My Approach to Helping
I believe we have the power to decide each day how we will respond, react and interpret the world around us. How we do that depends on us and our life experience. I know it can feel impossible at times, but it is within our power to change our story. We get to decide EACH DAY TO LIVE THE LIFE WE CHOOSE. I know many of us are hurting, but we still have the power to speak out, reach out, get out and get the help we need. We all have hurt and issues that we cover up or mask with our addictions, compulsions, obsessions and relationships. In my practice, I strive to help my clients get to the bottom of their core issues and in touch with their deepest truth. I will use whatever therapy works best for you and aim to help you feel safe enough to heal, grow, share and create the life you hope to have.
More Info About My Practice
It is so important for clients to find the RIGHT FIT as you look for that therapist or counselor that you want to share your world with. Making the first calle-mail is an act of courage and one I never take lightly. It is ok NOT to be ok and it is OK to ask for help. Just as Brene Brown has said in her work, we are "hardwired for connection." We need each other to heal. Sometimes it's just needing someone to walk along side us while we struggle through life; to help us find our feet again, our pulse, our voice, our power, our worth, our belief, our identity, our spirituality, our truth, our purpose, our answer, our hope-ourselves.
What I Usually Need to Know to Help
One of the first things I want to know from you is, " What do you think is your problem?" "What do you want and what are you willing to do to make that happen?" I think the answers we want and are looking for exist within us. We may not know where to look or how to get in touch with them, but we are the ones who know us best. I don't believe change really happens if we just do what someone tells us to do and it is not my job to 'give advice'. REAL CHANGE happens when we realize our own need or desire for change and BELIEVE in our own ability to do what we can to change. I will help you get there, but it starts with YOU and what you think you need.
How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist
I was a client long before I was a therapist. Originally in college when I was wondering whether or not to marry a man and then again later when I was going through my divorce. It wasn't until my late 20's when I went to see a counselor in Nashville who changed my life and told me about a program for people who struggle with sex and love addiction. First of all I knew I struggled with depression, but I couldn't believe this was even a 'thing' and that it applied to me...but it did. Years of struggling in my relationships and primary attachments had taken a toll. I realized that what I was looking for others to fill in me was something that only I alone could fill. I am also very spiritual and through my relationship with God; I was able to understand my true worth and that I would never be happy in any relationship if I couldn't have a genuine relationship with myself. Not only did this struggle bring me to my current career as a therapist and counselor, but it brought me to forgiveness. Not just to forgive those who had hurt me, but most importantly to forgive myself.