonder is there is a trancendence in their behaviours to what you have described above. Could it be that we mis-understand the interactions as mean and cruel when in reality they are simply a function of their environment?
California girlJuly 23rd, 2012 at 5:19 PM
What is human exactly and how does one feel human. I often times wonder exactly how we have defined these feelings and then how we identify with them. Many times I feel closer to my cat than I do to the other humans in my life. Does this mean that I am not human?
OlafMarch 2nd, 2013 at 5:47 AM
I heard a patient saying that during lots of years he had not felt human; he became a Marine as his brother did too. They went to Vietnam and his brother died there. During funerals he could not feel anything but stiffness and cold in his chest. He regretted that very special day because of not being able to hug his mother and father, he could he was a soldier (his words). Looking backwards he realized that he had not felt human for many years; numbed, isolated, out of his body many times. What a part of him wanted was to protect himself and others from becoming hurt by him because of his angry outbursts. Therapy made him human “again”. He no longer felt the necessity of disconnecting to feel safe.
SofiaNRageMay 11th, 2013 at 1:17 PM
I’m not disconnected from me, I know what I feel and think, but looking around me I soon realize that I am not like the humans around me.
The brightest humans are at best ignorant Neanderthals, they lack intelligence, reasoning, and logic. They base their actions on lies and emotions. None of them have a capacity to think. They survive and prosper by sheer number and their bizarre breeding that is contrary to nature, the poorer and less access to resources that can support them the higher number of offspring breeding pairs will birth.
C.September 20th, 2017 at 12:29 PM
my constant thought
“their bizarre breeding “
joshuaFebruary 18th, 2018 at 6:25 PM
I understand exactly what you mean. But you are not alone. I am honestly wondering if we, as a species, are at the cusp of a divergence. It does seem that the intelligent among us are ever becoming an endangered species, and the dim are breeding out of control. I had a bit of a crisis with this notion in high school, and with far too much free time, I began to explore the world of thought, and often found that even my teachers were unable to keep up. I learned that sometimes it is not a bad thing to keep one’s own council, but at the same time, one cannot isolate themselves either. One must endeavor to find others with which one can share the perpetual joke that is the human experience, and remember that your experiences may vary…
AntithesisAugust 31st, 2013 at 5:47 AM
SofiaNRage – I know exactly what you mean. I have found that even among those considered “successful” or “intelligent” they become like a deer in headlights when confronted with something they do not understand and need reason to figure out. I have also noticed people tend to feel an emotional reaction first, and rather than tempering it with rationality, they start twisting the facts and their thoughts to support their feelings. Properly, one should assess a situation for what it is and then decide how to feel.
Susanne – you sound like you fit the bill of your own description of a good therapist for me. Have any colleages in Austin, TX you might recommend? As much as I abhor the current state of humanity, I still see so much potential for them. I know I will never truly be one of them, but if I could just connect with people, maybe I can help fix this mess of a planet.
AnnaFebruary 24th, 2017 at 8:00 PM
Well said I know exactly how you feel. It’s difficult to feel like the outcast amongst humans and it is difficult to interact with people who simply can’t wrap their brains around the concept of the “freak” or the data point that doesn’t quite fit the standard curve. Most “intelligent” or “successful” simply lack the ability to accept someone who is who doesn’t fit the mold of humanity. A “dear in headlights” is a good description. That particular reaction leaves me with the feeling of not being human.
RichardSeptember 30th, 2014 at 5:53 PM
I don’t feel human. I love people and I don’t feel like I can solve problems better or faster than any other person I know. I do notice robot like features in the random people I meet. it breaks the connection I should feel being a human. I don’t like looking at people because even though their mouth is moving I see something else. the mouth is a poor way to translate your true being
TubeNovember 30th, 2014 at 1:38 AM
It seems we are all predisposed to emotion… and we may question whether we need to be. Yet we are numbed by the ever pressing machine of what it is supposed to look like, and always given reinforcements in our daily lives of templates to illustrate something that resembles it. Although for those that can still feel authentically it does nothing more than advertise an a illusion of being human.
monsterJanuary 14th, 2015 at 11:30 AM
Im living proof that being separated from your little sister can destroy you everyone I care about is either cruel or was taken away from me,what do I do now.
hurtJanuary 14th, 2015 at 11:33 AM
Its a cruel reality but I’ve met you,you seemed happy, what happened
(I know you because of your name)
ChristineAugust 4th, 2015 at 12:31 PM
I googled I don’t feel human and found this. I thought I was the only one. I’m an alcoholic and had been sober for a couple years. I don’t know why I relapsed but I believe it’s in part to escape my humanness. I sometimes want to leave this world but I can’t because I have kids. I don’t go around depressed, I’m sure I appear normal in the surface but I’m not.
