My Approach to Helping
My Philosophy & approach is based on my personal experiences of having had four therapists myself, before becoming one, and all they offered was time for me to talk, with no insights as to what was causing my distress, and what skills I needed in order to get better and enjoy life more. As I continued on my own, collecting all the data I could that would give me insights, getting my degree (late in life), and studying the past psychotherapists' works and their conclusions about psychological problems, I made it my goal to help others avoid the waste of time and money I went through, as best as I could.
Consequently, I have found that I have the personality and intuition necessary to help my clients. My focus is based on S. Freud, C. Jung, F. Perls, and Albert Ellis, and others. They instilled in me the focus of analyzing the influence of non-conscious memories and beliefs that continue to create thought, emotional, and behavioral problems that the individual coming for help is not aware of happening. The purpose of my psychotherapy is analyzing your "thought behaviors", and is primarily based "Cognitive Behavior Theory", "Attachment Theory", "Codependency Addiction", and "Dialectical Behavior Therapy" approaches.
It is based on the theory that your thoughts and perceptions about who you are, or who you believe "should be", are based on unresolved trauma of some sort; and those flawed belief patterns are causing your emotional conflicts in your relationships; and your relationship with your identity and your Self. My focus is on identity-formation and developmental problems that can be creating your anxieties and fears that appear most often when you interact with other people: spouses, partners, family, friends, parents, relatives, career and employment relationships, etc.
What you will be taught, and what my is approach is based on, is the principle that your current stresses are based on those repressed or currently unconscious traumas, that are being hidden by your symptoms. You will benefit from the help of a psychotherapist like me to analyze and identify which of those faulty core beliefs are hidden by those repressed feelings or denied memories. In your case, it helps to have someone who knows what to look for as far as psychological patterns that reveal the probable mistaken conclusions you have been taught about yourself. My Psychotherapy begins by hearing how you perceive yourself, and how you describe your symptoms.
Your dysfunctional thinking is a "Disorder", it is not an "Illness", unless your problem is a medical one. Your 'thinking and feeling is "dis-orderly" because it is partially unconscious, so your automatic behaviors don't make sense, thereby preventing change. Once we reorganize your mistaken and irrational thought patterns, you will progressively get better on your own. There are only so many conditions in the psychological literature and texts, and yours is probably not unique nor new; so there are answers and solutions. Recovery time from past traumas takes some people longer than others, and depends on how strongly repressed or denied their problems are at the moment. That factor will determine the length of time for their treatment outcome. The first stage of the psychotherapy is analysis, the second is the therapy stage, where you learn Mindfulness, Emotional Regulation, Distress Tolerance, or Interpersonal Relationships. My area is Anxiety and Mood Disorders, and how they relate to Personality Disorders. Although I work with all types, I do have favorable experiences with helping Introverted Personality Type individuals who may always experience feeling shy, hypersensitive to overstimulating environments, and who prefer quiet solitude over noisey socializing; there is a very good reason they feel that way.