Am I Gay or Bisexual?

I believe with some uncertainty that I am a 60 year old gay man. I have been married for 36 years and I am recently out to my wife. Coming to this conclusion has brought a lot of questions as to am I really gay or am I just bisexual. I need to find a way to decipher between the two. It is important that I have some clarity as to which I am. I heard many therapists tell me that a label is not important but it is to me as to how I see myself. Would love to discuss this aspect of my sexuality. - Gay or Bisexual?
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Dear Gay or Bisexual?,
Karen Kochenburg
Karen D. Kochenburg, MSW, LCSW, is a licensed clinical social worker in San Jose, California. Her areas of interest and expertise include transpersonal psychotherapy, LGBT issues, adolescent psychology, spiritual development, clinical supervision/mentoring, nonviolent communication, and conflict resolution.
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  • bob


    March 11th, 2015 at 1:32 PM

    I really don’t have a comment but I think I know how he feels. I have been married to the same woman for 43 years and love her with all my heart,i have been attracted to men for some time and have told my wife a while back I do not know why this happened I do not want to live with a man but want them physicaly. what makes me like this

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