DArcyJuly 16th, 2018 at 7:32 AM
I Googled the same thing.. I feel exactly the same.. how are you doing these days ?
TonyDecember 18th, 2015 at 4:08 AM
I’m shocked to find other people in this situation…I googled it as a joke. I’m convinced I’m not human, and the word I’ve come up with for myself is “human substitute”. My skill set and ability to accomplish ridiculous tasks are quite high yet I’ve had over 26 jobs in my life. I was once let go and told that I was fired because I’d always be ok. I work for peanuts yet I got money. I’ve been kicked out of everywhere so now my employment is usually in conditions without food, light, water ect…while in these conditions my phones going off all day with ppl dumping their emotional problems on me. I’m in therapy for bipolar and GAD and seeing doctors and they won’t help/prescribe me anything. Everything I do is on my own, I have to carry everyone, and I’m treated as if I were a machine. I take my family out and enjoy that but otherwise going out just doesn’t make sense; it feels out of place. I feel like this planet is not my home yet I’m here to support human beings who wouldn’t care if my life (more like a microprocessor) ended abruptly. There’s so much more than that but I’m rambling and digressing…my advice? Sometimes it’s fun being a robot…learn to love it
Stephanie_G11221January 5th, 2016 at 9:33 PM
I have the ability to love people and appreciate even awful personalities. My brother and dad are both alcoholics, my mother is strongly dependent on both of them, and I am here alone in the middle just bearing with their “abnormality.” Sometimes I feel like I HAVE to be the strongest person and give advice to damage people. No one ever pauses to ask how was my day, or even consider my feelings and state of mind after a long day from work. I feel like I am the forgotten one and forced to look out for my own. This is why I feel I don’t have enough confidence as I should have in everyday life, and sometimes I feel guilty of trying to pursue a life because my mom has always made it ALL about what my brother and father does. I don’t want to pursue them, it gets tiring to tell them to stop drinking. Even more so, they refuse to get any help and make absolutely no effort to reduce their drinking. It’s pretty irresponsible of them to always go on with their life without pausing to think whether the rest of the family is okay or needs something. This is why I feel that I will need to distance myself from them for a while and live life. I am twenty-five and I have not yet moved out of the house because, my dad or mother doesn’t encourage me to move out and set me free from the bird nest like every regular parent would do. This is why I always have to do initiate things on my own, because no one will ever give me words of encouragement. I need to feel human. I need to build my own personality. Right now, I am looking for a room to finally move out and hopefully I can afford the cost of living as an adult. It is because I push myself that I feel alright still and safe from the neglect of my parents (their silence and lack of encouragement). I live in NYC, hopefully I will be able to move out successfully and afford a room. In the meantime, I will need to have a very positive mind and not let these relative folks get to me. It’s all about oneself, always.
Thomas tJanuary 23rd, 2017 at 9:48 AM
When read your post, I felt I could relate to what you wrote. Im a little older than you.
But in my childhood and early adulthood, I always feelt in the middle in the family, and I have to be the understanding person, who has to hear complaints and of the other familymembers. Today i struggle with anxiety and sometimes wierd unrealfeelings.
Ps: English is only my second language, that’s why some grammar error.
VanessaJanuary 21st, 2016 at 7:18 AM
Whilst I too have been through my fair share of trauma…. I actually haven’t felt human from day 1. It’s not that I’m dis-connected from humans, although I’ve given up trying to figure them out; I literally associate more with Nature and Animals. To the point that I grew up spending more time with Animals and Nature then I did with people. Have never felt human and hope to understand why some day.
Giordano PillarellaFebruary 7th, 2016 at 11:15 PM
I’m only 17, I know I have a lot yo learn but it feels like I already know how the Universe works, I know everything but I don’t at the same time. I walk around school everyday, analysing people and their body language, I see them laugh and I try to understand if it’s real or not. I think man kind is just a breed of different “Man”. Almost as if there’s a Hybrid to our kind somewhere else in the Universe. I feel like the people that say they’re robots aren’t really robots, they just feel different because they’re different, literally. Something in their genes separates them from the rest making them feel guilty for living on earth but in reality, these people can change the world with their wide imaginations. What do I know, I’m only 17.
MailaApril 27th, 2017 at 6:05 AM
I cannot express how good i understand you. I am 17 as well and I too think that I’ve the whole Universe figured out. I cannot explain it – but since very little, I’ve wondered about things. Many things. I was 8-9 when I just looked around when I was outside with my mother and wondered where am I. Like, what kind of reality is that? Is it really truthful?
