My Approach to Helping
Are you struggling to cope with the challenges that life always seems to bring your way?
What do you do when your relationships start spiraling out of control?
How do you keep it all together at work?
The things you used to do that helped you through the tough times just aren't working anymore. Wouldn't it be great if you could feel like your efforts to keep up could at least leave you feeling content and meaningful?
I love helping people learn to cope with the stress and pressures of our crazy and sometimes ridiculous modern life: anxiety, depression, anger, life transitions, career stress, and issues, and marriage and family problems.
I use methods that challenge your thinking patterns and help you discover solutions to your problems.
Are you struggling to keep it together at work? Before becoming a counselor, I had a 20-year career in marketing and corporate communications for large companies in the energy and healthcare industries.
So I get "how work is."
The burnout, anxiety, pressure, stress, fear of change, toxic environments, leadership challenges, and the struggle to perform in spite of it all.
Like you, I worked hard to put it all together every day.
I know you can find ways to cope with your challenges at work, spark positive change for yourself, and connect with a life that works for you!
More Info About My Practice
Miller Mental Health Services is owned by me and my husband, Joe Miller, who is also a mental health counselor. We have been members of this beautiful community of Stuart, Florida for more than 15 years.
We love the people here in Stuart and all of Martin County, and we're so grateful for the opportunity to serve the great people right here at home!
How Psychotherapy Can Help
Many of us are pretty resilient and try hard to manage our daily challenges as they come. Most of the time, that works. We naturally develop ways of coping with our stressors by watching those around us while we're growing up.
Some coping skills are healthy, like exercise, meditation or reaching out to connect with good friends. Some dip their toes into the unhealthy pool, like drinking a glass or two of wine every night after dinner to unwind or using carb-o-licious food to calm those anxious emotions.
But let's not be judgy. At the end of the day, positive or negative, coping skills do work.
Until they don't.
- Going for a run no longer takes the edge off.
- Killing that entire bag of chips sends you into a serious shame spiral.
- You isolate yourself from your friends and family and pledge allegiance to Netflix.
- You call in sick to work multiple times rather than face the stress and pressure of your new boss.
You've officially overwhelmed your coping skills.
Here's how you know: when the things you've always done to deal with your problems suddenly don't work anymore, that's the time to consider a professional perspective.
This is especially true when your problems begin to affect your functioning, like keeping your job or maintaining important relationships.
How can a therapist help?
First, don't underestimate the power in just telling your story to someone uninterrupted.
Your therapy session is your time, and you can talk about whatever the heck you want.
This is powerful. Even at the very beginning, you can find some insight while you're rolling out all the details and forming a timeline of events.
And because your therapist presumably has her own life to live, she has no vested interest in your story turning out any particular way.
You get to be the hero.
Second, an objective third party can help you get an aerial view of behavior patterns and ways of responding that may not be that effective for you.
It's really hard to see that while you're in it.
Understanding why you've responded to things a certain way and learning how to adapt those responses to meet your needs is the key.
They give you hard data that sets you up to create real change in your life.
Third, when you work with a therapist you officially have a team working with you.
How cool is that?
You and your therapist work together to help you determine where you want to be, then develop a plan of action to get there. Your therapist holds you accountable in a nonjudgmental way and helps you measure your progress.
The goal of therapy is that you develop the skills to kind of be your own therapist.
The skills you develop in therapy go a long way to help you build resilience to better manage the common issues in your life.
Therapy can empower to meet your challenges with confidence and purpose.