My Approach to Helping
"How do I want to show up in the world? What are the old stories that keep playing out in my mind, in my life, that keep me feeling small? How can I access the insight and courage to break this cycle of sabotaging my own happiness?" These are the kinds of questions that surface when you give yourself the opportunity to turn inward and make contact with whatever is churning up inside. Sometimes, the simple act of allowing the emotions to be felt can be enough to break through the old patterns and into a new and more expansive state of being. Other times, it may take more skill, learning, and practice.
I adopt a whole-person approach: cognitively, creatively, somatically (body-oriented), relationally, and culturally. I don't pathologize my clients, and provide a judgment-free attitude to help those on the path to growth and recovery. As your therapist I offer a figurative mirror to hold up for you to witness yourself in acknowledging, accepting, expressing, healing, and growing aspects of yourself needed to feel aware, comfortable, empowered, and innately whole.
I operate holistically, using a variety of modalities to help you reconnect with the various parts of yourself. My specialties include regulating emotional overwhelm, fear, anger, and anxiety, trauma, abuse, eating disorders, healing negative self-concepts and relationship patterns, end of life issues, and grief support -- from the ending of a relationship to the death of a loved one.
More Info About My Practice
Making the decision to start therapy can bring up a lot of emotions. Feelings of relief and excitement may arise, as well as anxiety, fear, doubt, or even dread, which is why finding a therapist with whom you can really trust and feel comfortable around is so key in the process of healing. Aside from reading my website, the best way for us to get a sense of one another is to schedule a phone consultation where you can share with me why you are seeking therapy at this time, questions you have for me about how therapy works, and I can share with you what is unique about how I do therapy. and hear what you're looking for in a therapist to see if we are a good fit. I offer free 20-minute consultations over the phone. Please feel free to call (650) 762-9220 to set up an appointment with me.
For those interested in meditation, mindfulness, and yoga-based approaches, I offer my 7 years of experience as a yoga and meditation teacher to provide relaxing breathing techniques, mindfulness tools, and soothing restorative yoga poses to embody certain experiences in an expansive and more emotionally regulated way. This is also a helpful way for clients to learn how to feel more at home and safe in their bodies.
How Psychotherapy Can Help
As Harville Hendrix, a writer and therapist, states, "We are born in relationship. We grow in relationship. We are wounded in relationship. And we are healed in relationship." Change, especially changing the way we view ourselves, happens faster when you're in good company. We do not learn shame, guilt, and self-criticism in the womb. We learn them in relation to others: our caregivers, our siblings, teachers, horrible school bullies, romantic partners --sometimes even our friends. We take on that negative judgment and it can often narrate our world view.
Just as we find our way into negative thinking and behavioral cycles in relationship, it is also through a safe and healing relationship that we can find our way out. In a supportive and non-judgmental environment, we can explore the parts of yourself that are hard to sit with when you're alone; deepen into accepting whatever is unearthed in therapeutic process; heal the parts that need tending to; and break free of the self-limiting beliefs stored in the body and mind -- and make room for the unfolding into wholeness of your true nature.