My Approach to Helping
The crux of my approach is simple, but versatile: I use anything and everything available to make breakthroughs possible. EMDR for working through feeling stucktrauma and Gottman methods for couples hoping to repair & reconnect. (Well worth YouTubing either to get a sense of them.)
Once we understand one another and you are insight-equipped, I'll encourage putting insight into action. But in ways that feel authentic to your personal experience of things. NOTE: This tends to be the most elusive phase of things because individuals mistakenly associate "gaining new insights" with effective change. It's better to assume insights = psychological fuel, but acting on your new found wisdom yields the life you've hoped for! One must turn this corner for the real rewards!
MORE ON WHY I DO WHAT I DO:
About 13rd of my clients progress best through being heard and having me carefully "reframe" our conversations for them. The advantage being: I hold up a mirror for them and encourage their successful moves. When we are not doing this, we are ponderingcritiquing what caused the ineffective decisions and behaviors. This approach allows you to benefit greatly from steering the therapeutic alliance from begin to finish. Clients report this approach as "feeling like something Zen."
Another 13rd of my clients are more eager for me to more actively guide the conversation in order to coachmodel them help toward practicing new approaches over no longer effective decision & behaviors. This approach is a far cry from the overly-assertive methods seen on popular TV! It merely involves my being more active and, in some cases, more disclosure of my own clinical impressions for those who need practice after finding their own resources impaired.
The remaining 3rd of my clients tend to benefit from a collaborative mix of the former two approaches. Toward the last several sessions with virtually all of my clients, our familiarity with each other allows this integrated approach to come about organically. Your own experiences (in and out of session) will determine how this progresses.
Nothing is more distinctive and nebulous than the nature of one's emotions. An old therapists' maxim says "Emotions are never wrong; only actions can be wrong. Emotions don't need to be justified. They just need to be felt."