My Approach to Helping
People often ask me to give them "tools" to solve problems in their lives. My answer to that is: I help people to develop unique emotional skills, suited to their own strengths and capacities. People in therapy with me often learn their own way of achieving an observing distance from their thoughts and feelings. They often learn to self-regulate strong emotional states, and make reasoned choices instead of simply reacting and then acting on a situation. They may learn about boundaries, both emotional and physical. They may learn about what they are not thinking and feeling. For example, if I sense that grief and mourning are absent when there has been a loss, I will bring that fact into the therapeutic conversation. And lastly people can learn, based on the therapeutic interaction in the present moment, how they interact with people, why, and how they may want to act differently. From new perspectives come new behaviors and changed lives. Change comes from an in-depth understanding, over time, with a helpful, safe, observing and listening therapist. People thrive when they feel understood and respected in a private space.