I was actually often considered strange and different. In the primary school I’ve been bullied and without friends. Since 6 or 7, I’ve had a strange condition: doubling of the vision. It’s called heterophoria as far as I know. It is an inability of your eyes to create a 3d objects – two parallel objects get formed – one real and one irreal. Other people didnt understand me. No doctors were able to fix the problem. And one year ago I got so desperate when I realized I have -7 Deupter and 1 astigmatism I got crazy. I didnt know what to do. I was feeling extremely desperate.
Thats when I started reflecting on Life. Why exactly did that problem have to happen? Was I to be blamed? Was it my fault.
And then it happened – I started writing a diary. And expressing my thoughts on a paper, I really felt better, and I somehow got to understand myself better.
Till yesterday I believed that everything is possible, with the power of Human’s Will. But actually I realized – what is the sense to know all of the Universe truths when you do not need them? I feel desperate. I feel lonely not because I am alone, but because I feel different. Other people are just not like me and I doubt I will meet someone who thinks the way I do. Glad that I saw your post – at least I do not feel crazy for going through those Life questions that age.
RedApril 19th, 2016 at 2:32 PM
Ever since I was a little girl I’ve felt out of place. I’ve never felt human and its exceedingly rare that I am able to fit in anywhere. I despise ‘small talk’ and other seemingly meaningless activities. I enjoy time alone and dread going out, even though I’m lonely. Being around people for whom I have to put on a ‘good face’ drains me…SO much!
I want to feel like I’m part of the human species, but everywhere I go I’m so aware of every tiny little thing that every single person around me is doing that I become exhausted.
Just yesterday my boyfriend and I were talking and he was trying to think of a word to end his sentence but couldn’t remember it, when I casually gave him the answer. He looked at me in a funny way and so I said “What? You know I’m a psychic. Did I forget to mention that?” I was joking, of course, but then he asked me what he was thinking now, and I told him. And I was right. He did it one more time and again, I was right. It freaked him out and I wish I hadn’t done it. And it had nothing to do with reading his mind. Obviously I can’t read minds. It had to do with how well I know him.
Anyway, point is, being this observant is draining. I do seek to separate myself, even though I get lonely, just to have some relief. So yes, I also know what it’s like to feel separate from the human race.
RachelAugust 7th, 2016 at 1:27 PM
Please help me this is unexplainably beyond any torture/suffering/negativity/illness/curse to say the fuckinh least I’m not making excuses in begging even further yet in a much shorter way than usual time is ticking I’ve already caused suffered endured asked begged failed photographed videod screenshotted voice recorded embarrassed experimented existed prayed visualised affirmed believed thanked questioned contradicted wronged suffered shouted screamed slammed stressed suffered banged threw broke wasted away and many other awful things to say least more than enough its all hidden and unrewarded uncontrollable undesirable unexplainable unpleasant pointless to say least a cant perfectly detail explain describe etc although of anyone or anything is interested feel free to contact me and browse through all of the recorded forms of evidence but God or whoever is source or creator etc only knows everything every second minute hour day week month year action intention happening thought vision sound every vibration frequency awareness reality of my damaged beyond repair lif in spite of all the obvious and seeming blessings and everything I don’t feel normal or human or like anything works out rightly in my favour and I always have too much extreme unexplainable thoughts visions sounds feelings memories fears ideas synonyms opinions numbers letters imaginations happenings awareness of everyone and everything all the time and it’s beyond unexplainably bad yet I choose to force gratitude positivity faith trust the timing etc but I’m 21 in a few days and I’m unemployed but not lazy I get accused of lying and many others things but actually in the most honest real person I know and my honesty got me in trouble with police and other and o can’t fuckinh deal with the constant overwhelm enbarassment negativity as its not just me it affects my three innocent family members and maybe even my poor next door neighbours I shouldn’t have to kill mysekf I’ve tried endured suffered existed survived too much sh#t and reached this age now and damaged beyond repair its beyond f%cking waste yet I don’t give up who lknows how and why it’s excruciatingly unproductive despite all the free time I’ve been given like no other and including all the unpaid years of daily overwhelming mad Internet research like no other amongst many other practical efforts actions experiments etc I’ve not progressed at all I’ve got worse in evey at and none of my efforts sacrifices prayers actions hygiene studying research practice meditation healthy lifestyle begging praying believing and many other things ever come to fruition whatsoever and here I am further asking world please it’s quarter past nine on 7/8/16 time is ticking I’ve failed beyond explanation and achieved nothing help me God Angels Jesus Allah Bhagwan whoever and whatever I’m supposed to worship I’ve already privately begged more than enough silently loudly recorded and non recorded God or source or whoever and whatever only know I don’t claim to be special or superior or anything but I definitely am extremely damaged and different wherever I go whoever I’m with whatever I do believe think etc .Failing extremely bad and it’s bad enough having all the unlike any other mental physical emotional internal external issues that can’t be defined in some near tick boxes or diagnosed trust me I’ve contacted all sorts of people and places every day online offline by phone in person using various devices silently loudly angrily respectably in house outside with other people alone all sorts of religions phrases synonyms words situations personalities overwhelming reality of everything wgether real Or imagined social media school college work volunteering locally nationally globally all aorts of things in great detail everything in between to bigger picture of eveyone and evey thing and time is tickng im still here alive existing not making excuses beyond confused overwhelmed failed yet trying being acting normal not fitting in thoug and unemployed failed bullied accused hated and still being optimistic but another wasted overbriwsing eating drinking researching shouting picking hitting punching throwing breaking watching listening recording analysing writing typing studying not progressing wronging failing asking enduring questioning contradicting existing praying talking being etc how why why why please Bhagwan help give me well deserved contentment amongst only the best in every way forever starting from right now and past present future because I am truly very worthy of victory thank you thank you thank you.
