My Approach to Helping
Thank you for visiting my profile page. I am deeply committed to helping people to grow and heal, and welcome the opportunity to assist you. Many years of life and clinical experience have deepened my empathy and understanding of the many challenges we experience in life. We can experience significant feelings of distress and hopelessness when changes and losses occur that force us to adapt and redefine ourselves. Even the most functional people can reach a point where our own problem solving skills and support system aren't helping. Please call for a confidential phone consultation.
My Role as a Therapist
Although many therapists have a specific technique that they utilize with every person, I have always felt that each person is unique, and their needs vary depending on what is going on as well as their own vision of what will help them. I encourage clients to discuss their expectations with me: are you feeling that you have a lot on your mind and need someone to listen? Do you want advice? Do you want me to help you by sharing my thoughts about how you might approach things differently? My intervention technique will depend on the goals and communication style that we develop together, to provide the help that you want and feel comfortable with in your journey in therapy.
My Guiding Ethical Principles
I am often dismayed when people tell me that they developed social relationships with their previous therapists either during or after their therapy. I feel strongly that the best thing about therapy is the predictability of the relationships parameters. You come to me for help and I help you to the best of my ability. Social relationships are based on reciprocal support and are always unpredictable and changing. Although your therapist could be someone you would want to be friends with if you met in a different setting, your therapist can not be your friend or you will be deprived of the continuity and safety that a productive therapeutic relationship offers.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
Societal stigma still exists when distress is emotionally based. Depending on where you are living, therapy may not be seen as a 'normal' thing to do (as it is in New York City and Los Angeles for example). There are also gender, generational and cultural differences in how seeking psychotherapy is viewed. Many people expect themselves to always be strong, happy and positive, able to solve their own problems and have a strong support system to lean on. This is not the always the case, unfortunately. The world can throw us curve balls that can render even the strongest people feeling a need for a helping hand.
When people ask me how I can stand working with crazy people all day, I correct them immediately. People that seek therapy are usually dealing with loss, grief, emotional overload, excessive worry and even abuse by others. It is a sign of strength to work on yourself with a caring professional. Covering feelings up has become a social norm that is unhealthy and can lead to worsening emotional distress and physical illness.