New Sexual Technique Is Bringing Couples Closer Than Ever

Couple laying in field

Can sex still be satisfying without achieving an orgasm? According to the many people who engage in Karezza sex, it can be. The benefits of this nonorgasmic sexual experience are touted in a recent article. Karezza sex does not involve climax, for either partner, but emphasizes closeness, intimacy, and as its Italian name implies, caressing. This unconventional idea of having sex without reaching an orgasm is gaining popularity with couples everywhere. Deb Feintech, a counselor who was recently interviewed about Karezza, explains that she chooses it for couples who come to her complaining of stagnant relationships. She insists that contrary to what people believe, not all men concern themselves with climax. In fact, her male clients are some of the most outspoken advocates of Karezza. “It’s very radical for them, but they are finding the emotional intimacy far outweighs any of the thrill of the chase and the mating mind,” said Feintech.

In this modern sexual world of instant gratification, oils, pills, and never-ending erections, Karezza is a refreshing approach to sexual satisfaction. The intimate and deep emotional connection that is achieved without orgasm is unique to this type of sexual encounter and not often found in traditional sex. Couples struggling with impotence or sexual boredom may find Karezza an exciting and rewarding alternative to the sexual practices they are used to. Allowing the body to feel the sensations on a whole new level can ratchet up the sexual satisfaction in the relationship. Sexual and relationship experts encourage couples to explore new avenues of intimacy in order to grow and nurture their relationships. They warn, however, that Karezza is not for everyone. People looking to achieve an orgasm or have their partner do so may be disappointed with this type of interaction, because ideally, neither partner ever reaches climax. But for those looking to add a new layer of sexual experience to their relationship, Karezza might be just what they are looking for.

Gray, E. (2012, July 12). Karezza sex: Without an orgasm, couples say sex strengthens relationships. The Huffington Post. Retrieved from


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  • erika


    July 20th, 2012 at 3:38 PM

    hmmm I am not too sure that there will be very many men who would go along with this!

  • Michael tucker

    Michael tucker

    July 21st, 2012 at 4:36 AM

    Hey erika, let’s play fair now. I am all for some cuddling and stroking too, but do you know very many women who would be perfectly happy with this all the time either?



    July 21st, 2012 at 9:29 AM

    Sounds like something to try for as something new but for couples not having problems this can actually go on to become a problem if practiced on a regular basis if you ask me. This is a case of “if it ain’t broken don’t fix it” where Karezza sex is the fix.

  • Sandy


    July 21st, 2012 at 3:59 PM

    Think about how much more meaningful sex could be in any relationship if we all took the time to enjoy the experiences leading up to the act instead of just always trying to race to the finish line.Sex of this nature would teach more patience and enjoyment, showing us all how to be more mindful of the needs of our partners instead of just looking out for number one. Any time that you can discover new and meaningful ways to bring you closer to your partner, then that’s something to savor and enjoy. And it sounds like this is something that while may not be for all couples, it is worth at least trying to see if this could become a part of your loving and caring relationship.

  • johnny


    July 22nd, 2012 at 5:30 AM

    obviously a sex addicts group was not the creator of this school of thought. . .

  • niki


    July 23rd, 2012 at 4:18 AM

    Well I think that this sounds nice.
    It sounds like this new sexual path could be a huge help to many couples for whom they have lost their way as to how they really want their relationship to be.
    So many times we get way too focused on the end result which in essence really leaves us forgetting about our partner and their needs.
    This could help you to get in touch with your partner again in a way that is caring and loving and not so focused on climax only.

  • Stephanie


    July 23rd, 2012 at 10:20 AM

    As someone who’s experienced childhood sexual assault and recovering from c-ptsd, this sounds ideal. It’s a challenge to find a partner who even understands what I’m going through, let alone a partner who doesn’t take my inability to orgasm as their fault. I wish so badly that my current partner believed me when I say that-just-touching and caressing me feels *fantastic* but not orgasmic. It was quite the milestone to even let him touch me at all. The world needs more touching between couples and I’m very glad that this technique is gaining popularity.

  • Rochelle


    July 23rd, 2012 at 2:46 PM

    Certainly interesting and new. Can’t say I’ve tried this technique in my practice. To say more, I’d have to do a bit of research before forming an opinion.

  • Larkin


    July 24th, 2012 at 4:32 AM

    I know that so many women are going to be digging this, but my way of expressin to my girlfriend how much I love her is through us having a healthy sexual relationship. Emotional inyimacy can go right along with it, and I don’t think that you have to take the climax out of the equation for couples ot feel close to one another. As a matter of fact, for my girlfriend and I we think it’s fun to try new things in the bedroom and talk about what we enjoy in that manner. I don’t think that just because you are seeking that physical pleasure means that you are giving up any kind of emotional connection with your partner. I think that for many of us it makes that connection even stronger.

  • Laine


    January 7th, 2016 at 7:05 AM

    Of course you’d defend the orgasm. Typical. The fact is, that most people depend on sex for self-esteem, and there is nothing healthy about that, because your partner may or may not orgasm. It’s not always easy for both to get there leaving one unsatisfied which isn’t really fair. It creates inequality in the bedroom. This is a sex form for people who want an equal. For those who want to truly bond and it doesn’t require you to try multiple positions. We don’t need that b.s. With any form of mindfulness sex,it’s way more intense without orgasm. You’re aware of every feeling because you are present. It takes away the worry, and the selfishness out of sex, because you’re not trying to get off. Instant gratification does a person no favors. Opinions based on experience carry more weight. With this form,masculinity is not measured by how stiff your erection is, nor by the presence of emission.

  • Joe W

    Joe W

    March 22nd, 2017 at 1:21 PM

    I am 61 years young and have been through a lot of Mental Illness with my wife, who is a “Survivor” of Sexual Abuse as a Child through early teenage years, repeated suicide attempts, multiple diagnoses of mental health issues, no true family relationships, sex identity issue (thought she was supposed to be a lesbian), Hospitalizations, 3 childbirths (Caesarian)(Our first “Son” died from SIDS-which she blamed herself-her Dad had that much control of her life!?), Drug addiction(Medication drugs, but won’t admit it, just plays out another Problem related to pain), Med-Compliant for past 14 years, but not intimate for years, even to now! Yet I have NO pain meds. I have been given instead an emergency triple-bypass surgery (The widow maker) and a hip surgery in 2013/2014 respectfully. I am 61 years young (Mainly because of the heart surgery) that added years to my life. I am Blessed. I have given 30 years of my Life to my wife, and I can count at least 3 times we were intimate (LOL) and I’m not perfect but I have given myself to the point of being both roles to our children, who are now grown up and happily adjusted to life because of my persistence and faithfulness to my vows that I took, to Love, Honor and Cherish….You know the drill! I have had to prove my Love along the way as she implied, yet Actions speak louder than words!???….I am not out to damage her in any way, but come on for the Love of God?? What else can I do, I’m not a Shrek looking person….Advice taken….just be nice!!

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