PeterOctober 21st, 2016 at 9:56 AM
I actually get a lot of positivity from life. People talking to me. checking up on me. trying to help me. I’m an altruist so I also have a great desire to help. but I don’t know how to. it seems I take everything for granted cos I don’t know how to greet people ask about them help them. I want to but I just do not posess the ability. This is the first time I have ever brought my problems to anyone anywhere or anything I cannot speak from the heart. people call me a robot. anything I say is void of emotion even though I have intense emotions. Find it hard to say thank you goodbye hello. Impossible to say I love you. I have never said it. My last two girlfriends told me first but I only replied via text. on the phone its like m a different person – emotionally literate. currently in love with a girl who mutually has a crush on me and I die when other guys talk to her but I can’t my self. I call her and text her but can’t talk real life.
Graham S.November 10th, 2017 at 2:50 PM
I think I have just learned something today. Thank you :)
i see a red cardinal nowMay 15th, 2018 at 3:24 PM
it seems to me this warms my heart as agonizing as it all is…that yet again a ‘mental health’ article was written which means well…but we all came out in force to make our stand..that we are saying we might actually be evolving. mental health professionals/this article says you have a learned behavioir that worked for you before and now it doesn’t. and this is the result. and we are saying we are literally and actually evolving to be a different creation. so we are either seen as truthful,we will DO what we say..OR we are seen as too far gone and going further into the box of self encapsulation.refusing to come out until either we do actually change and evolve or have some need met or do the work as article says and accept that we are humans who are deeply hurt. why why why do humans always need to be this OR that and only one of those is correct? why cant we be the leaders? who change humanity by our example? they had it their way long enough have they not? and they lead and rule us and (fire us from jobs,abuse us,harrass us) and yet we are still being told this is our fault? and all of those ‘humans’ are normal…and its we who must do the work? you can see why then we’d stay inside….we know a lie when we see one. we are different and its good. we like ourselves. no we love ourselves. we don’t want to be like them who did what they did to us. they teach us “coping skills” but that is also taught to war veterans and slaves and captured people of war………..so they can adjust to their abusive surroundings and still well..earn a paycheck (their bottom line) beware of gaslighting. read up on gaslighting as much as possible. I felt proud and I cried when I read all these responses. I felt not alone. I said to myself “wow you are all actually “here” and wow youre “real” you made the ultimate sacrifice and chose this way…(not the self encapsulation/misery part) but the decision you made to end up this way…..the good one….the noble one where you stood up for your your heart and THEN ended up this way..so I am proud although heart wrenched right along with you…. the genes differing and the hybrid theories…possible…different. and wanting to be! not wanting to hurt..but wanting to be different…and ARE different. hang on . you know its right. its something you know and feel inside as a seed….separation is not wrong..its just painful .but no great kingdom was EVER built upon giving in and complacency or being like the rest when you know youre not….only advice…is to be nice…to everyone..even family when theyre annoying you….that’s for yourself to get through your days…take walks outside…even when you don’t feel like it…talk to YOURSELF as if someone else is there (not crazy just enjoy your self talk as valueable and awesome) …BECAUSE we all came here and read this and related and we ARE HERE. this conversation all made sense to us/our kind.youre different because you wanted to be and that’s a miracle in itself. you achieved it.youre now just navigating it while still in this world…all you needed was validation to be true to yourself. so smile..its 100% correct. take hold of the rope youre given. its different and you LOVE that rope. no need to jump ahead to talk of “one day youll be feeling back in the world” blah blah…not now..they need to understand…we don’t see that as possible NOW and we need time to sit here and stew in the weird and out of place to find ourselves….and make our OWN decision about wanting to be with them or not…on our own time and in our own way….
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