The Antisocial Network: Social Media and Bullying Culture

Worried Young Man Sitting At Desk Using Laptop At HomeToday’s young people are immersed in electronic media, like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and other popular networking sites. However, this social networking can produce both positive and negative effects on one’s mental health, especially in the context of bullying. Technological advances have, unfortunately, extended the boundaries of bullying. It is no longer limited to the schoolyard. It can occur 24 hours a day, seven days a week, via social media, texts, email, etc. In addition, the emotional and psychological effects can be just as damaging as traditional bullying.

Bullying is all too common on these social networking sites. Cyber bullying offers the perpetrator a sense of anonymity. Oftentimes, the culprit takes on a different identity while bullying. This so-called “keyboard courage” is where one types derogatory opinions or comments that they would otherwise probably be too afraid to voice aloud.

This can include hate speech, sexual harassment, and intimidation, through various methods such as words, pictures, and videos. The material sent or posted also has the potential to be seen by an exponential audience by instantly downloading, saving, or forwarding it to others. Because this form of bullying does not take place face-to-face, many perpetrators feel no emotional attachment to the individual or group that is being targeted.

Boys often fit the “bully” stereotype, but the internet has abolished that stereotype. In fact, girls are more likely than boys to engage in cyber bullying. While boys tend to make more physical threats, girls opt to bully in psychological forms. For example, girls are more likely to spread rumors or gossip, rather than threaten physical harm.

Both perpetrators and those who are bullied have reported higher incidences of mental and physical issues later in life. Often, individuals who get bullied are silent about their experiences. They may also have symptoms of anxiety, depression, self-harm, and other mental health issues. In extreme cases, those who experience cyber bullying may even contemplate or attempt suicide.

While both parties report heightened levels of social anxiety, people who are targeted report higher levels. Nearly half of these individuals do not know who their cyber bully is, and consequently, this unknown status contributes to their increased anxiety, as well as the depression they are likely to experience. Common signs of depression include isolation, changes in sleep patterns, and long-lasting sadness or irritability.

The negative emotions experienced by those who are bullied can also manifest in self-harm. While the relationship between bullying and self-harm may involve other factors, children bullied during their earlier years are three times more likely to self-harm than their peers. Unfortunately, there have been several high-profile cases involving teenagers taking their own lives after experiencing cyber bullying. While suicide is an extreme response, it does highlight the seriousness of cyber bullying.

The problem does not just stop at the elementary or high school level. It’s naïve to think that using technology to terrify simply stops when kids turn 18. Researchers have found that cyber bullying is considered “more prevalent at the secondary school level.” College-aged students not only utilize social media as a medium for cyber bullying, but they may also harass peers and even instructors through university technology infrastructures and other online learning platforms. Moreover, popular college gossip websites cater to those wishing to talk about other people (whether the talk is factual or fictional).

It is imperative that schools and universities implement a code of conduct in relation to cyber bullying in their student handbook. Prevention efforts should also be constructed with the aid of the college’s counseling center and psychology department. Education and awareness are the key components to helping decrease this 21st century phenomenon. As technology continues to adapt to the times, so must the school administrations in how they curb the phenomenon of cyber bullying, especially in the young adult community.


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  • breck l

    August 20th, 2013 at 5:37 AM

    Man this has become so pervasive in our culture that it makes you want to take a step back and almost wish for simpler times again. I know that we would then miss our smart phones and the internet and all sorts of things that make our lives easier but look at the pressures that these things have since put on our kids. We didn’t have to worry about cyber bullying or pictures of us at a party turning up online and being used against us later. There are things that happen to our kids today that we can’t even relate to because they have never happened to us so we have no shared understanding of them. This makes me sound loike such an old fogey and I am only in my mid 30s but there has got to be a great change in our society if we are going to see our kids through all of this without them experiencing too much harm and becoming too cynical.

  • mia

    August 20th, 2013 at 6:36 AM

    It has seriously gotten so bad that I want to tell my girls that they have to get off that grid altogether.
    But how do you do that when all their friends are on and this cuts serious social ties to their friends and would leave them feeling like they are missing out on major things?

  • Sherry

    August 20th, 2013 at 2:51 PM

    It is about keeping the lines of communication open with your children. Use this blog as a vehicle to create a dialogue as to what is happening in their lives, are they feeling bullied in school, how are they feeling about their relationships with peers, and gauge where their self esteem is at allowing them to vent their deepest feelings to you. It is also about creating boundaries around using the internet and monitoring their activity when they are on line. Also, know where your children are, who their friends are, and what they are up to. You will be surprised how much you can learn when you begin to pay close attention to their activities. Most of all, don’t be afraid to use your instincts. If you know there is something wrong, seek professional help for your child.

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