My Approach to Helping
I know how it feels to struggle with anxiety and depression, to feel held back by your thoughts and emotions--so I know it's probably hard to believe that there are ways to lead a happy life in spite of these challenges. My first-hand experience with depression and anxiety also helps me take a realistic, down-to-earth approach to helping you learn coping techniques that you can actually use in your own daily life. I can offer real empathy for your situation, while also helping you challenge yourself a bit so that you can learn to vastly improve your quality of life.
But first, you need to hear this: You can't "just snap out of it." You can't just "think happier thoughts." "Don't worry, be happy" just doesn't work with real anxiety and depression.
To help couples improve their communication skills, I use a well-researched approach to couples therapy that is called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT helps partners learn about and address their underlying needs and fears in the relationship. As you and your partner feel more emotionally safe and connected, it will become easier to navigate the normal conflicts that arise in your relationship. With a new, deeper understanding of each other and of your typical patterns of interaction, both you and your partner will feel less defensive and more open to communicating clearly with each other.