When people say, “We have a great relationship,” what they often mean is how they feel when they talk with one another. They mean, “I feel positive toward that person when we interact. I send and I receive positive vibes with them.”
A great relationship also means good communication in the sense that when differences arise, the partners can talk through their dilemma cooperatively. Differences don’t become barriers—they become opportunities to find win-win understandings and solutions.
Making decisions together in a win-win way requires strong collaborative communication skills. Both partners need to be able to talk in a way that when they say things, their partner wants to listen—and when their partner says things, they want to hear them.
Strong communication skills enable couples not only to have fun and share their love, but also to deal with the difficult issues they inevitably will face as they proceed as partners in the business of living.
© Copyright 2010 by Susan Heitler, PhD, therapist in Denver, Colorado. All Rights Reserved. Permission to publish granted to GoodTherapy.org.
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