My Approach to Helping
My approach is relational and engaging, yet also direct. I am dedicated to stewarding a clear and compassionate environment in which clients can explore their unique strengths and inner resources, as well as struggles or challenges that may prevent them from thriving. I collaborate with each client to foster a space in which healing, growth, and understanding can create lasting change and translate into a life full of meaning and purpose. I guide clients to uncover experiences beyond the mind and unlock the wisdom held both within the body and the present moment. It is here that I encourage clients to dwell in the intersection between somatic psychology and spiritual/personal awakening.
I aim to see clients in their wholeness, rather than any individual fragmented wounds that may present themselves. I am always cheering for each client’s innate wisdom and whole self to emerge in our work together.
I am trauma-informed, sex and body-positive, and committed to increasing my social awareness. I believe it is essential to consider how systems of power and privilege relate to each person’s experience in the world and welcome these influences and inquiries into my counseling office.
More Info About My Practice
Foundations of my approach:
The Hakomi Method is at the forefront in the field of mindfulness-based somatic psychotherapy. Hakomi is based on the principles of mindfulness, non-violence, organicity, and change. The root of the work is seated in the present moment experience. These experiences illuminate unconscious core material and neural patterns that inform the way we see ourselves and the world. In a loving, gentle, and safe container, I assist clients into a place of self-study, somatic and emotional exploration, discovery, and profound transformation.
Re-Creation of the Self (RCS) does not focus on the content of our beliefs, nor on the history of how we got to be who we are. Instead, it attends immediately to the awareness of which state of consciousness we are in. By inviting people to shift into a different state, R-CS provides opportunities to make empowered choices that can relieve us from painful feelings and self-critical attitudes. Because the essence of our IdealOrganic Self is already present, the work is not an exploration and gradual healing of old wounds, but rather a momentary self-implemented choice to embody an already existing and essential way of being.
Attachment Theory rests on the understanding that as humans, we have a biological need to bond with each other. Experiences with early relationships and caregivers create a blueprint that informs the sense of safety and security you bring to adult relationships. This blueprint can be updated and revised through exploration of the therapeutic relationship, between client and therapist. My approach to attachment counseling is greatly informed by M.E.T.A. Primary Attachment Psychotherapy.
Psychobiological Approaches to Couples Therapy (PACT) Developed by Dr. Stan Tatkin, author of Wired for Love, PACT is a fusion of attachment theory, developmental neuroscience, and arousal regulation. PACT teaches couples to be successful and skillful partners to one another through the principles of secure functioning. Secure functioning means that two adult individuals come together as full-functioning, autonomous agents, sharing power and authority to create an interdependent relationship, fully conditional, based on shared purpose, shared vision, and shared principles. Part of that process includes getting clear about why each individual is choosing the relationship, not based on some fantasy, but rather on the actual service it provides. Once individuals are clear on the why, PACT couple’s therapy focuses on the how. The couple physically turns toward one another and learns to track and know how to care for their partner in present time with repetition and commitment.
Solsara is a community-centered, authentic relating practice based on a vision that human consciousness and culture are evolving toward the emergence of compassion, acceptance, relationship, community, and trust as the basic values from which we live our lives. Located in Oregon, Solsara offers workshops that assist students in realizing their vision and facing and dissolving obstacles in the way of being fully and authentically themselves. Through the practice of honesty, in the context of a supportive and loving community, participants explore together how to be alive, in the moment, and deeply connected with others while being truly themselves.
Importance of the Client-Therapist Alliance
Humans are biologically and neurologically wired through relationship - from nervous system to nervous system - most influentially during our first years of life. We learn about who we are, about our needs and desires, our worthiness, our capacity, and our value through the reflection of relationship.
Unfortunately, most of us have experienced some level of misattunement or harm in relationship with our primary caregivers. Even the most well-intended parents, will still miss cues or needs of their children. Since these wounds occurred in relationship, so too can healing happen through relationship. As such, the therapeutic relationship is a vital tool for therapeutic change. Research has shown that the greatest indicator for effective change in therapy is not a particular method or modality, but the quality of the therapeutic relationship.
The present-moment relational field extends a fertile platform for self-discovery. By slowing down to examine the ways we respond to one another and are perceived by one another, we gain greater access to a shared reality and expanded choices within relationships. We may begin to correct lacking developmental needs that were missed during childhood and create new narratives about who we are and what is possible. By integrating this kind of immediate relational data, one can adjust internalized self-concepts, refine relational skills, and often experience greater satisfaction in social identity and relational exchange.