Use Your Time or Be Used By It

Two grandparents teach kids how to make cupcakes (while one kid taste tests the batter!).As centuries go by, great scholars, philosophers, and businessmen have all struggled with the concept of time.

  • English nobleman and writer William Penn said, “Time is what we want most, but what we use worst.”
  • Apple founder Steve Jobs said, “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.”
  • An anonymous quotation goes as such, “We all make time for what we feel is important in our lives.”

No one can beat time; it marches on every single second of the day. We grow older no matter what breakthroughs in medicine occur, so the question becomes: how do we make the most out of the time we have on this earth?

What Is Your Relationship With Time?

What can you say about your relationship with time? Do you seek more of it or less of it? Do you see your time as wasted or productive? Do you feel as if time is passing you by, or do you have a handle on time? For many people, life passes by without them even realizing it.

If you cherish the most important moments in your life, you’ll become more in-tune with the “now” and won’t allow time to pass you by. This can be achieved by practicing some mindfulness and meditation on a daily basis. Taking a few minutes each day to relax and think in silence is a great way to refresh and prepare for the tasks ahead.

By managing your time wisely, you’ll be able to enjoy more of it and be more productive. Time well-spent can enrich your life in so many ways and overall increases your quality of life. If you’re spending your time with family, friends, and loved ones, then instead of being isolated and alone, the memories will last throughout your life.

Time is a Constant

Time is both a concept and a constant. The concept of time includes the elements of past, present and future. The constant of time speaks to the reality that time goes on, with or without us. Our lives, to a large extent, are guided and defined by making the most of our time or letting time march on by. Time being a constant in our lives, we can either manage how we use it or become used by it.

There will come a time when many, if not most of us, will look back and ask the question, “What have I done with my life, and what will I do with the rest of my days?”Regrets about what was and could have been can become so daunting that they overtake your ability to see new possibilities. It’s as if you are stuck in a time warp from which you cannot escape, as past, present, and future meld as one. Unable to learn from the mistakes of the past, you may feel that you are doomed to relive your past in a sort of “Groundhog Day.” However, it doesn’t have to always be this way. Letting go of your regrets in life will make it easier to seek new pleasures as you grow older. It’s never too late to enjoy new hobbies or engage in new, exciting activities that you’ve never experienced before.

Making the most of today implies a willingness and the courage to see beyond what was to what could be: a life not built on sadness or regret, but on hope and resolve. Time is then appreciated for what it is, a constant that can either push you into an abyss of helplessness or guide you toward new beginnings.

Creating Your Own Path Through Time

It is said that the first step to creation is imagination. What does your imagination tell you about your future? Does it create new pathways of thinking and behavior? If not, why not? Perhaps you are feeling so stuck, so discouraged, that your imagination has been suffocated by the reality of your making? Yes, that’s right, your making! Your thoughts and underlying beliefs about self and the world around you play an essential role in how you view and use time.

There will come a time when many, if not most of us, will look back and ask the question, “What have I done with my life, and what will I do with the rest of my days?” Each of us will come up with our own answers. But perhaps we share one desire in common, which is to live a life well spent.

Not everyone will be able to manage their time wisely, but those that do will reap the benefits of a fruitful life with many fond memories. For some people, this means engaging in counseling and therapy so you can learn to better manage your time. Talking to a trusted psychotherapist and recalling what you’ve done throughout the week can help you identify what you need to improve on when it comes to time management.

© Copyright 2018 All rights reserved. Permission to publish granted by Irving Schattner, LCSW, therapist in Delray Beach, Florida

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